now I am here so depress here is my story please read that and help me
we are so much in love we have so many in common but he is the only son of his family he has 7 sisters and
they think they should take decision for their brothers marriage so they don’t let us to marry he did his best to get their consent but they didn’t finally he told me we marry even they don’t let us because we both are mature enough but a few days ago his sisters call me and threatened me that they don’t let me to live they told me we don’t let our only brother to marry you if it cost he lose his job and …we ruin your common life so don’t kid yourself …
I know well he love me so much I do love him even more than his love to me we have not any problem and I don’t have any problem with his family but he has talked with his family more than 6 months for more 100 times but they didn’t accept it and I know they never accept that so I took more than 100 pill ….you know what happened now I escape from death but
2006-11-26 05:19:31 · 8 answers · asked by lover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
but last day their family call me and threatened me oh god I don’t know what to do I d rather to die to live with out him I know he has the same idea but I feel so depress because when we marry with their consent my partner will lose his family and maybe they try to bother us after marriage please tell me what can I do ?
2006-11-26 05:22:19 · update #1
You don't say where you are from... Some cultural influences are far stronger than others when it comes to the abilities of the family to destroy a member's life for not following their 'rules'.
Suicide is Not the answer! As long as there is life, there is Hope... Remember that!
One approach that might work with these women is to point out that their actions show that they are placing their opinions above any love they have for their brother. If his happiness means so little to them, he should find a way to leave their circle of influence. It's a great big world out there and if you want to be together, there is some way, some where you can go to make this happen. If they know he is willing to leave and never see or talk with them again over this, they might change their attitudes.
By trying to commit suicide, you are playing into their hands and plan. Be strong... as strong as the love you have for this man! To end your life over their threats would not help him as you might think, only hurt him with your memory for the rest of his life. If it Did help him and he carried on well without you, what does this say about his love for you? Could this ever be a real expression of Love in either case?
You are stronger than you can possibly imagine. You Can find a way to make a life together possible if he wants this too. If he isn't strong enough or committed enough to build a life by your side, he is not worthy of your love. Harsh words, but as you get older you will see the truth of them. Set aside this emotion and fear that is overwhelming you so your mind is able to consider your options more clearly. You CAN see this through!
My heart goes out to you and I pray for the strength and vision you will need to get beyond this tragedy and make a new life... with or without this man.
2006-11-26 06:08:53 · answer #1 · answered by toastposties 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in India? I know that attitudes about marriage in India are much different than they are in America.
Does he need his family for money? Does he have a job? If he can support himself and you, he needs to just get away from his cruel family. Move to another place if you can and start a life without them. Whatever you do, DO NOT TRY TO KILL YOURSELF. His family will not care. As a matter of fact, they will probably be happy that you are gone. Do not do something that they want.
Now it is up to your boyfriend. He has to choose between you or his family. He is an adult so he must make up his own mind. If he chooses them, you must have some pride and move on. There are other men, even better men who know what love really means. Talk to a Dr. about your depression. You can go. Please don't hurt yourself again. No man is worth that.
2006-11-26 05:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a problem here, you are letting other people into your life and letting them choose your course of life? How is that anyone can make that choice for you? You have to stand up and stay strong! Get some professional help with your problems, talk it out and they wont seem so monumental. You have been given a second chance at life, now go on and use it. Make something out of this knowledge. You are better than that. Next time, there might not be a next time.
2006-11-26 05:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by Prissie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all by u trying to kill your self means that u give the love of your life up without a really fight.....
Stand for what is yours and make sure u put in a fight try to have nothing to do with his family they're only trouble....
Get married he could always get another job called it a bluff if they're really love their brother and they say then the will never do any thing to hurt him intentionally....
Be brave and if u die to u know how much pain would u put throught your bf and you're only make things easier for them to win
If u try to please everyone in your family u will be the one who will be the most misrable......
My prayers are with u and trying praying to god he's the one who didn't let u die because your life here is not finish....
2006-11-26 05:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by tutsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter how hard life seems suicide is never an answer. something could change tomorrow for the better and you wouldnt be here to know it. it sounds to me like you are both young. family cant keep the two of you being together if that is what you want if you are over 18. if you are younger than that if your love is strong enough you might have to wait. just remember what i said about not being here tomorrow to find out that things changed for the best. good luck
2006-11-26 05:27:06 · answer #5 · answered by COCOA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An unattainable love is the most difficult of all, however faith and hope are able to overcome all obstacles. If you both truly wish to be with each other, it will happen. Perhaps not right away, and it could take many years. Keep him alive in your heart, and throww the hopeless suicide away, for it does no one any good.Remember, when you are down to nothing, god is up to something!
2006-11-26 05:25:04 · answer #6 · answered by dominicaquilino 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
where do you live???? can you two leave together? maybe start a life somewhere without them... ?
i am not sure what to say to you, but suicide is not the answer. this is not the answer to any of your problems.
is he really worth all of this? i imagine you think he is.... just leave... go far far far away....
2006-11-26 05:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN LIFE IS TOO SHORT 4 ALL THIS ITS A PRECIOUS GIFT THAT SHOULDNT BE WASTED
2006-11-26 05:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by jaydyne f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋