I'm 13 and I go to Junior High, and a time ago, I had few friends, people didn't seemed to notice me, I was totally out the cool gang.
But after I changed my hairstyle and started to look cute, everybody looks at me, boys turn their head to see me walk, lots of girls want to talk to me, I made a lot of new friends and the popular kids became friends with me.
The jocks made a contest to choose the hottest girl in 7th grade and I won and everybody seems to like me. In other words, I became very popular.
I think that's shallow, I became popular after I looked better?
I just want to say I didn't changed my looks to be popular, I just changed it to feel good.
2006-11-26 08:39:59 · 31 answers · asked by keen 3 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
Hey, you're popular! Maybe you can change the way people act at your school for good.
2006-11-26 08:41:54 · answer #1 · answered by Maddy 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if you changed for yourself then you did the right thing.. and sadly in Middle school.. teens can judge a person by their apperance, it is if you have to look good to be accepted... One day though those kids that did act shallow like that will be in for a rude awakening... You on the other hand have been on both sides ya know.. so now if you ever see someone who just doesnt look like they fit in, you can be the first to be-friend them.. popular kids can be scary to those not in their group. You can be the much better person and just be friends with everyone... I never had a group.. I talked to whoever I wanted to regardless of their apperance.. Apperance shoudl never matter... its what is inside a person that is the most important!
2006-11-26 08:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad but true. Looks are what get you popularity in junior high and in high school. It's good to hear that although you became popular, you still remember where you came from and how you got there. In college, you'll learn that smarts are way more attractive than looks. People in junior high and high school are shallow because they're not in tune with real life yet. They still live in this lttle fantasy world that is based on school. Everything they do revolves around school. Friendships are all centered around school. Guys are gonna be guys. They're attracted to girls that look good. Girls probably wanted to be friends with you because they want some of your attractiveness to rub off on them. I used to see this in my high school all the time. Ugly girls had a lot of confidence because they hung out with the attractive girls. It's kinda shallow but they're just trying to fit in.
2006-11-26 08:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by J3Buckets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's awesome that you have more friends now, but unfortunately, people are shallow at all ages... even when you're an adult (I'm 24). I just hope you're being careful and making sure these people are your friends because they like YOU and not because they want to be the one that hangs out with the "popular girl".
2006-11-26 08:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's because a lot of the time (especially in today's society), teenagers are spoonfed the media and pop idols that have no talent but have the looks. It's everywhere you go nowadays.
I'm a teenager who HATES it, so I am usually in the "unpopular" group. It seems that if you don't have the looks or latest fashions, you don't have anything (or so they think).
It's the way things will be until someone decides enough is enough.
2006-11-26 08:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by browncoat_llama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you that you changed for you and not for others. If you feel better than you did a good thing. As or everybody else.. thats a teen life sweetie. Its the time where everyone wants to fit in and you havent yet found your true identity.. just live life and enjoy your friends but be who you are and dont change k?
2006-11-26 08:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by ahuga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately today's teens, in my opinion believe the media (magazines,television,movies,music videos,commercials, etc.) is right about looks. That they are the more important than personality and character. Some people turn to good looking people because of their own insecurities. Just be true to yourself and maybe you could confront some people on why they started to be nice to you ever since you started looking cuter. Just be yourself and don't get caught up in how amazing you look but on how you treat others. :-D
2006-11-26 08:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by music_lvr29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not shallow nor do I insult somebody interior of moments with the aid of their seems. confident, I observe some flaws, yet who would not? and that i don't say any difficulty approximately it till they are requesting help approximately something. i don't choose human beings and if I do, if cant particularly substitute based off of their strikes. i don't carry issues against human beings. i don't hate everyone and discover that dislike is senseless. character ability greater then seems. it somewhat is who you're, visual attraction would not do this for you. individuals are shallow because of the fact they are in basic terms that way and you notice it greater in adolescents because of the fact they at the instant are not completely mature. it somewhat is organic and in basic terms wish is they improve out of it. ?
2016-10-13 04:02:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to say that all teens are shallow, but they are to a large extent. Unfortunately, adults tend to be shallow too. Looks are, for some odd reason, as important if not sometimes more so than how a person acts or how intelligent they are in our society. It sucks, but image tends to important. I'd love to see that changed, but there's no quick fix for it.
2006-11-26 08:58:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u r very nice! And I am 15 my life is kinda like that, but from middleschool i had some friends, and in Tech i have like a bill. But didn't change my looks it's just met new people!
2006-11-26 08:47:30 · answer #10 · answered by pimp132 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me... it gets better after high school
Do keep in mind though, when lookign at a guy would be more inclined to approach the creepy looking guy who doesn't shower, or the clean guy who is chatting with alot of people... It is a matter of you now lok more approachable, and yeah it is shallow
2006-11-26 08:42:27 · answer #11 · answered by gg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋