2006-11-26 06:00:28 · 14 answers · asked by Peaches 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
That's really harsh and really tough.
For me, in similar situations, it simply takes time. I know that isn't the answer you want to hear, but I never have found a better solution.
When you feel ready, try dating again (I haven't dated in almost two years...)
Or, if you want a distraction, try dating now if you feel up to it.
I spend a lot of time with family and friends. I find kids to be a great distraction as well. They're honest and loving and fun to be around.
But letting go will take time... I fantasized about getting her back a lot, and sometimes I still do, even though she's now married and just had kids (twins).
I still love her, probably always will, but we all have to let go in situations like this... time, as they say, heals all wounds... in my experience it at least dulls the pain.
Take care,
-dh
2006-11-26 06:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by delicateharmony 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on moving on. If you have to get rid of everything that reminds you of him. Don't hold on to the memories or the things. Go out, date for fun not for sex or a relationship. Have a good time. When you find yourself starting to think about him again. Do something else that can distract you, like read a book watch a scary moving if you can afford it go shopping. Just let him go.
2006-11-26 14:05:37 · answer #2 · answered by dnisey64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously moved on and you should too. You've already wasted 10 years mooning over a relationship that wasn't meant to be and if you're with someone else now, you're being unfair to that guy. He doesn't need the "Ghost of lovers past" hanging around.
2006-11-26 14:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by Debra D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its really hard. The feelings dont go away so easy. You have to search yourself to find that answer. But try not to let it eat you away like that. Moving on is the best way. And lots of prayer. Soon you will look back and say what what the fuss over.
2006-11-26 14:04:44 · answer #4 · answered by valerie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to get it through your head that it is the past. you need to let them go but know that you will always love them. I am going through that but not for that long. I am still able to have a relationship with other people because i know that they are gone but i will always care and love them. you have to realize that just because you are holding on does not mean that they will come back. it takes time though so hang in there
2006-11-26 14:03:30 · answer #5 · answered by Jaime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is but one known cure, Some would say time, but I say no... Only someone else sneaking past all of your guards & grasping your heart when you least expect it can get you over the past love that you've described.
2006-11-26 14:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get involved with new hobbies, new people, new environments. Train yourself to not think of the past, concentrate on the future. Let go of the past and live life today. It's not easy to do, but you must try if want to move forward with your life.
2006-11-26 14:03:45 · answer #7 · answered by NeckLover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people never get over someone they once loved
either distract you brain that much, that you forget about the past, or get a new lover!!
best thing is always to cancel the contact and move on (maybe even to a diffrent town, where you get new friends and where nothing reminds you of your past love
2006-11-26 14:05:16 · answer #8 · answered by doctor who 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow sweetie-you've got it bad!
You may need to seek counceling. This is an "Emotional" problem,that needs to be taken care of by a professional. Talk to your Doctor about this,and he/she can recommend someone for you to discuss this with. After 10 years,you should have been able to move on in your life (and I'm sure he has by now!). I'm sorry you are hurting so much,and I hate to see anyone going through the pain and lost of someone you truly loved. For your own "Peace of Mind", please consult in a Specialist in the field of "Emotional Trauma". (Good Luck-I'll be praying for you!)
2006-11-26 14:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stop dwelling and stop imaginning how things where and could have been. If it's someone that's free to pursue give it a try and if he does not budge then that will help you stop dwelling.
If it's someone you havent really kept in touch with then find out about their life what they are doing if their in a relationship if they have moved on and if that's the case you will see that maybe your holding on to something that no longer exists.
2006-11-26 14:05:04 · answer #10 · answered by calimexgirl!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋