i have been married for 4 years to a man that acts like i am from mars.he get's in bed and acts like he don't know what to do with a woman, and we are use to men dominating the bedroom,not acting like we have to tell them what to do.i know you are saying why are you still with him,but this is my second marriage,and i have tried to be patient with him thinking he would come out of his shell.we have both agreed to live in the same home but lead separate lives until someone decides to leave.please only answer if you have had a similar situations.
2006-11-26 07:33:57 · 10 answers · asked by beautiful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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2006-11-26 07:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by Ronnie P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest not telling him, but showing. We are not living in the dark ages, so what you do in your bedroom is your business. If you want a better lovel ife. Then turn up the heat, take charge! Show him that you get tired of waiting. If worse comes to worse, draw the guy a chart, with pictures and quotes on it. But, giving up on your marriage because you cant get him to do what you want. Well thats selfish on your part as well. Maybe buy some lingerie. Spice things up. Show him that you are still interested inhim..make him want to touch you!!!!!!!!!!!! GL
2006-11-26 15:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no , i had made my choice before i said yes to him. and when deciding on the outcome of his marriage proposal , i knew it would be a decision that would be until death do us part. a decision that was to be a life long commitnent. so in all that i decided to go with what my heart said to do. 26 yrs. later...still in love ...still happy.
tell him to take control of the situation and take what he wants! tell him you need a strong man in the bedroom.
2006-11-26 15:38:40 · answer #3 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made the mistake of marrying a woman I didn't love. Should've gotten out of it early on, but then we began having kids and I found myself trapped. And though the kids are grown now I am still trapped, but for different reasons. So, I can feel for you.
2006-11-26 15:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there!! I went to the library and got him some books to read then we both talked about them and did some exploring. He is more open and awake NOW!
2006-11-26 15:37:38 · answer #5 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what happens when you get a man that doesn't know to much about that department.. well you can try showing him and maybe explain what you enjoy and maybe get some porno's and watch them together and maybe he can get the idea.
2006-11-26 19:59:24 · answer #6 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to watch porn and see how the pornstars take control... if he watches bangbus they are particularly good at dominating women (the women love it). that's how my girlfriend thought i was so good the first time! (she was my first, i was her second) he just needs to realize that women love to be controlled in bed and told what to do. and also he needs to be a man and stop being passive, and take control with the rest of your relationship, too (it sounds like this, at least).
2006-11-26 15:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by X 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'm so sorry for you. But there's nothing I can really do to help you except for to hang on tight. Don't give up on yourself.
2006-11-26 15:39:35 · answer #8 · answered by Allyson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to counseling, i mean try different ways on fixing stuff but if it doesnt work, then start over. it super easy to say,super hard to do. i understand you completely.
2006-11-26 15:45:48 · answer #9 · answered by confuse06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is your own fault for "waiting" he shouldn't be held accountable for you not getting what you want.
2006-11-26 15:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋