My guy friend is a great guy. He has everything going for him and even looks. I tell him that all the time but he even though I have been telling him for years dosn't believe me. I was wondering why won't he accepct a complaient? I mean it when I say it and it bourthers me when he repsondes like this "No thats not true..." or "Really no you have to be out of your mind.."
2006-11-26 07:24:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
I have dated him I am dating him right now but were just dating were not boyfriend and girlfriend I just dont understand why he wont lissten to me when I say something nice about him He acts like its not true and thinks Im just doing it to be nice which Im not Im saying what I think
2006-11-26 07:37:16 · update #1
He has a low self-esteem, He probobly had people make fun of him earlyer in his life for whatever reason/reasons but whatever reason he has a hard time of seeing himself as atractive at all. (I also think that, so I know how it is) He understands and really knows deep down you are being honest with him, He wants to beleve if fully, but still, he rembers the wounds from the past that tell him that he is not and hes lacking and he thinks your just trying to be nice to him.
Its a vicious cycle. and it sucks, Im getting thrugh it slowly, but thats only beacuse I have to make myself take complements and gifts when there given and see myself as a someone, beacuse God dosent make nobodies.
Hope he gets through it, its really tough.
2006-11-26 09:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by robertt223 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have had a lot of girls tell the same thing when I was younger, may be he's suffering from low self esteem and possibly depression. There is nothing you'll ever be able to tell him that will convince him your right. I might be wrong but you should consider trying to talk him into seeing a doctor. This is serious and I'm not just saying that but this is very serious and complicated.This will effect long term if he doesn't do something soon .Good luck on trying to help him you need it,just like he needs a really good friend to stick by him for support.
2006-11-26 07:31:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it is hard for some people to hear good things about themselves even when it is true if they dont believe it, he might have low self esteem and feel very uncomfortable with the issue try bringing it up every now and then and sooner or later he will come around and just say thank you
2006-11-26 07:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by sevenandahalf7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe he really believes it in his head and he just wants to hear you say it so he can feel better about himself OR maybe he's depressed and he doesn't think so highly of himself. Just look for other signs of depression and if they are there then he might benefit from a healthy talk, with you letting him know that you care about him as a person.
2006-11-26 07:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key is you "tell him all the time". Most men don't like that even from their girl friend, and from what you say you are not romantically linked.
He probably senses that you DO want to be his girlfriend, and he isn't interested. He's most likely wishing you'd keep the comments to yourself, and just leave him alone. Why don't you try that?
2006-11-26 07:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop telling him the same thing over and over, and tell him to look in the mirror and write down the things he don't like about himself. His self-esteem is very low. You can give a book on self-esteem for Christmas
2006-11-26 07:29:19 · answer #6 · answered by roswellpeaches 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just doesn't think it counts because you're a friend. He needs other people to tell him that as well. Friends are kind of supposed to say those things sometimes. Or maybe its a habit or he's just being modest.
2006-11-26 07:27:36 · answer #7 · answered by xdannifenx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he has a low selfesteam. You should do something special with him to show him that you care. Then maybe he will get the hint alot better cause it's more up frount.
2006-11-26 10:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you, or have you dated him before?
If you won't date him, it would be hard for him to understand that because thats like telling him he's attractive but not to you...kind of voids any kind intention that you might have.
2006-11-26 07:28:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably can't understand what you are saying because your spelling is so bad, Get a dictionary.
2006-11-26 07:28:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋