What do i do?

Question

I have asked a question on here saying help i think pregnant. and I have been to the doctors and they say I am. But what can I do? in my other question I said I lossed my boyfriend but when I said lossed I mean died. Now I don't know werether to keep the baby or bring it up on my own, I know there are people out there that do it but im not sure werether I could. and I have not told his parents yet coz they would make to much of a fuss and I could not handle that at the moment, please help.

Answer 1

it all depends how old you are ,what is your financial conditions,if you are ready to have a baby,if you would get help.It is a hard decision keep it or not,but life have to go on and you have to think about your future.

Answer 2

It’s a bit hard giving a good answer based on the limited information you gave. (Firstly please use spell check and compose questions so they make sense.) That being said, there are still questions. (you know there are only 3 answers available to you adapt-abort-raise, right?)

1. how old are you?? 2. Are you at an age were you can realistically support and raise a child alone? 3. Do you have a “support system” around you? (family-friends-who can assist with raising a child.) 4. Are you able to provide a home for the child? 5. Are you mentally adjusted well enough to deal with ALL the responsibilities that come with raising a child? (me and I will be words that will or should become secondary to the child’s requirements, understand??) 6. Kids are NEVER cheap, they do require,, FOOD, diapers, clothes, warm-safe environment to live in, constant care to keep them safe-secure-happy-etc. Realistically,,, Can You handle that? There is no completely right or wrong answer to some of these questions,, only life altering consequences. Think carefully before answering

7. Not the last nor the least of questions, You will have to address this pregnancy with the boyfriend’s parents. Whether you can “deal” with them or not is superfluous, as it appears you will either adapt or raise the child, the child has a right to know exactly who his/her parents-grandparents-family is! Not at first obviously,, but when they understand what “family” means he/she is going to ask and you better have good “real” answers!! (hint here,, this is one of those first situations where “me-I” becomes completely secondary to the baby’s needs!!)

Can you-are you capable of: unconditional, un-faltering, un-wavering, regardless of the cost including your own welfare, ocean’s depth, L.O.V.E. for the child?? Just supplying all the love necessary 24-7-365 will be daunting.

Answer 3

I think that you need to call the Planned Parenthood, and see if you can see a counsler. This is literally a life or death question, and you need professional help. When you ask the general public, you get opinions about abortion and telling families, when it isn't anyone elses business. Don't open yourself up for criticism in this stressful time. Go to a therapist, talk it through, look at finances, and then make your decision. You should just delete this question.

Answer 4

This is a serious issue and i dont think its wise to seek help in such issues and that too on the internet. Can you not confide it with anyone closest? Anyways, you have to decide this fast and for that a counsellor would be the best person to guide you. Take his advice and also see your situation and circumstances. May god give you all the strength to take a positive decision soon. All the best.

Answer 5

You can have the baby and give it up for adoption.

They do have open adoptions in many countries. I do not know where you are but, in USA, birth mother can have, right to visit the baby or child it must be a legally binding agreement.

See a lawyer and ask this question about open adaption.

Answer 6

your parents are going to find out about the baby so your going to have to deal with them sooner or later...it your own decision to keep the baby or give it up you shouldn't let people make that decision for you...if i were you i would keep the baby after all it your child do you want someon else to be raising your child...but if you can't handle the baby then you can give it up for abortion...good luck...
ps it a life decision so make the choice wisely...

Answer 7

You definitely have a serious decision to make. One that should not be answered by strangers on an internet. You are talking about your life and the life of your child. This requires more thought than this. Please seek expert cousnselling. Remember you dont have to bring up your child on your own. There are lots of people willing to adopt if the burden is too great for you. Please seek help.

Answer 8

Well first off I am sorry for your loss. I would still keep the baby, even though he/she is apart of him he/she is also apart of you too. You can call planned parenthood, they can help you with what you need. I am sure your boyfriends parents would be very helpful and supportive even thought they are still grieving. Hope this helps. Congratulations on your pregnancy.
Oh yeah and when you say "lossed" it is spelled "Lost".

Answer 9

There are so many things to take into consideration, are you ready to have a child, can you support it etc.. I do not recommend abortion but maybe you can let his parents know, since they lost their son maybe they will be happy to have his child there and help you to take care of it while you work or go to school. Best of Luck!!

Answer 10

well whatever you do the choice is yours. but did you really love your boyfriend? i ask because you should ask yourself what would he have you do? if you choose to abort its your choice, but i think it would be a good idea to tell his parents. after all this is their possible future grandchild. and having the baby maybe a way for them to preserve the memory of their son you know. that's my opinion.