I'm 6 weeks pregnant, and there is no way i can keep the baby at this time. We live on a dairy farm, and if i would have this baby, i'd never see my husband as he would be busy doing my chores and his. So basically i would be a single mother except with someone to pay for everything. And i don't want to make my husband do all the extra work, but i also know we cant aford to pay someone to work for us, and i cant do tractor work with a baby. I also know i cant afford to pay someone to watch my baby everyday for long hours, so the only option i have left is abortion. I would think about adoption, but i know i wouldnt be able to give my baby away when i had it. I dont want to do it, but i cant see how it would work, yes it could work, but it just wouldnt be fair for the rest of the family as well. So i was woundering, how much planned parenthood charge for abortions, and if anyone has gone through one.
2006-11-26 08:34:35 · 15 answers · asked by JB 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you are set on not keeping the baby, consider adoption. There are many families out there that can't have children and want to desperately. You would have no expenses as a lot of the adoptive families will pay for the birth expenses as well.
However, do you really think you are the only person who is in this situation? There are thousands of farming families out there and they have been able to go through this without the extreme of abortion. I agree you should talk with your husband and if he thinks that abortion is the best thing, I would say leave him as he isn't thinking of you or the baby you created together.
2006-11-26 08:41:12 · answer #1 · answered by kara3967 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
I understand that you think that this is not the time for you to have a baby. Talk to your husband. What about the grandparents helping out by watching the baby. Both my family and my husbands come from people who had farms. One family had 5 kids; the other 2. Talk to the planned parenthood people and make sure that you know all the consequences of having an abortion, including the emotional aftermath. Whatever you decide, I wish you well.
2006-11-26 08:40:16 · answer #2 · answered by kny390 6 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Consider other options such as finding a way to work from home. You could do transcription or other kinds of secretarial services while the baby is sleeping (newborns sleep a LOT). If you want to find out more about this, Google "Virtual Assistant". I did this for four years while my babies were tiny. You can work as little or as much as you want and most VAs charge between $20 and $50 an hour, depending on the work and your experience.
Or, you could trade babysitting with other women near your home, so you could work a few days a week at farm work, then care for your baby and other babies or toddlers in your home on the other days.
You could also bite the bullet and try for some public assistance. It is not meant to be a way of life, but is meant to give people in need a leg up when things get tough. There is no shame in this, and I hope you would be able to manage any feelings like this for the sake of your baby. If you are uninsured, try MedicAid, then go to WIC for formula, diapers, and other important foods for a healthy child and mother. There are many more programs, but I think you get the picture.
I final loving option would be adoption. It is the most selfless and life-affirming thing you can do if you feel as though you just can't raise your baby yourself. PLEASE consider that.
I hope you can see that things can work out if you are creative and willing to do whatever it takes to make it through. You will be happy that you made the sacrifice in the future. Just think of how proud you will be of yourself and how strong you will feel for having made it through this tough time in one piece! Please consider your options before making such a monumental life and death decision.
God bless you, your husband, and your baby.
2006-11-26 08:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I'd really talk this one over with your husband before committing. It sounds to me like you aren't 100% certain and abortion is not something for someone who isn't sure. If there's ANY chance you'd like to keep the baby, you can try to look into some state welfare, WIC, and possibly some programs for rural and farming communities.
Is it possible for you to take a job outside the home to raise some money?
Also, I'd highly reccomend you call Planned Parenthood because they can help you through this hard decision.
2006-11-26 08:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by Amy F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't have an abortion.. Call around for an adoption... There are alot of family's out there that would love to adopt your baby... Just remember that there are alot of people that cant have baby's so why don't do your self a fav. and give up the child instead of taking the child's life. That baby deserves life.. You might want to have a abortion but please think of what is best for that child and save your self the pain of knowing that you could have changed your mind if you go through with it... You might not be able to forgive your self... There are alot of adoption agency's that provide everything that you need... So please for the love of that child choose pro-life... there is a hot line that you can call... 1-800-Adoption its a 24hour hot line give them a call!!!! I'll pray for you and God bless!!!
2006-11-26 08:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by JessJess 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Planned parenthood charges you on a sliding V scale meaning if you make 20 dollars they might charge you 1 dollar if you make 100 dollars they might charge you 10. If you cant afford abortion at all they will try to assist you for free. Abortion does not hurt and if you go to planned parenthood and talk to them they can answer ALL your questions. Good luck!
Also dont let any Pro-lifers on her talk you out of this. Its is YOUR Body, Morals, Ut*rus, sexuality and above all LIFE!!
2006-11-28 12:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by mommysforever.org 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please consider all options before making a decision on this. I know in your situation it must be hard. Make no mistake about it though this is a decision you will have to live with. Do not let the pro lifers sway you. If they truly care as much as they would lead you to believe I challenge just 1 of them...Margret....to say I will take your child to raise as my own. All you will ever hear from them is garbage.
By the way, I would be happy to help in any way possible. My wife & I would be willing to have a third child. Good luck however you decide.
2006-11-27 08:02:59 · answer #7 · answered by U can't b serious 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think of its incorrect at that time in being pregnant, i had a miscarriage at 22 weeks and that i had 2 provide beginning to my little female then bury her and yea on the interior she wasn't totally formed yet on the exterior she regarded like another regular infant
2016-10-04 09:42:52 · answer #8 · answered by regula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decide to go to one of those abortion clinics, just watch those protestor idiots. Its your life and body, and the way I see it, you have the right to do what you need to do.
I dont have information as to where you are at, or I would do what I could to help you out, but from my experience, try google, and even google local which can help you find businesses based on what they do as well as names... google local is located here
http://local.google.com/
I dont judge anyone on their actions, I will support you on this matter, I know you will need it.
Good luck, and have a good evening.
2006-11-26 08:41:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Give it some thought before you make this big decision. You need to make this decision with your husband. What does he think of it?
2006-11-26 08:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by ginger13 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋