okay this why i asked that question about treating a man like crap!?

Question

i have known this guy for 10 years, he's 25 i'm 23. i thought he really loved me and i thought that we were serious he even bought me a ring, but i gave it back to him when we got into an argument and he took it back to the store. we even signed a contract on a house this year, then the whole thing got cancelled becuase he said that i argue too much. we have a two year old daughter together and i try everythig to make him happy, but now he's with a girl that also have a child with him, but she's a two timer and she's demanding and controlling and i know i treat him better and he can trust me more he even knows this, but yet he's with her. he even denied the child she has because she slept with other men. so why is he with her now? plus he's acting mean to me like i did somethng bad or wrong to him! HELP!!! how do i get his attention or get him back. he doesn't answer my questions and he keeps me in suspence, wandering if he loves me, why, etc

Answer 1

Stop making a fool of yourself. Let HER have him. He's not worth your time, and definitely not worth your effort!
Prove paternity, so that he pay you child support!

Answer 2

Sorry, honey, I am constantly amazed at just how stupid my sex is with regard to men and protecting their future....this site is full of questions just like yours...sometimes worse, but not much..... Why, honey, would you want a cheating guy back?? He's a baby, and not even close to husband nor father material at this time....Here's some food for thought --- see how it fits. Your qestion deserves some thoughtful analysis--- here it is, about 20 minutes worth:

Relationships/marriages are respect, admiration, passion,and trust. He has shared his Passion with someone else, had a child with someone else, and had shown you that you cannot trust him, if it is an exclusive, loving supportive relationship is what you want. Along with trust. down the tubes goes admiration and respect. Hon, you have absolutely nothing---none of the four that make relationships loving, and supportive---- going with this guy but maybe a little lust..... and that aint' much.
You asked, how do you get him back.... my question is why would you want him back????? Your self-esteem must be lower than a snake's belly in a wheel rut.... now if you want to know what are your options, write me, or Ill just figure you know what they are.....

Answer 3

I think that you must accept that he is not coming back, even though you have a history together, he seems to have taken his affections else where, Please keep in mind that even if you know for a fact that his new love is as bad as you say, it is his problem and you can not fix it.It would be better for you if you concentrated on your self and your daughter now, Let him go and do not stand there waiting for him to come back, he might ,but he may just keep changing women continually.So no more questions to him you have all the answers in front of you and you need to start a new life today

Answer 4

Sweety you are going to have to get the hell out of there and fast. He is having a good time being beween the two of you and even if you treat him loke crap he is still in your life and also in the other girls so he says who cares as long as he can still get the best of both worlds. This game can go on for years and do you want your child to see it screw you up because its guaranteed it will. So you think you love him but hey wake up and love your self and most importantly love your child. Don't be the pawn in this game because if you are not the queen trust me you don't want to play. Let me know how this unfolds

Answer 5

My heart goes out to you, as this is not easy, in fact, even if you know the right thing to do, it is still near impossible to do the right thing, which is... save yourself further emotional tramau and a life of torment by moving on with your child without this man in your life. Otherwise, strap yourself in for an emotional roller coaster, and not only dont you need nor deserve that, but your child doesn't either. You did nothing to provoke his rotten mean demeanor towards you , and likewise, nothing you do will have any impact on changing this man. You deserve better and will find better, even if better means being alone. This man doesn't deserve you ..period!

Answer 6

You were able to explain the situation of his new girlfriend,but not able to explain what YOU did!. Although he denied the other child was his,he's still with HER!. If he won't talk to you,that's because he doesn't have anything to say right now. You pressuring him to talk,and to get back into his life,is doing nothing but pushing him further into "her" arms. "Men do not like pressure!". Leave him alone,and give him some time,to think things out. You'll have your answer soon enough.

Answer 7

it quite is not O.ok., and that i'm questioned by making use of why I see questions like this. that's not greater "O.ok" for a girl to handle a guy rudely or abusively than that's for a guy to do it to a girl. the female could have suggested, "do you go with to supply me your call tag now?" or some thing comparable. human beings of the two sexes could be clueless regarding the proper thank you to act. If i might been the guy, i might have stepped returned and given the female a shocked look, or maybe suggested flippantly, "you be responsive to, i could have been satisfied to take it off myself."

Answer 8

I think it is time to play the *****. Ignore him. Don't phone him start going out and meet other guys. Show him that you are sexier and other men want you. This should bring him around. Us guys are shallow like that sometimes.