I've spent my life traveling, doing adventure sports and making a living any way I could. I somehow never met Ms. Right in my travels, that life is mostly a man's world. So now I'm approaching midlife and feeling horrible whenever I have dinner with a friend who has a happy family. Anyone else feeling a reverse midlife crisis?
2006-11-26 07:52:13 · 15 answers · asked by tenbadthings 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah...
I have felt a lot of regret over what I didn't do, the family I could have had...
Its hard, I've had a pretty good life, done a lot of things...
But now I spend a lot of time with my niece and nephews, I see folks with their kids, and I...
I think I was wrong... I had fun... but it wasn't worth it...
I wish I had made different choices, not done the things I did, not dumped that would be perfect wife... I've known a few... and they're happily married, have kids...
I made a choice, and now I regret that choice.
So I guess I am having a reverse midlife crisis.
Thank you - didn't have a name for it...
-dh
2006-11-26 08:02:04 · answer #1 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I don't understand "that life is mostly a man's world" that you wrote. I think people do have reverse mid-life crisis as you can it. the mid-life crisis is when you evaluate your life, where/what you are/doing and where you want to go. I would not be so quick to think your friends that are married and have families are all satisfied in their situations. I was married for 26 yrs. and appeared to have the perfect situation and then - the midlf. and I got out. I now am much happier than I have ever been. Sounds like you know where you want to be so go for it. There could be many factors involved - like why haven't you met the right girl? What exactly do you want - security in a relationship - to be wanted/needed? Are you sending the message out to females that you are looking? Men's Health Magazine put out a booklet on how to get dates. Do you date? Are you looking at the right kind of woman, etc.? There is a match-making service that advertising on TV all the time and I just can not think of the name of it?? Anyway they show these couples getting married, etc. Well I have talked with a lot of people who have been involved in different things like this and many have said that they tried this one and it was wonderful. I have met three people that are in fact getting married to the person they meet thru them. Maybe that would be a place to start? I think you are in fact in the crisis part of life but are on your way out now up to you to make it happen and reverse the crisis.
2006-11-26 08:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by camolentot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate how people will continually say mid existence disaster as an excuse. that's a midlife betrayal. They understand their existence is 0.5 over and what have they performed with it? they prefer to move loopy and do issues they were too scared to do earlier. They see there life like a seem in a reflect and could not admit this is them. so that they betray. Their existence and in many situations spouse and develop right into a very different individual all mutually. Then on the right at the same time as they see each and every of the blunders they have made-it rather is the disaster.
2016-11-26 23:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not that old yet so I don't think that I can call it a midlife crisis, maybe a quarter life...lol.... but yea I think I know what you are talking about. Like all of a sudden I would like to settle down. It's never to late to start a family though, if that is what you really want. I still wouldn't refer to it as a crisis though... just a change in your perceptions of life. :)
2006-11-26 07:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really know if your friends have happy families. You might make assumptions because this is what you think you want now.
What is wrong with living life, cataloguing experiences and then making the decision to settle down. You will be a better mate, a better parent and have patience and understanding that only time and experience gives us.
There are lots of singles but you already know this.
Live this part of your life as happily as you lived the first part and with as much vitality. I think you have a lot to offer someone.
2006-11-26 08:03:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, I felt that way. I felt that way for years, and then ended up getting married and having a family.
I think it was the right thing to do. If I want something, I deserve to have it.
2006-11-26 08:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by Aurora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I have never ever gone through that and I don't expect to. Listen, you are the one who chose the care free life...But who knows, maybe one day you too will have the wife and family, only if you want it for yourself.
2006-11-26 07:55:58 · answer #7 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope
I just turned 43.
I think up for more the standard wild normal kind.
I don't need the fast car though but I do crave the women.
2006-11-26 07:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Sorry.
2006-11-26 07:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by Allyson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, been there and back, and I am not in the mid-life crisis yet. Yikes..........!
2006-11-26 07:54:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋