This is the second time ive fallen for a close friend! Is there something wrong with me???

Question

The guys are clearly just jokey and just pals with me - they arent flirty or anything - JUST REALLY FUNNY and sometimes too open about things
they even talk about other girls with me and make fun of me when i mess up, but at the same time, are genuine friends in times of sadness.

Ive ended up falling for a friend like this again - this is the second time, and i have a feeling that its a habit, because the guys seem not to have these feelings for me, yet i have these feelings for them! (at different times)

How could i stop falling for my close guy mates??? I havent managed to have a close platonic friendship with any guy so far - my feelings get the better of me! why do i keep doing that!?

Answer 1

i do this ALOT too!
i really know how you feel! i think that...well...for me its because i get to know them really well and i just can't help but ot fall for them.
So no, nothing is wrong with you!!
we really dont know if guys feel the same way...which makes me mad...lol..but this happens, i think, because we become really good friends that we want to be something more. thats how it feels for me. i think its normal....as long as its not like just because you want someone or because your desprate. if its real...its normal.
hope i helped!
~ALSO~
i try not to say anything in fear it will ruin what we already had. if you feel comfortable that it wont change things, you should tell him how you feel.

Answer 2

There's nothing wrong with you, I've fallen for girl mates in the past.

Whenever men and women are around each other there's a good chance that someone is going to fall for somebody. I love it when a girl I've known for a while as a friend suddenly means more to me, especially if I find out she feels the same way. It's like waking up and everything's the same, except it's different and more smiley. :)

Answer 3

There's nothing wrong with you, I've done it twice in the past couple of years.
The thing is is that guys don't judge in the same way so you're more inclined to get to know them, be more open and so on so they gradually start to feel the same when they're around you.
Because in most actual relationships you have with men, they aren't willing to open up, you like the vulnerability and the way you act around each other with your male friends and find that more attractive in a man!

Answer 4

well trust me there is nothing wrong with u,ive had the same problem,my guess that we fall for our close friends is because,since we are so close and know so much about each other that u kuikly find things in them u like alot and the fact u hang out with them makes ur feelings even stronger,well my advice would be to just try to hang out with them a little less and try to focus on other guys.good luck with that!

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with it.

You tend to fall for mates cos you know their ups and downs.. You know alot about them and they're there for you and your their for them.
Its always good to have a relationship with friendship, it means youz can talk comfortably and are more open with each other..

Also.. If youz are friends first.. And youz split. There is more chance to re-gain your friendship as youz were friends first. so there was things about each other that made youz want to be friends.
I have had relationships with alot of my friends.. And I am still really close to them all.. Even one i had a GREAT deal of feelings for..

There is nothing wrong with falling for mates or freinds first...
So dont bully yourself!

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Answer 6

hi
i have some idea of ehy you are falling for your male friends. not alll guys have feelings towards you because they may be shy or they might think your just a firend to them. nut dont let that put you down. although we have not met before i think that you sound like a really nice person and you should concenrate on just being friends rather than being hurt agian. and you are not affraid to exsperiance your feelings for boys which is a conferdence boost for you and a nervous time for them.
hope this helps you from john

Answer 7

Well. Being friends with a future partner before hand is something most people long for. It can be tough though, when the feeling isn't reciprocated. Just hope that it will one day and you'll be on top of the world....Good luck...

Answer 8

theres nothing wrong in falling for your best mate i did after a 1 year of friendship and seven years on and 3 years wed we are still together.
with a friend you let your guard down there is no pretence and what you see is what you get.

look at what it is that they have that you fall for ie nice kind, loves fluffy animals, crys at sad films or is just there when you need them.

Answer 9

Isn't it better to fall for a friend than a complete stranger? At least then you know something about the person and they might indeed have the qualities you're looking for in someone.

I don't think you are unusual, and I wish you luck. : )

Answer 10

friendships are a fantastic basis for love. of course it is easy to fall for friends. why would you be friends with someone you did not like in the first place? so it is easy to fall for them.
sometimes it will work out , sometimes it wont. you fall for them because they make you feel happy and safe and secure. it is not as scary as starting out with someone you barely know. don't be so hard on yourself about it.
my best relationships have always been with people i was friends with first. you grow and change together. i am now married to someone i was friends with for 5/6 years before i fell for him. he had feelings for me for years before that.so it CAN work out.