Parents old fashioned and won't allow make up?

Question

I'm a teen, 15. And you all know girls my age wear make up. But expect when my 21 year old sister is home and lets me use hers, my parents won't even talk about me using make up. Mostly cause I'm the youngest and my parents still think I'm 5.

How do I talk to them about letting me wear make up (and while I'm at it, slightly more mature clothes) without them freaking out?

Answer 1

Bring up the fact that you are getting older, and with that they need to treat you like that, express to them that you are responsible

Answer 2

Talk to them and have a decent conversation without sounding like you're trying to argue. Tell them in my school all these girls look beautiful and stunning and they all wear make-up and pretty clothes. Then say I feel left out because I'm the only one that's plain and I feel like you're treating me like some kind of 5 year old. I'm already grown up and I was trying to push this aside because I thought maybe at age 15 you will let me wear make-up. But you are still treating me like a baby.
--There are strict parents that will STILL not let you wear make-up. "It's for your own good." They always say that. Sometimes it's true but all parents have hearts. They're going to think about what you said time and time again and they'll give in by saying some weird stuff which you'll notice is their way of saying sorry you can start wearing SLIGHT make-up. Then hug them and kiss them and get good grades and be nice to them.

Answer 3

First I want to point out that you think the word mature just means older, it actually means your mind has grown up, not just your body. And so by wearing what you'd call "slightly more mature clothes" is actually probably less mature and just trying to copy every other person out there (most of them are messed up in one way or another).

Wearing make-up for you is fine but you shouldn't use the excuse everyone else does it, they don't want you to be like everyone else and mess your life up before you even know what it is. As you are older you grow aware of things more and so have more options in life.

Stopping you wearing these things that you want is there way of protecting you from the outside society. You need to convince your parents that you are mature enough to know what you are doing and who to be around. Not to copy everyone else but to be yourself as much as you can, and convince them why you want make-up.

By nature looking good/healthy is part of Male and Female nature and is to attract the opposite sex for Recreation..(having babies). And so you need to convince your parents that you aren't wearing make-up and more "mature clothes" because of guys, but because it makes you feel good about yourself.

The only other thing you could really do is convince them that you are different to how they were when they were your age and don't wanna copy the old rules that they are following (which is boring).

Answer 4

DONT DO THINGS BEHIND YOUR PARENTS BACK

I know the all caps wasn't necessary, but its really important that you listen. Sure its make-up now, but one day you might want to try other things, and if you're not up front with your parents, they'll never give you the respect you deserve.

As for right now, I suggest you try make-up that isn't really make-up. For example, cherry chapstick. I use it all the time, and its got a cute tint to it. Also, tinted moisturizers give your face a more even look.

I hope by slightly more mature clothes, you don't mean skimpy things. Skimpy clothes aren't mature, they just mean you want to show off your body, which is fine, but your parents obviously are protective, and you're going to give them a hard time.

Tips for talking to them: Be up front. Sounds easy, but it will be incredibly difficult, trust me. And negotiate until you can't anymore. Get them to settle on one thing, and be as reasonable as possible. "If you let me wear eyeliner, I'll only wear it ..., and in exchange I will..."

Answer 5

One thing at a time - don't discuss the clothes and makeup together. Part of what scares your parents is that makeup means you're getting older, which means you're going to naturally distance yourself from them (as we all do). Watch your mom while she's putting on her makeup. Pretend you really don't get it and ask her to explain what she's doing. Say that you don't think it would look good on you - I bet she'll offer to show you. When you're at the store, grab some makeup while you're walking by, hold it out to your mom and tell her you don't understand it at all. What would someone do with this? Lipstick - wouldn't you just lick it right off? How do people put eyeliner on so straight? She'll be happy to explain it to you. The less threatening the idea is to them, the more likely they are to let up on their strict rules.

Answer 6

Try starting out by agreeing on limits, then work on expanding those limits.

Do your parents let you wear chapstick? If so, then why not lipgloss?

Ask if you can wear concealer when you get a blemish.

Ask if you can wear makeup that they can't see (start out with natural looks).

As for the clothes, my mom used to be pretty conservative about it. Again, set clear rules. I'm not sure what you're allowed to wear. Obviously, you can't wear revealing clothes because it is winter and you will get cold. Try shopping for clothes with your friends and picking your own clothes. During summer, get your parents to expand their rules a little (e.g., if you are allowed to wear tank tops, ask about spaghetti straps).

I hope I helped!

Answer 7

first of all make sure you are a responsible teen.clothes are a different issue with me..I'm a 33 yr. old mom...I don't like seeing teenagers dressed as hoochie mamas or pole dancers.the makeup deal is different...ask them if it would be o.k if you could start off wearing light makeup.light browns and neutral colors. ask your mom if you could be taken to a beauty counter at the mall so they can show you and her ways to wear makeup suitable for your age. and then let them make over you

Answer 8

I think just talk to them calmly dont rasie ur voice and be nice and polite about it. Just be like mom can I make some more mature decisions in my life and then say you know i think its fair that u let me wear make up and let me decide on what colthes i wear. And if this doesnt work then im sorry sweety.

Answer 9

i know how you feel, i was 15 once too! sit down with your mom (she will probably be more receptive to the idea of you wearing makeup than your dad) and come to a compromise of what is acceptable in your home and/or at school...for example, lip gloss and a bit of mascara for starters, then proceed from there...good luck!

Answer 10

Well- makeup does clog pours so you might be better off not wearing any,,,- besides you are 15!! You have young, bright, lovely skin- nothing to "cover up" or hide... so do you really need make up???

And for the clothes..Remember mature and half naked are completely diffrent. You may be getting older- but stick to the modest clothing

Answer 11

heyy! i hadd the sameee problem.... and it is possible to get ur parents to let you wear makeup... start out small.. eyeliner and lipgloss.. NOT dark eyeliner.. start out light.. so its barely noticeable and then slowly work your way up... blush...bronzer..foundation.. eyeshadow.. if you start slow the parents will be able to get used to it.. another way is to get a hold of some of ur sisters makeup.. the LIGHT stuff.. like pinks and browns... and use it sparingly.. your still wearing it all butt its not noticeable... thats what i did... and slowly i worked my way up. and within a couple of months.. i had a drawer full of makeup! i even shared some of the stuff with my mom ahaha its works. dont worry about it.. your parents will get used to it...goodluck!!