About a year ago I was helping my mother move out of state. I was moving with her because she has a couple mental problems and my uncle and my cousins husband came to move us because we were moving around their. My cousin and I had to sit in the same car for 3 full days nothing to do but talk about the future. Soon I began to realize that he was probaly the coolest person I ever meet. After wards we spent long hours talking even after the move was over. One day I realized that I was falling heads of heals for him then I tried to stay away from him. My cousin took me to meet some of the men she has affairs with because she has 6 affairs. Her husband and I are having an affair and now they are going to get a divorce because he is begining to hate her for all the affairs she is having. They have twins and one son. I am caught in a sitiuation of loyalty to my cousin, very assaimed of what I have done, but just so so confused. What do I do?
2006-11-26 05:35:19 · 10 answers · asked by Brian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By the way I forgot to mention he is fixed
2006-11-26 07:37:51 · update #1
Girl, you should have never got messed up with a sitiuation like this, but I know how you feel, I have a crush on a family member who is married, I just stay away from him. If you truly love him, you should give the relationship up and even when they are divorced I wouldn't go back with him to show that you still love your cousin and her children. He might only have the affair because of sex, but I was reading your other questions it sound like he us bit that kind of person. You will feel lost and all alone after you stop seeing him but it has to be done. For the time being I would stop spending time with your cousin and her husband and even their children. I would never talk about this with you cousin until it at least a couple of years behind both of you.
2006-11-26 05:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by Debater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a dilemma. You have to do what is right, there are children involved. You have to back out until your cousin decides to end the marriage. No matter that she cheats on the poor guy, it is their marriage and you have no business muddling in their business. If he wants to be with you, then he need to take care of his business. Just know that his children are going to suffer (they already are) because of the actions of their parents. You really should have waited to make a move with this man (no pun intended) until he was free and clear. You could have then called to offer your condolences. This whole affair is wrong and no good will come from it. Sorry, but true. Nana
2006-11-26 13:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by nanawnuts 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What loyalty your sleeping with her husband?????? This is a no win situation. You should stay out of it and not see this man again. He's no better than she is he's having an affair also and has probably done it before you. Find a man of your own and leave your cousins alone.
2006-11-26 13:57:30 · answer #3 · answered by paulamcneil1223 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should stay away from this man! he had affairs on her and what makes you think for one minute ..he will ever change for you? who could ever put trust into the one they had the affair with?
2006-11-26 13:58:15 · answer #4 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
honesty is the best. it'll rock your world in the short terms but everything will be better once the air is cleared.otherwise,you'll have to keep secrets forever,you'll need to think on your every move,and you'll be labeled as a liar.
2006-11-26 13:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just don't get pregnant by your cousin's husband; otherwise, it sounds ok
2006-11-26 15:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like your family has loyalty problems...
Stop having affairs...
2006-11-26 13:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Take responsibility for your choices, and then move on.
2006-11-26 13:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No clue.... what a fluching mess....
2006-11-26 14:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i don't kno
2006-11-26 13:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Cutie♥ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋