After being married for about 6 months we have no sex life
I dunno if my husband is not interested in me or what but we don't seem to be having sex as much and as often as we used to
anyone in the same boat??
Before our marraige we had sex all the time we made tim for it now we don't
2006-11-26 05:04:24 · 17 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's normal... It come and goes from time to time... It will pick back up and then go down again... That's just a weird thing about being married.
2006-11-26 05:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married six months...we used to have sex alll the time before we got married and up til about a month or so ago. We still have sex but not as often as we used to. His job is so demending with irregular hours that I'm lucky he comes home at all some nights.On the weekends, he was to relax and all. It's probably not that he's not intrested in you, it might just be stressed out. Talk to him about it, you'll feel better.
2006-11-26 13:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
married life is not easy huh?! i have been married for a while now... def more work than i ever imagined.
well, i guess you should take the bull by the horns.... hehe.... anyway, set up a uber-romantic scene in your house that he just cannot walk away from, and get those passion juices flowing... then after you are both satisfied say something like "we really need to make time for this more often" and see what he says.... try to get him on board... maybe he will bring up his concerns without too much probing from you.
but either way, you will have completely satisfied him, and expressed that you are ready, willing, and able.... if it continues to be a problem after that, then i recomend having a serious talk with him sans sex.
2006-11-26 13:09:22 · answer #3 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to admit that I have sex less than when I was single. I have been married for 10 years, and only until recently my wife and I have discussed the issue and now things are getting better.
My suggestion is to talk to him, see what he wants and see if you can find out what he is interested in. Don't be shocked that some things might make you a little un-comfortable. You need to explore and try different things...and you might find that you also like the "different" things.
Good luck.
2006-11-26 13:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhhhhh yes that happened to me, I have been married for a year and a half now and it has gotten better..but I definitely want it more often than him. I have heard this happen to many other Lady's..I have 3 sisters and 2 sister-in-laws..they all have had the same thing happen. things will pick up. I think that it is because the guy knows he can "get it whenever" so he doesn't feel worried about not having sex alot, because when he is up to it..he has his wife....Guys minds work soooo differently then women's!
2006-11-26 13:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by Leslie 1985 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie try something new. Before you got married it was exciting to do because it was a "no-no" now it's always there. Talk to him. Have you tried that? Ask him why. Sometimes if you were doing it all the time before it takes away from the wonderment of being married. ie: It's not going anywhere maybe tomorrow.
2006-11-26 13:08:44 · answer #6 · answered by dnisey64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words...so go out and buy something and show it to him lol...lingerie...a sex toy...they have those 'vibrating rings' now that come in condom packages...he might be feeling stressed, or tied down. Do something to spice things up...kiss him differently, touch him in a different way...
Both partners have to make time, and both need to address the issue before it becomes a bigger issue.
I would let him know how you feel..wait a few days, and see what he does and how he responds to your new actions. If nothing helps, it's not you, it's him.
2006-11-26 13:17:14 · answer #7 · answered by Little Jeannie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How if you try to surprise him with something that makes him interesting to have sex with you. Like to grab him, hot kissing, or whatever he like.
Sometimes because of the tough problems at work make him so stress and forgets this kind of thing. Keep give him care even though you can not solve his problems, I think he will feel that he's appreciated and he's cared by his wife. Then you will have fun after he feel relax. But be patient, don't be rush and don't force him, OK.
2006-11-26 13:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal for a cooling off period .The newness wears off so you will adjust it takes time the first yr is the hardist .There are worse things after married tht you could have!
2006-11-26 13:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by jessy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something different to spice it up a little. Marriage shouldn't change you sex life.
2006-11-26 14:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Just Because 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋