Okay, so here is the story! My brother Derek and I have the same mom's but different dads and well, his dad has a son my age, so that would make it my brother's half brother I think! Well, my brother Derek's brother like's me... And, I kinda like him. Would, it be insest or strange/weird if we would date... Im so confussed on this. I just don't know what to do. I mean it feels weird cause it's my brother's brother, but he is no blood to me! Please help!
Serious answers please, not just for points....
2006-11-26 06:50:49 · 30 answers · asked by Cherries 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This might put some animosity amongst family members......however you guys could get to know one another without any knowing how serious it is......that way if it doesn't work out between the two of you.....know one will have to know, or get hurt....If you two become serious you can worry about it then....
Good Luck to you......sometimes you just can't help who you are attracted to...........
2006-11-26 07:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
---Here's what I know. For certain if these feelings develop there will be many issues to deal with. The issues will first manifest on the immediate family level. And then if you're lucky it won't need to be addressed any further. If I followed your story clearly...there is no direct blood line to you and Derek's brother. That is what would determine incest. I think you should talk to which ever parent you feel most comfortable with about these feeling and heres why.I don't know your age but in female development these feelings of attraction could be based on several needs, that you have that are not being met. When I was in grammar school there was not one male instructor I didn't' have a crush on. And as someone who has studied Psychology and development theory I know now that that was all quite natural because I had & still do have a father that I adore. My point is at the time I was feeling those feelings of atttraction I WAS IN LOVE. these teachers and I day dreamed about marrying at least 2 of them. You sound like an intelligent girl. Talk to which ever parent you can confide in-------- it will bring you closer together. And there is no better feeling in the world than being understood and loved. Best wishes!
2006-11-26 15:09:05 · answer #2 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Incest ? No. ~ ~ ~ But weird...yes. Just because two have an interest in one another doesn't meant it should be acted on. A relationship is not just about the two involved...many times a shared relationship touches and carries over into others in their life. My advice...don't go there for the same of the discomfort it would cause others in your family circle. I get frustrated in situations as this and others...people have feelings for someone and act on those feelings with no thought of others in their life as with your other family, someone who is already married, a divorced dating person if the kids like that new person or not, etc... all because they simply have a desire for them...people are becoming emotionally selfish and thoughtless...yet, I still have great faith in people in that awareness will turn and awaken to thoughtfulness and compassion more.
2006-11-26 15:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by onelight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't do it.... no he's not blood to you. no it's not like it's against the law or anything. but think about it. judging from the question your young and still live at home with your mom and his dad. and i can gerranty this will not work out. do you want to live with an ex boyfriend? even if you are not related, you are family. your family will rip you and him apart for crossing a morral line that you shouldn't have. nothing good will come of this. at best, look at him as if he is your blood brother, because everyone else does.
2006-11-26 14:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by cesar g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not get into this relationship because it is weird, you're dating your brother's brother!
Dating him can cause a lot of problems for you and your family.
I do not think it's worth it because there are many other guys you can date. This is especially true if you're young!
Do not let lust cause troubles in your life!
DO NOT DATE YOUR BROTHER'S BROTHER, IT'S NOT WORTH IT!!!!
If you date him it can be like a bad one night stand..you sleep with him and end up having AIDS or an STD, in your case you date him, it doesn't work and cause problems for you and your family. Your brother may be offended and call you a sicko, so can your family members and friends.
It's not worth it, control your urges. Have self-control.
2006-11-26 14:56:32 · answer #5 · answered by joruaishiteru 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of what would happen if you dated him and it didn't work out. That can cause a huge rift in the family that might best be avoided by NOT dating him. I am sure there a plenty of other guys you can date that won't cause problems at home. Good luck.
2006-11-26 14:54:01 · answer #6 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk it over with my parents and see what they thought in the matter. As far as insest, you are not kin to him but some people may think that you are. as i said before i would talk it over with family and see how they would feel with the relationship.
2006-11-26 14:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why in the world you want to bring problems to your self
you don't need that
just drop it and don't get involved in this situation
don't see him because as you said he is not your brother
so just ignore you feeling and move on in your life
you don't have too see him no reason push you to see him
however as i see also it will bring problems between the families
so think real carefully about what your doing
by the why in the world you want to date a boy
go and find a girl its much better for you
2006-11-26 15:05:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since youre not blood it wouldnt be incest, but your half brother might feel a little uncomfortable with his brother and sister being together. if u really like this guy and dont mind a little potential embarrassment then ask your brother if he'd mind if u and his brother got together. if he doesnt then get it gurl
2006-11-26 14:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by b2k4ever08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be confused. But I don't think you should take that chance. To go with your brothers brother.
2006-11-26 14:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by Shizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋