She is a stay at home mom and I also get us babysitters so we can go out. I take her places to go shopping, get her hair and nails done, encourage her to hang out with her firends and family. But she just would rather sleep and watch TV than do anything else. I offered to take her on a cruise and she said no. What can I do to make her act like she used to
2006-11-26 05:53:57 · 29 answers · asked by cheezelord 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm a stay at home mother to three young boys so i know just how tired that can make one feel. It sounds to me that your wife may have PPD. Post Partum Depression is VERY common and without treatment it can progress into some pretty scary situations. Not all cases are severe but either way, its hard to deal with and no, nothing you try is going to make her feel much better for a long period of time. Without treatment, PPD will not go away. I highly suggest that your wife go back to the doctor, this time on her own so she can talk privately about ppd and her feelings. She may feel too ashamed about her feelings to talk about them with you right there. She needs to be on anti depressants. Lexapro worked pretty good for my PPD. Good Luck =)
2006-11-26 06:08:54 · answer #1 · answered by Danelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is tired and depressed. Get her a nanny, a housekeeper and a cook. Let the poor woman have a real life. Or if you are not a rich man, help with the kids, clean and cook 2 times a week. Put yourself in her place. Would you want to live your life as someone's Nanny, housekeeper and cook for the rest of YOUR life? You would be depressed too! ASK her what SHE thinks in fun, maybe a cruise is not her idea of fun. It sure isn't mine. You say you take her places, why? Get her a car and let her drive and be out of the house and have a LIFE!!
2006-11-26 06:06:03 · answer #2 · answered by tonks_op 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are blaming yourself for your wife's sleep pattern. Let her rest, sleep is good. Stop blaming yourself, you sound like a good husband. Keep up your efforts on making her happy and keeping her busy. Ask her again if she would like to go on a cruise, until she says, yes. 12 hours of sleep is not as bad as you make it sound. She might be a bit depressed but she just may be tired or have a lack of some vitamin. Women need a lot of boosting vitamins, like Iron and B12, One a Day Women's Vitamin is good...
2006-11-26 06:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by lee f 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a form of depression, or maybe she's just 'bored' with the world and being pampered. Perhaps you should try doing what you are doing, give her some money and tell her to go out and go hang out with people. Otherwise you can go back to the doctor and say you're worried that your wife is depressed.
2006-11-26 05:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mybe she is depressed, sorry buddy, there is a nerological condition, When someone is Depressed about something, The one part of the brain, just gets sleepy and wants to sleep more, I am sure she loves you very much, but there are times when a woman needs her space her time too, And There are ways which depression can be cured, If the doctor thinks its depression, Then he will describe something for her, But if i were you i would have a talk with her first and simply ask her if she is depressed, and talk out her troubles with you,
2006-11-26 06:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by trudycaulfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you checked her out with the right kind of doctor? She may be depressed. There is a depression check list on line. Do a search for it. See if that is it. If she's depressed she needs counseling and/or medication. Good luck.
2006-11-26 05:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by hazelblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she's depressed. The symptoms you descibed are classic signs of depression. The fact that you doesn't do the things she used to enjoy, sleeping alot and not wanting to leave the house. I would try to get her to counseling and I think you'll be surprised how much that would help her.
2006-11-26 09:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds depressed. Take her to a psychiatrist. Not a doctor. What did she like to do in the past? Did you ask her what's wrong? You didn't do anything wrong from what you have said here.
2006-11-26 05:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by dnisey64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anemia, depression, lupus, Lyme's disease: none of these checked out? This sounds very odd indeed. If you have tried psycholanalysis or therapy, that's great, but if not, I would sure give it a shot. This is not normal for a healthy woman.
2006-11-26 05:57:16 · answer #9 · answered by Isis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a therapist and a phychiatrist. She sounds depressed. She might need meds.There is nothing you can say or do to change this. be supportive and understanding and patient.
With the right help she can get over this.
2006-11-26 06:04:57 · answer #10 · answered by cacabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋