cause verytim when i am in accademic support, I am alone, and I canlt talk to people. I know you might thnik well, just talk to people, but that doesn't work, and i don't ahve the guts. did you have this situation?
2006-11-26 07:22:32 · 7 answers · asked by sally b 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Practice. Here's something that I was taught to do because I had social anxiety disorder. Its part of something called CBT and its called exposure therapy.
Basically you list a bunch of stuff that you want to do in a social situation. These things could be anything you want to do. And then you give them a number, which is how "afraid" you are of doing it. Then you work slowly on each item until you aren't afraid of it anymore.
Example:
10 - Asking someone on a date
8 - Asking someone to go to a party with you
7 - Asking someone to hang out with you
6 - Asking someone you don't know very well for help on a question about school work
5 - Introducing yourself
4 - Starting a conversation with someone
3 - Saying "Hi" to someone you don't know very well
2 - Asking someone if the seat next to them is taken.
0 - Smiling at people
So start with the "2" item and do it until it becomes boring and you're not anxious about doing it anymore.... Then go to the "3" item and do it until its boring.... The bottom should fall out..and the stuff at the top should become less intimidating.
It seems hard, but being social is like everything else. Practice makes it easier. The most talkative people are often the people who have the most experience.
Try it out and see if it helps. Good Luck! :)
2006-11-26 07:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 16:37:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is something written 'just for you'!
I've had a touch of this problem myself, and so read them, and find them to be 'just what the doctor ordered'!
Bringing Phobias Under Control
- Tormented by Phobias
- When All Eyes Seem to Be Upon You
- Controlling Social Phobia
- Watch Your Breathing!
- When Fear Leads to Panic
http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/1998/7/22/article_01.htm
Use this if & when the URL is changed ... http://www.watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm
2006-11-26 08:10:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you think about it the worse it will get. Try not to give yourself any time to get nervous over talking to someone. Make it as spontaneous as possible.
Don't be too self conscious. Nobody is better than you. You must have confidence in what you do.
2006-11-26 07:26:49 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a rude, selfish, hypocritical, inconsiderate, condescending, overopinionated, stuck-up bad boy, dump him or reject him and tell other girls to avoid him!
2016-01-01 01:45:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try focusing on the other person, you can't do that and be self-conscious at the same time. Good luck
2006-11-26 07:26:02 · answer #6 · answered by ms.fruitbat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
picture them in there underwear.
2006-11-26 07:24:28 · answer #7 · answered by colormespoiled 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋