My mom called me a b**** and I called her an idiot. I then got grounded for what i said. does this make sence?

Answer 1

The whole situation doesn't really make sense. Ask yourself what you did to make her call you that. The other posters are right in that you should have respect for your mom and not call her names but she should also be teaching you respect by not calling you names. The two of you need to talk about this and resolve the underlying issue. Whatever it is that you did to make her call you what she called you, that's the root of your current situation and that needs to get addressed. Why did you do it? Why was she so angry at you that she forgot you're her daughter and call you names? You reacted to her calling you what she called you but something precipitated that situation and you two need to hash that out. Then, you have to apologize to her for doing what you did and calling her what you called her. Only then, you can then tell her that you didn't appreciate what she called you. It's not right, but she is your mom and she's going to look at you as the less powerful of the two as long as you continually act like a child and react and cause her to react. If you talk to her like an adult, woman to woman, in a calm, assertive, respectful manner, hopefully, she'll see you maturing and mature herself. Then you guys won't be calling each other names and you won't be grounded. However, if that doesn't happen and in some future point she does call you a name, you take a deeep breath, DON'T say anything, turn around and walk away. She's your mom and you have to learn how to deal with her in a respectable manner and if you want respect, you have to demand it by treating others in the way you want to be treated.

Answer 2

obviously there was an argument in progress and you give no details what started it, so this is going to be kind of general.

It was no doubt childish of your mother to call you what she did, and it is true I don't know any of the circumstances at all, but it does take two to tango, as they say. The thing to remember is that you cannot control what someone else does. You can only control your response to it.

In that lies the key to making a better life for yourself today.

Let's look at this particular fragmentary event you have described. No calling you a ***** was not a nice thing to do. But calling your mom an idiot probably was not the most productive response you could have made either.

There are alternatives. Maybe you should have simply said mom, that really hurts my feelings. I'm going to go to my room now so I can be alone. If you're in a home where relationships are healthy, I think this response would not get you into any hot water, and would convey how hurtful the comment is.

However, if there is violence in your home, then I think you may need to seek outside help, from a school counselor or someone trained in relationships.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Your sentence doesn't make sense. But I know what your asking. No, she probably shouldn't call you that, but here is the bottom line. She's your mother. You MUST show her respect. She brought you into this world, and is responsible for you and your actions until you are18. I used to tell my son this and it works for you too. If it wasn't for your parents, you'd be a stain on a sheet. Show them respect. Because you disagree with them is no reason to disrespect them. When you do, you deserve to be punished. Understand and accept that, and not only will you get in less trouble, you'll understand them better.

Answer 4

Yes. Because your mom is the BOSS. Granted she sounds immature! Instead of calling her an idiot...you should have told her very nicely that you don't appreciate her calling you names. That would have stopped her in her tracks!

Answer 5

yes because it is your mother,she might be having a bad day.parents do call there kids names but when you call them names and yell at them you will get into trouble.it has been like that for many years.just take it with a grain of salt and next time she calls you that say thank you and not yell at her and you won't get grounded and see what she thinks after that. if it hard being a kid alot of things won't make since but when you get older you will understand.... good luck.

Answer 6

well, your mom was out of place to call you that, and her being your mother whether she disrespected you or not, you were out of your place to call her an idiot. you're lucky you only got grounded, my momma would've hit me across the face nearly knocking me out and then punish me. i would never say something like that to my mom because she brought me in and she can take me out. that is very low of your mom to say something like that of you, you should talk to her about that.

Answer 7

Name calling on both sides is childish
She is your Mother and you have to do as she tells you.
It is not right that she grounded you but that is her way.
Next time don't call her any bad names and you will be fine
with her..

Answer 8

No that DOESN'T make sense. Because she sweared at you while you only called her an idiot. I mean, what kind of mom calls her own child a b****!?

Answer 9

yes, perfect sence your mom is in charge, and eventhough she used some unfortunate language, you probably provoked her, so go and appologize to your mom.

Answer 10

First of all, both of you guys are wrong! Even if the adult thought they were making the right chocie, the wernt. You two should both say sorry too each other, even if it still hurts.