I MIGHT be PREGNANT with my 2nd child and im only 16, what should i do?

Question

IM 16 YEARS OLD AND I MIGHT BE P[RGNANT WITH MY SECOND CHILD. MY MOTHER TOLD ME THAT IF I GET PREGNANT AGAIN SHE IS GOING TO KICK ME OUT. MY BABBYFATHER OF BOTH CHILDREN SAID NOT TO WORRY ABOUT IT BECAUSE HE IS ALMOST 18 AND OWNS A HOUSE THAT HIS FATHER LEFT TO HIM WHEN HE DIED. NOW PLEASE TELL ME WHAT SHOULD I DO IF MY MOTHER KICKS ME OUT?

Answer 1

Why are you afraid that you are pregnant? Get a home pregnancy testing kit and test yourself at home that way you won't have to wonder about the "what if". If it turns out you are be strong, you are young, still a child yourself. I hope your Mother is understanding (although she may be upset and dissapointed) and if she is unreasonable then take it from there. Hopefully you can find safety and stability in the home of your boyfriend. I am older than you and have two children myself. They are ALOT of work, money and of course joy as I'm sure you realize. Talk with your Doctor and find out about an easy to use and RELIABLE method of birth control. Take it one step at a time and remember that although you are a Mom now you are still quite young... You need all the help you can get. I am glad that your boyfriend is dependable but nobody can replace a good Mommy!

Answer 2

First thing: relax, you're panicking. You say yourself that you "might" be pregnant. Personally, in my youth I had a long record of doing silly things (e.g. sleeping with girls who were definitely not "clean") and being so contrite afterward that I d*mn-near convinced myself that I was for the chop. The chances are, you're not pregnant.

Second, your choice depends on what kind of guy your BF is. He sounds like a responsible person and, having inherited real estate, in a position to lift his responsibility. But, is he stable? Does he have a job or prospects of finding one? Moving in with a guy (let's face it - a young boy) is good for your child(ren) if and only if he has something to contribute.

Finally, you should be aware that your mother cannot legally kick you out. Until you're 18 yo she's responsible for you. Since you're 16 yo she can accept that you move in with your boyfriend (if you were underage that'd be parental neglect), but she cannot abdicate her responsibility. If she does then, as other posters here have said, you can very well complain to the social authorities. - Should do so, IMO, unless you feel certain of your BF's commitment.

Answer 3

First and foremost you need to find out if you really are pregnant.

If you are (and it sounds like you're going to keep it), you need to tell your mother. She has a right to know. I can't imagine a mom kicking out her daughter and grandchild without first knowing you'll have alternate arrangements. You better hope your boyfriend's word is solid about the house.

After you have this baby, GET YOUR TUBES TIED! You are obviously not responsible enough to have children, yet for some reason, God has allowed you to procreate. There's this thing called birth control. You should look into it between 3rd and 4th period at school.

Answer 4

I agree with the answers others have given you keep your legs closed!! However, this is a little after the fact so here is some helpful advice now that you might be pregnant, if so you are 16 and you will be able to get state aid. But instead of just depending on everyone else to support you, maybe you should get a job working when your boyfriend is off so you dont have to pay a sitter and help yourself.

Answer 5

16 is a very young age to be making adult decisions. Tell your mom right away. Parents are never mad.. they are just dissapointed. They want nothing more than their kids to grow up to be successful and happy. Finish school is the most important. You have to set the bar. You want your kids to finish school dont you? Then you should too!! Get a job right away. make out a game plan for you and your child and the daddy if possible. When you tell your mom, then she will see how much you have grown up by having a plan. If you devise a plan, make sure that you are ready to go through with that plan! If she throws you out, then move in with him, but I wouldnt move in with him unless that happens. You need your mom right now. Lastly, get on the Depo shot or some sort of birth control. 2 kids are going to be hard to provide for. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Don't worry about it... if you love the guy, get married and live with him. If you don't think that you can love him for the rest of your life than you have a problem on your hands... I don't have the answer for that one. But DON'T abort the baby whatever you do! You would regret it! Babies are the most wonderful things in this life! I've had a lot of experience with babies over the years because I'm the fourth out of eleven children in my family. I'm sixteen and I just want you to know that I hope everything goes well for you! God Bless and I hope that whatever you do it all works out.
Jessie

Answer 7

Sounds like you think sex is more important than living in your mother's house. You already had 1 baby, and refused to learn the lesson and stop sex until 18. Tell your Mom and pack your bags. Marry the father, finish your school, and be a good mom. You've made 2 babies with him, so surely you like him enough to marry. Do right by those kids.

Answer 8

if your mother kicks you out, then stay with your childrens father and if you two are going to have sex after this baby, then get on some birth control

Answer 9

if your mother kicks you out of the house, and you have a good relationship with the father and his family, i would say most definitely stay with him, it would be better for the baby too. I would also suggest counceling. Everyone needs it, especially us young mothers!

Answer 10

well first of all... if you turn out not to be, YOU NEED TO STOP HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX. since you have one child already i am sure you are aware that at 16 you were not ready 4 a child,and if it turns out that you are then something will always work itself out... but, you really need to take into consideration what your mom is trying to do for you.. she loves you and i am sure she is not going to lead you in the wrong direction.. i know that living with your mother can be trying... especially at your age... but trust me she loves you and just wants to see you do well in life... she not trying to oppress you... even though i am sure that is what you think... i will be praying for you that this all works out. your mother may kick you out but something will always be there when you need it... when one door closes.. another opens..