we live with my parents...so i understand him having to pitch in around the house, but i will make plans with him a week in advance...and then the day we are supposed to do whatever he will cancel to go hunting with my dad or brother or want to go out with his friends...or offer to work an extra shift! it really bothers me and i've made that clear...i work 50 hours a week, so i really only have the weekends to spend with him...but he'd rather do something else! what can i do?!?!?!?!?!
2006-11-26 08:20:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I DO NOT WANT MY MARRIAGE TO END. I LOVE MY HUSBAND. VERY MUCH. HE'S FAITHFUL AND WE'RE BOTH DEVOTE CHRISTIANS...I JUST WANT TO KNOW IF I SHOULD LIKE "GROUND HIM" OR SIT HIM DOWN AND GIVE HIM A GOOD TALKING TO!
2006-11-26 08:30:11 · update #1
Well, first you need to get your own place. Its a lot of pressure for him to please everyone. Men are all about trying to do it all and someone always suffers. He figures you are his wife and you will understand
2006-11-26 08:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to get out of that house so that you two are alone. He feels a need to stay out of the house. Why I couldn't pinpoint, but there is some reason he doesn't like to be there. I doubt it has to do with you, just the situation. Get out of there, make it the two of you, and he'll come around.
2006-11-26 16:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by flashpro 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first you need to tell him just the way you feel. then talk to your folks.it that dose not work. try not being around at all, don't be their for him. don't cook his meal, wash his clothes bedroom duties, these are jobs a wife dose. i had the same problem, husband was always waiting around for someone in his family to call him for something never had anytime for me. so i let him have the same lesson .trust me he understood that i need him too.
2006-11-26 16:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by chadae06 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go with the 1st answer, she is the most knowledgeable. I was going to answer your question, however she said it best. I will add one thing though, read Corinthians. Neither of you have left your parents, or family to concentrate on your marriage. You cannot be successful if you haven't maintained any independence from your family. Beit in-laws or maternal.
2006-11-26 17:15:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This may sound trite but build a life of your own, completely seperate from him, and when he wants you, be too busy for him.
Then, when it ends, because it will I can tell, you'll have a nice life laid out for yourself and it won't bother you as much when he's gone.
Good luck.
2006-11-26 16:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dr. Laura's book "the proper care and feeding of husbands"
2006-11-26 16:26:00 · answer #6 · answered by Al Bundy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This shows MAJOR disrespect which also leads to cheating. You said he would rather do something else or maybe someone else.
Kick him out of your parents home. Find someone who can buy you your own home, and show you respect.
2006-11-26 16:26:49 · answer #7 · answered by Credit Expert 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
doesnt sound like he wants to be married, sounds like he is buddies with your family and then comes home for some nookie,
better sit down and put out some rules, otherwise I do not see this relationship lasting much longer
2006-11-26 16:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Get your own place, your husband is fitting in to well with your family. He thinks he is still single.
2006-11-26 16:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋