He' my ex-boyriend. I'm 17, he's 19. I think That a true friend should always be there.
2006-11-26 07:47:16 · 15 answers · asked by hunnybee032001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think your Mom is just worried about you and that you may pursue the relationship again when he gets out. I honestly think she's got your best interest in mind. Tell her that you are strictly friends and have no desire to get back together with him. But also remember that when someone is incarcerated they are very lonely and will latch on to anyone who writes or pays them attention. Just be careful but don't blame your Mom. She's just trying to keep her daughter safe.
2006-11-26 09:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is concerned about her daughter having a relationship with a convict. I can't say I blame her. I would bet she's hoping you'll find new friends who have little chance of getting thrown in jail. She may also fear he'll no longer be your 'ex' when he gets out of jail. You need to talk to her and let her know what's going on with your relationship. You're 17 & she's your mom. She's doing exactly what she's supposed to be doing.
That being said ... If this is not some kind of romance or rebellion and you are really his friend and are looking to be there for him - You should be allowed to write him. But, give your mom some respect - let her see what you're writing and what he's written you. She needs to know you'll be safe. You owe her that.
2006-11-26 07:52:57 · answer #2 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 17 so you still have to listen to her. And it really depends on what he is in prison for, and what his attitude is. Has he learned a lesson or is this his new found career? I agree he really does need a friend right now, and letters are probably helpful. However, your mother is looking out for your best interest and probably does not want you hung up on some man who may spend the rest of his life running in and out of prison. That is no life and she obviously wants much better for you. Because she loves you. Good luck and God bless****
2006-11-26 07:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your decision. But remember, you are who you hang with. your friends reflect what kind of person you are.
Family is one things, but friends are another. Also, because he is your ex-boyfriend, your Mom might think that you still have romantic feelings for this loser, something I wouldn't doubt. Remember, whatever he did, he put himself int he position he is in.
I think your Mom is trying to prevent you from ending up with a guy like that. You sound like a nice girl. Find a nice guy.
2006-11-26 07:50:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs.Gaddis 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of "help" does he want? If he's asking for money, don't do it. Women are used for money by convicts, and they brag about this while in prison. If he wants you to write him, maybe send him some magazines or something like that, then maybe it's OK. I think a lot of it also depends on what he did. If it is a violent crime, please run, don't walk, away. Please try to understand that you mother loves you and only wants what is best for you.
2006-11-26 07:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom is probably just worried you will get hurt somehow. Don't be too hard on her.
If you both get something out of your letters then continue to write them. Don't write him out of guilt or obligation.
2006-11-26 07:50:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's your mother, which means she doesnt want you involved with criminals. She wants a better life for you than that. Would you want your daughter mixed up with criminals? You should listen to her. If this friend is old enough to commit a crime, then he is old enough to deal with the consequences.
2006-11-26 07:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's probably afraid you will get back together, and she doesn't want a future like that for you!!
As long as you just stay FRIENDS, I don't see a problem.
2006-11-26 07:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. Howver, after he gets out and if he continues to screw up, it is best to break off the relationship so as not to be caught up in his nonsense (which you will eventually). Meanwhile, give him your support 100%!
2006-11-26 07:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep writing to him..if you were friends before he was incarcerated then there should be no problem...longs he keeps his bad habits and behaviour away from you it should be ok.
2006-11-26 07:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋