Girl Question! Do any of you ever feel....??

Question

Terribly ugly? No girl is ugly, I mean everyone tells me I'm "super cute" or "model material" but I get paranoid and think they're lying. Do any of you girls feel the same? Like when we're at school and all the girls are crowding around the mirror trying to beautify themselves for guys (which aren't even that good looking!)
It makes me wistful and annoyed at the same time. So how do you guys cope with that feeling that you're a hopeless case and should just give up on looks?
Weird, isn't it, puberty?

And I feel kind of bad about it too, because so many girls say, "What are you complaining about? You have it all."

Answer 1

i usto be a model...and now im not....people say i should go back, but i dont feel like it anymore...you just have to get over it

Answer 2

The reason you feel this way is the same reason all women feel this way. Fake pictures of beautiful celebrities and models are shoved in our faces everyday. Industry leaders say they cannot stop re-touching photographs, because if they do, people will stop buying their magazines. They say consumers simply are not interested in seeing every flaw that a person being photographed has. (Source: VoA - Real Girls Are Beautiful)

Society says skinny is better then fat, that looking the same is preferred over uniqueness, individuality is not beautiful ect. ect. No wonder we strive to be what is so called beautiful rather then striving to be a good person overall, honest, empathetic, smart all these things aren’t important anymore. Your not ugly but you feel this way because were brain washed to believe all those people in magazines and on TV are perfect and in reality there not. We all have are flaws but that’s what makes you different from the girl next to you, that’s what makes you, you.

To help you understand exactly what I’m talking about click on this site it will take you to a gallery of photos by this famous celebrity photographer. Click on the photo you want to see, then place your mouse on the photo and the picture will change. The picture you will see when doing that is the real picture of what that person looks like before they were re-touched.
PLEASE GO TO THESE SITES
http://www.glennferon.com/portfolio1/index.html
The Site Below: Click on Manipulation wait until the pics stop running through then on the bottom of pic there will be a after and before selection scroll right to see the picture change.
http://www.digitalretouch.net/online/main.html

And what do the photographers say?
"People would be shocked to know what some of the models really look like. Sometimes a model walks in and I don't even realize it is the model..." (Source) magazine.

Answer 3

I think it's great that you're thinking about this sort of thing. Even the cute girls wonder if they are, imagine what it is like for the not so cute girls. I was always told 'how pretty' I was growing up, and now as an adult I still have days when I feel so terribly ugly as you put it. Women shouldnt put their whole self-esteem level on their appearance like we tend to do. It's not just an adolescent stage you are going through. It's a lifelong battle for many girls/women that needs to be looked at from a young age. Men never go through this, as men arent expected to be beautiful. Men are expected to be strong, good at sports perhaps, etc but beauty is not necessary to be 'valued' as it is with women. I blame the magazines with unrealisticly attractive women (who have had professional hair/make-up/you name it done with some air brushing on top just so there isnt a single flaw to be seen), dolls we grow up with, perhaps even the fairy tales of the beautiful princess waiting for a man to come rescue her. It's not real life, that is for sure. We dont need to be beautiful for anyone but ourselves, and we shouldnt be so darn hard to please!!

Next time you think you arent pretty, start naming off all the other qualities you have... hopefully in the end you'll realise it doesnt matter what you look like as you have a lot of other things going for you. Being 'pretty' is just an extra bonus... and if people tell you that you are, then it is true - I dont think anyone makes that up. Dont bother looking in the mirror anymore, certainly dont be bothering with make-up in high school!!!, and enjoy being yourself without worrying what the guys are thinking. When you get out of school you'll realise they werent all they seemed anyways.

Answer 4

sweetie u have to love yourself first and you have to secure also.everyone at some time or another felt some type of way about themselves.looks isn't the only thing that makes a person.u can the prettiest girl around but if your attitude sucks guess what that can make u ugly in peoples eyes.enjoy being a girl is a beautiful thing enjoy the skin your in.things can be alot worse.if a guy don't accept u for what u are or how u look u don't need him.

Answer 5

YES!!! "All" the time! Everyone says oh, you're so pretty, for a second or two i DO believe them but not for long. I'm always trying to make sure i don't feel this way but it's very hard. I've found that when you get a new look(hair, nails, etc...) that it's very easy to feel "beautiful", and also new outfits or accesories or w/e , can help also. I dont' try and really "beautify" myself for boys, unless i'm in love, which has only happened twice in my life, and even then i was REALLY trying to make myself "beautiful". my mom, and some of my friends tell me i'm dumb not to believe i'm pretty adn that i shouldnt' but i can't help it. though, my mom has told me that every woman/girl feels ugly every once in while. but you really arent' alone, in feeling ugly. just try w/ all your might to believe your the most BEAUTIFUL person in the world, just dont' get cocky, lol, but it's still hard isn't it. well, i dont' really have any REAL advice, cuz i'm looking for it myself, hee-hee, and yea it's VERY weird, but i think it's puberty AND hormones, but i'm NO doctor or w/e person, but that's wat i think. hope you find what you're looking for. ~ Lucy

Answer 6

I know how you feel. I'm 14 and when I was younger my family used to say that they would have to be "fighting guys off", well it hasn't happened yet!!!! I'm starting to think that it's normal for girls to feel "unperfect" because of all lifes expectations. Like models, the only reasons why models are on this earth is to teach people that they will never be perfect. No matter what you do your just gonna have to except it. Life sucks, don't it.

Answer 7

I don't think you problem is what you look like. You more then likely have a problem with self esteem which make you feel negative about your looks. Perhaps see a counselor, talk to a mate or write in a diary daily to see what it is that is really getting you down. finally it may just be hormones if you are due a period perhaps, but what ever it is is is short term so done worry too much.

Answer 8

You must be young because this worry is especially strong as you come into puberty. And I guess we all wish we could look better, But as you mature, hopefully you will learn that appearances are only the smallest part of who a person truly is. There is a much more wonderful world of the heart and mind to explore than looks alone.

Answer 9

I never feel ugly, I feel average...to me, thatz just as bad. Either way, that isn't a good thing. You have just got to learn to be confident. Stop thinking that people are lying to you, they have no reason to lie. As far as how Im coping...I continue to surround myself with positive people. The best thing I can do is to stop comparing myself to other girls and start appreciating myself.
You should try it.
Good luck

Answer 10

Don't worry; every teenage girl feels that way at one point or another. One day I think I look like the best looking girl in school, and another day I think that I look like dirt.

It makes me annoyed, too, and I wish that I was born with good looks and the boys would be waitin' in line for me. Unfortunately, that didn't happen. So for now, I just have to love the skin I'm in, and so do you! :)

Answer 11

I totally feel ugly sometimes. It is weird, and I have no idea how to stop it, except ignore it, which probably is not gonna end up the best. Oh yeah, and I'm a girl.