How can i forgive my husband for insulting me?

Question

we had miss understanding about how he was withdrawing money from our accounts and he insulted me in the face.

Answer 1

If I were you I would delve a little deeper into the money withdrawal thing. Could be he got all confrontational to throw you off the scent. Find out if that's the case then if you want to forgive him be prayerful and patient and God will help you forgive him. But remember this... Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.

Answer 2

Your question suggests that you love your husband. You know differences of opinions, misunderstanding and occaisonal quarrells are integral part of any healthy conjugal life. Any spouse should be accustomed to all these for leading a lasting and fruitful married life. Thank God! He had only misunderstood you about money not about you chastity! Do I sound like a male chauvinist? No way! I talk from experience.
You know some husbands think themselves to be demigods and assume the role of the bread earner for the family and show a bit of high handedness while dealing with household, particularly financial matters.
He has insulted you over withdrawal of money from your joint account. You know you're innocent and he has simply forgot about the withsrawal in question. In a rage, rather feat of emotion he insulted you. Its because it hurt his ego that you pointed out his mistake and he had no other way but to be rude with you to save his face.
Don't tell him about his mistake now. Because he has all his bloods in his head now. He won't simply listen to you and may create more pandemonium.
I'd tell you to wait until he cools of. It may take a week or more. Then when you find him in some lucid mood just give him a hint to recall the past transaction with Bank. He'll recognise his guilt and apologize to you for his rudeness.
Be careful henceforth to preserve all withdrawal slips and Cheque counterfoils, Debit Card slips and often ask him if he needs to withdraw money. This way the matter will be more transperent and you'll be on the safe side.
Lastly, keep it in mind; this is the man you loved more than anything else and told YES when he proposed you. Both of you vowed at the Alter to remain united till death does you part. Perform your part of the vow and for sure he'll do his.
Best of luck.

Answer 3

There just isn't enough information in this question - why was he withdrawing money from your accounts? Do you trust him with money? How did he insult you? Did he call you names or did he threaten or hit you? If he hit you there is no going back - it's unforgivable. But if it's simply a question of you not trusting him over money, then the other person is right and you need separate accounts.

Answer 4

Its always one spouse is abusive ,my wife insults me all the time in front of the kids she dont work,no house work,laundryand just eats frozen food from the microwave.If any house work gets done i do it,as well as my laundry,cooking and bring home thje bacon i'm sick of her but with her not working i'd have to pay child support and alimony and i dont want to be without the kids...So i do the next best thing i just suffer. There are a lot of spouses out there that are abusive and abused also..Now she has gotten to the point of not letting me take the kids to church..Maybe God will intervine i dont want her to have any bad luck but i would sure like to have some relief.My neighbors have told me they dont see how i do it with her smoking one cigarett after another.the frig was clean 2yrs ago when i clean it ,same with the pantry and they havent been touched since i just dont have time unles i can get some vacation.When i get a day off i keep it to myself because she will start a fight if i'm not working. Well thats all i can say ////////I try to entertain myself with this computer doning research and reading..Well thats enough but what i've told you is the truth .. Have a good day God bless... dont know the answer to your question ,just go to him camly during a peace ful conservation and tell him that you have something you want to speak to him about make sure and does he have a moment where you could.. Just say "event and then tell him how you feel about and say i'll forgive you but i'm not sure if i can continue this kind of life or even if you want to ..good lucki

Answer 5

Please remember that we do wrong each other everyday, I have been married for 38 years with my sweet , beautiful, spiritual, excellent wife but we do offend each other every day.

If the insult is continuous that is one thing if not that is another. Some simple questions--has he apologized for the insult.? Has he made any effort to work on not doing it again? Are there other avenues for his insults? Do you insult or offend him regularly.

An interesting Biblical principle may be applied here. Jesus said at:

*** Rbi8 Matthew 7:1-5 ***

7 "Stop judging that YOU may not be judged; 2 for with what judgment YOU are judging, YOU will be judged; and with the measure that YOU are measuring out, they will measure out to YOU. 3 Why, then, do you look at the straw in your brother's eye, but do not consider the rafter in your own eye? 4 Or how can you say to your brother, 'Allow me to extract the straw from your eye'; when, look! a rafter is in your own eye? 5 Hypocrite! First extract the rafter from your own eye, and then you will see clearly how to extract the straw from your brother's eye."

This might be applicable for your situation, but it never fails to be generous in forgiveness if there is an iota of reason.

THA

Answer 6

Your accounts are mutual, and should have both parties involved with the use of the money. If he insulted you, then he has no respect for you. i think from the sound of your letter that this happend a few times. If there is no respect then there is no relationship. Also, check your accounts and see what the money was used for. Remember, insults can lead to assults.

Answer 7

These are little things, if the insult was verbal. Tell him you don't like, and if he keeps doing it, dump him.

I hope you are not totally financially dependent on him.

Either ways, you could have a few bad moments in the future, and you would want him to forgive you as well....

Kiss him, have him say sorry, have a romantic dinner, and be happy again.

Answer 8

Tell your husband how you feel,exactly. Then determine if he did it on accident or intentional. If he is the kind of guy that would make a habit of making you feel bad, you may have a hard time forgiving him because it may happen again. Good Luck!

Answer 9

This does not sounds like such a bad unforgivable thing. You sure your not over reacting? An insult is not so bad, but if you feel you must do something....get him arrested for verbal abuse and divorce him. That will show him to to insult you.

Answer 10

Honey, very sorry about why/what happened. did you think why sudddenly he behave like this.. Did you do something to him earlier, scold him, tease him, insult him or what ever that make him lost interest in you?? I dont understand why as you did not give more details..

Anyway, can you drop me an email at [e-mail]
thought i might have some ideas to help you out...