Ok I met my wife when she was 14 and I was 16. Now I am 23 and she is almost 21. We have a beautiful son who is three years old. We moved away from the family for the military and everything was fine. Now we have been back for almost 6 months. About 4 months ago she always wanted to go out with friends fishing and other stuff. I dont know why now but then I got really mad for her always wanting to do stuff. I understand now that my anger is why she has left. I love her with all my heart and I want her back. About two months ago she sat down and told me I was being controlling and angry all the time. I have tried and tried, but I think I just didn't realize what I had untill she was already gone. Is there any way I can prove to her that I am man and can be the man she married 3 years ago? I have never hit her but I know that the way I have been treating her is worse than any punch could have done. she already got and apt. and moved in. Now she says she just needs space...
2006-11-26 07:21:11 · 6 answers · asked by Justin N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have to realize that military life is very hard and boring to done specially there are not a lot of women can take it. You must be patient and allow her to release her stress with her own happiness as well as she does not break your marriage with cheating on you.
Marriage life is not as smooth as you've heard from others specially for military officers like us. We are to busy with our duties in base/camp. She always alone to face your family life. So give her space for awhile and try to adapt her habits well and not always to force her to understand yours.
But it's your life, Son. Take the best for you. Good luck!
2006-11-26 07:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't panic. What you 2 need is a healing separation lasting about a year. It may seem like a long time now, but it is well invested time for the future. Since you were both so young you never had a chance to live alone and experience it. You went into the marriage as 2 half's trying to make 1 whole instead of 2 whole people making 1 whole marriage. Work on yourselves by individual counselling, improving your lifestyle, volunteering etc. Don't use the time to go out drinking and dating, that solves nothing.
2006-11-26 07:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out why you have all this anger & get help for it. If it's related to your military experience, contact the VA. If you have local mental health care, get counseling.
If she see's your actually trying & not just talking, she may be more inclined to give you another chance.
Don't assume you don't need help or can handle it on your own. You're wife's reaction clearly tells you that you can't.
2006-11-26 07:26:19 · answer #3 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, you believe you can change but not to be servile, try your best to get her back before she meets somebody else.
According to my own experience, but depending on how your relationship broke, it may be better to move on especially considering that you started to date very young. After couple of years of common life, the couple may get bored and want to experience new things...
Good luck
2006-11-26 07:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by frogazia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same situation, and at some point you have to come to conclusion that its over. if she wants no time with you and blames all the problems on you....both should be at vault...then she is doing something behind your back. move on and find someone new
2006-11-26 07:28:50 · answer #5 · answered by m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give her space
2006-11-26 07:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by Valerena 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋