he has porn all over the computer and even though i am not showing much, i feel unwanted and like he already sees me as a fat cow. since we found out for sure about the baby he barely ever touches me in that way. as in once in 4 weeks. he has health problems but if he can take care of himself, shouldn't he be able to take care of me too? or is it just normal for guys to act like this when a baby is on the way? you would think they would be all over it since i can't get knocked up while i already am....
2006-11-26 07:03:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
he has porn all over the computer and even though i am not showing much, i feel unwanted and like he already sees me as a fat cow. since we found out for sure about the baby he barely ever touches me in that way. as in once in 4 weeks. he has health problems but if he can take care of himself, shouldn't he be able to take care of me too? or is it just normal for guys to act like this when a baby is on the way? you would think they would be all over it since i can't get knocked up while i already am.... AND THIS IS BABY #2 for us.
2006-11-26 07:17:20 · update #1
btw: it's not the porn that bothers me, we both like it, like it together even, it's that he is choosing the porn over me. and the girls don't look anything like me really. so it's not like he's just afraid of hurting me, we have a child already. he has back problems, but like i said, he can take care of himself just fine. i have a high sex drive and i am tired of taking care of myself all the time. i want him so bad i can't stand myself some times, and all he wants is his porn. and he's never been a cuddler so i don't get that to quench the thirst either!
2006-11-26 07:53:14 · update #2
i bet if you took up a bit of D I Y he'd soon change his mind,the wonders of a rabbit !!!! Good luck
2006-11-26 07:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by Martin K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm quite sorry for what you have had to bypass by and that i certainly can no longer think of what it could be like. the only man or woman i understand who has ever suffered a miscarriage is my grandmother. She had my aunt, a miscarriage, my mum, a miscarriage, my different aunt and yet another miscarriage and then gave up. so which you will experience like something is misguided with you yet you controlled to get pregnant meaning which you will get pregnant and extra effective than in all hazard will carry an entire term being pregnant sooner or later, once you do get pregnant back the medical doctors will take particularly solid care of you. I also have a chum who has been attempting to get pregnant for 3 years and as quickly as I have been given pregnant with twins i did no longer choose to tell her, yet she is accustomed to she will't blame me for her fertility issues. yet another of my acquaintances can no longer have infants in any respect and that i know it is not my fault yet i've got confidence to blame that I also have a son and 2 extra sons on the way. opposite the rolls. How would you experience if somebody you knew exchange into mad at you for doing something it particularly is 2d nature?
2016-10-04 09:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by regula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes guys just get funny when the pregnancy is new. I personally was turned off from sex as soon as I found out I was pregnant and lost my boyfriend over it. But I say hey I am better off now then ten years from now stuck with somebody cheating on me. I don't think masturbation it cheating. He just may need some time to adjust to the idea that there is a baby in your tummy. Take him to your next doc appointment and ask the doctor if it is OK then your boyfriend will see that sex is perfectly normal and from what I hear amazing during pregnancy. I wish you luck and enjoy your pregnant body it goes by fast.
2006-11-26 07:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, ask yourself was he doing the porn thing before you got pregnant? it probably has increased since you got pregnant. either way i've never heard of a guy not touching his girl when she wasn't even showing yet. i agree that he doesn't care about your feelings there is a condition now for people who are addicted to porn. its like that can't get aroused with a real women/man anymore they have to have the porn. i hope this isn't the case. but just let him know how you feel ok.
2006-11-26 07:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by silverilyte 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it and see if there is an underlying cause. Some men have trouble being intimate with their pregnant spouse/girlfriend because they're afraid of hurting the baby, or maybe he's just nervous about impending fatherhood. Have you tried initiating sex? He might respond if you pounce on him and show him that you still want to and that it's okay.
2006-11-26 07:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by AshletD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an ignorant, insensitive, and inconsiderate clod. It's not normal at all. It's usually perfectly safe and usually just as much fun to have sex during pregnancy, even up until the last few weeks. Get him to talk to a up-to-date doctor.
2006-11-26 07:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by TitoBob 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys for some reason stop having sex is because some think that they will hurt the baby or their penis will hit the baby's hard-lol its true or he just feels uncomfortable having sex with you as a whole because he doesn't want to hurt u and the baby.
2006-11-26 07:08:47 · answer #7 · answered by K.B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a hard one maybe he doesn't want another baby? or maybe he feels that your to delicate right now...hmmm now that i think about it maybe he doesn't view pregnant people as attractive....well if it was my husband then i would defiantly be having a long talk about the situation
2006-11-26 07:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by allymay04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he doesn't give a damn about your feelings, and that's certainly not right.
2006-11-26 07:05:18 · answer #9 · answered by Minmi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋