2006-11-26 07:39:18 · 35 answers · asked by Fiesty K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
GET AWAY AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!!
Don't feel bad, just get away. This person is mentally unstable and needs intensive medication. You don't need to be blackmailed into staying with a loony-tune.
Tell them goodbye and good luck. THEN GO!
2006-11-26 07:41:13 · answer #1 · answered by thatwench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He is only being desperate and opening up the relationship to an emotionally abusive situation (on his end towards you).
I would call his parents and tell him that he may be suicidal and how he is threatening to kill himself now that you left. No matter how old he is, his family should know the situation just incase he is that silly about things.
Otherwise, move on. Change your phone numbers. Change your credit card numbers. Don't leave a forwarding address. Period. He might turn psycho given his little threat and you don't want to deal with that.
Oh, if you are teenagers, tell your parents the situation so they can further protect you (i.e. if he goes psycho, assist you in getting a restraining order).
2006-11-26 08:03:41 · answer #2 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats an ugly situation.
Don't allow yourself to be trapped by threats. Your significant other is disturbed, and trying to trap you. I've been there and its not pleasant. Its also not your responsibility.
If they seem serious about it - call 911 and have them 5150'd - they go to mental services and you have a chance to move on.
Definitely do not stay in the relationship. Its unhealthy for both of you, particularly your SO. S/He is either seriously trying to manipulate you, or is seriously disturbed.
You cannot help the person, if they are truly disturbed, only professionals can. And if they are trying to manipulate you, you need to get out as that is totally unhealthy for you.
Just my experience,
-dh
2006-11-26 07:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is is abusive behavior on his part, trying to take away your free will with horrible threats. But, he might just do it. Or he might try to take you with him. Put safety measures in place first, such as break up over the phone or have others in the room. Then if he threatens to harm himself call 9-1-1 promptly. That way either he will be embarrassed enough to stop playing creepy games or else the right people will be there to deal with it.
2006-11-26 08:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by ms.fruitbat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey fiesty
this is what i would do if i were you i would call the police up and file a police report saying what he told you he would do to him self
bye hurting him self.but he only saying this for you to stay but just in case he is serious about this i would file a police report so if he does it would clear you if he does any thing to his self and state in the police report when you are planing on leaving him.and when you do leave never call him or have any contact with him a gain because he going to pull the same **** on you again as he is doing know.that is what i would do and dont let him scare you.you have your own life to life and you deserve to be happy in life like any one else.good luck
2006-11-26 08:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by little_bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to ignore this! because 9 times out of 10 it is just a threat! and they will not hurt themself. it is another way to control you.
2006-11-26 07:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get him help and still move out, He is just trying to get you to feel bad. So you would stay. And is he really does hurt himself then just know u did nothing wrong he obviously has something wrong with him and no matter what you did he will still hurt himself. Good luck
2006-11-26 07:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you dont bow down to emotional blackmail then get on with your own life. If your ex does harm themself then it is their choice and not your fault in any way!
2006-11-26 07:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by mistickle17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him to seek help as I was walking out the door. It's an empty threat used to try and control people. My daughters ex-boyfriend tried it. Told her he was on the interstate and would run into something and kill himself if she didn't say she would stay with him. Did all this -you have 30 seconds to change your mind-you have 10 seconds to change your mind--all the while he was sitting at home in his bedroom. needless to say, they are no longer together.--
2006-11-26 07:50:27 · answer #9 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell them to grow up and get over it and get help. Threaten to hurt oneself shouldn't be a reason to stay with them. It only reveals just how ugly they are on the inside.
2006-11-26 07:41:25 · answer #10 · answered by Tericka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋