I had three kids when I met my husband. They all love him. We have one together. He has physical and mental problems because f which he completely ignored me and the kids for 3yrs. No signs of caring or affection and absolutely no sex. He let himself go.He hasn't worked during that time. For 3 years I begged and pleaded with him. Tod him I was desperate for his attention and love and let's face it being in my 30s I get outright horney sometimes. I tried everything to appeal to him. Even warned him that I was vulnerable enough and lonely enough to have an affair before I ever cheated on him. Hey I know cheating is wrong but I did go 2&1/2 years without love or sex. When the neglect and my own guilt reached the breaking point I finally told him to leave. And I meant it. But he's still here. He says he can't let me go. Then sometimes he tells me that he will leave. I love him, but not the way a wife should. I have fallen in love with someone, but that is not my reason for divorce. Help!
2006-11-26 05:06:42 · 7 answers · asked by frontdeskwaitress 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is what is known as alienation of affection and dereliction of husbands duties to his wife, family. Not that any of that matters in divorce court anymore but the differences are too far apart now to reconcile and save this marriage. It seems like he just doesnt really care no matter how much you threaten him to change so its time for some tough love. You just have to decide whether youre better off with or without him, but I sense youve already decided that. Divorce him before you start a new relationship so the kids can never blame you for cheating on dad in the future. Good luck
2006-11-26 05:16:44 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is a fact that your husband is suffering from some type of depression, get him some help. For u decide to just give up on him, Is wrong. In courage, him to get help and do the research with him. Do this together, so that u can save your marriage. Don't just give up and replaces him for another man. What about the vows that you made in front of God, Remember! U seen something in him to marrry him. If the shoe was on the other foot, would u want him to just leave u. Stand by your husband. There alway hope.
2006-11-26 05:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by JW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 13:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce hubby and make a better choice of husbands next time.
Do some serious background investigation..
Previous marriages & kids, child support etc..
Credit rating...Credit Cards..
Employment, Future earnings..
Cars, House ownership..
Education, Family background, siblings / parents..
Family money...Bank accounts etc. etc. etc...
You are making a MAJOR investment...Don't go into it blind...
Get a good pre-nup before marriage..
2006-11-26 05:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should leave.
Yes it's hard to do, but frankly, you can't control another person.
So you've asked him, he refuses. That means that you have to do the hard task yourself instead of trying to get him to do your dirty work for you.
Frankly, I think you put way too much blame on him, and you don't want to be the "bad gal" and want him to do the heavy lifting.
So leave or work on your marriage, but stop expecting him to do anything.
2006-11-26 05:40:49 · answer #5 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man has physical and mental problems SO he cant have sex with you! It may hurt him and its disquesting why you want to leave. IT IS NOT HIS FAULT!! I bet YOU have a problem. NO ONE IS PERFECT LADY!!!
2006-11-26 05:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
GIVE HIM A CERTAIN TIME LINE..............SAY, 2 WEEKS. TELL HIM THE DATE AND MARK IT ON THE CALENDAR, WHEN DATE ARRIVES, IF HE HASN'T MADE A MOVE, TO MOVE, PACK HIS STUFF, PUT IT OUTSIDE, CALL HIM OUTSIDE, SLIP BACK INSIDE LOCK DOOR!!!! TADA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-26 05:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by mamaexfour 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋