I`m a sophmore in highschool and feel lonely most times. I suffer from shyness and feel ackward even among my friends. There are some people I want to hang out with, boys and girls, but they seem close and I just feel totally ackward whenever I see them.
My crush is in that group. I talk to him almost everyday and I think he likes me as a friend, but I want to get closer to him and hang out with him. The main part of this whole problem is my shyness around practically everyone! I talk to myself to practice, but it never helps. I just freeze up when I`m with other people. What I`m trying to say is how do I open up and feel more comfortable around people, maybe make some new friends??
2006-11-26 07:46:03 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Dia- you could try finding something that the group has in common. There's always something to talk about when you have something in common with people. "Hey, has anyone seen the movie _________? What did you think?" ...Also, try inviting a few over to a small get together at your house. Having people over on your turf is a nice ice breaker. Offer snacks, soda, maybe a movie & popcorn. Something to bring friends together and hang out. Opening up is very difficult, especially at your age. You have to find common grounds. It helps with conversation. As far as being open, you have to feel comfortable speaking to people, and you have to be confident, in your ability and in yourself. Getting over being shy is hard. I believe that finding common interests is the key, in any grade level. Also, you might want to consider making a small change inyourself, something that will boost your self esteem, your confidence. Get a nice hair cut (nothing drastic), learn some new make up tips (from the gals behind the make up counters- they love doing make overs, and they're usually free). Small changes that improve your appearance, people notice, they compliment, and it boosts your own confidence. When you feel good about yourself, you tend to be more outgoing and will reach out to others without worry. As far as your crush, invite him to the movies, dutch treat, of course (this way it doesn't seem like a "date") Or- invite a few people along to the movies, along with your crush. Make sure you sit next to him, see how things go, if he's responsive to your advances or not. Invite him out for pizza, or a burger, somewhere neutral where you can talk and have a good laugh. Good luck, hon. I know it's hard.
2006-11-26 07:57:40 · answer #1 · answered by restless_nymph 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I totally feel the same way! I am a sophmore in highschool too, and i am going through the same problem! I con't know what to do either, i try not to be shy, but i am so self concious and worried about what people think of me. There is this guy that i like and he is in one of my classes and sits right next tome, he even talks to me and we are friends. But i really like him, and i know that he used to like me, but i'm not sure any more. I could never tell him though because i am so scared. I haven't told anybody. Take it from me, i know what your are going through!
2006-11-26 08:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Mals 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think part of the problem is that ur scared that ur gunna make a fool of urself or say the wrong thing. Well the best I can say is just forget that there new ppl and act like urself like when your talking to him. but not excatly. I think u get what i am trying to say. IF this doesnt work then girl just get over ur gut feeling and just think they like u and talk to them it doesnt matter what they think what matters is that u make a difference in your life cause you only live once.
2006-11-26 08:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right. talking to people is the hardest thing in the world to do.
lets take it from lunch.
start by sitting at your friends' table, near their table.
then when you see your friend in that group standing talking to a smaller group of those people, go talk, or just stand and listen with them.. laugh at the right times, exc.
after doing this a few times, you sit with them at lunch. Don't talk if your not comfortable, just sort of blend with them.
after like a few weeks, talk to a few other ppl in the group. Just sorta casually, ask a lot of questions (ppl love to talk about themselves)
Once you know a few people in the group as friends, even if there not close friends, talk a little at lunch.. not THAT much, just enough to keep the convorsation moving.. or to fill the needs of their attention span.
it DOES work.. give it, like, a month and your in the group. They won't even notice that you joind, theyll just think of you as always been in it =]
2006-11-26 08:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by itsALICE! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep talking to them daily. Eventually your shyness should ware off. It will take time but eventually you will be able to leave your worries behind you and move on with your life.
2006-11-26 07:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sammy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say your crush seems to like you also, some guy's realy go for shy girls, in that case your shyness becomes an asset, I hope you get your guy.
2006-11-26 08:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i will say you are not doing any thing wrong but try and give your self time before making new friends
2006-11-28 07:49:17 · answer #7 · answered by Akwa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. But I leave it behind!!! And you should do the same. GLad to help!!!
2006-11-26 07:50:37 · answer #8 · answered by Fashion Diva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋