My girlfriend has been divorced. Can I marry her?

Question

My girlfriend has been divorced twice. Her 1st husband is now remarried, but the 2nd is not. Based on Christianity, can I marry her?

Answer 1

Depends, did she have biblical grounds for divorce. I.E. did he cheat or was she divorced because he wanted a divorce and she couldn't stop him.

If either of those are true, then most likely, you are on firm ground, biblically speaking for the marriage being ok.

Now, if it's a good idea at this time is another question.

If she just got tired of those husbands and left them, or if she cites abusive husbands but cannot demonstrate where she involved the church in trying to reach her husband, I.E. she was a walk away wife, I'd say no, you can't marry as she didn't have scriptural bounds.

Personally, I'd want to speak with her and her pastor, and get the story from both of them.

If she didn't involve her pastor at the time, then I would be leary of marrying her, not to mention have serious questions about the legitimacy of her divorces, scripturally speaking.

Answer 2

You should post the question under religion and spirituality to see what answer you get from all those religious buffs, seriously they may be more helpful on the question of christianity. That said I would imagine it depends on the type of christianity... so check it out. Generally speaking, I believe that G-d is there for your happiness and so will not judge you on someone else's two marriages. After all it is she who remarried and not you.

Answer 3

Nope! Sorry! She isn't obviously worried about Christian ethics, why are you? Sounds like an unequally yoked situation. You need to find another girlfriend dude! This has future problems written all over it! Tell me something... are you a virgin? If yes, you will always resent the fact that she isn't! I know, I know, you love her a bunch... that will not be enough! Tell her that your beliefs prevent you from being with her, as a husband and a boyfriend.I chose to ignore this advice when it was given to me. I paid for it with 5 years of pain and suffering that no marriage should go through!

Answer 4

marriage is a partnership of TWO. How can anyone here judge this girl only on the prior divorces? maybe she tried very hard to make them work and both of the other men were cheaters or had drug problems or whatever?

isn't it just possible she respects the true meaning of marriage and refused to settle for a pile of ****...BECAUSE she knows the difference?

"Judge not lest yee be judged"...now THAT'S Christian.

Answer 5

I'm not sure what sect of Christianity you're a part of. Catholics will sometimes annul the previous marriage. But, I suspect the answer varies. What are you? Baptist, episcopalian, etc.? Then I could better answer this question.

Answer 6

Based purely on Christain values, she is no longer pure unless the marriages have been annulled, meaning they never occured. Based on todays values and moral, who really cares? Nobody is truly following their faith as they should but if you can give your gf a truly happy and loving marraige, I dont think God would object too much as this is what the world is short of. Good luck

Answer 7

I hope you are not the reason of these divorces. Anyways now its your turn to divorce her. Get married.

Answer 8

Yes, of course you can..
I would look into the reasons behind her first two divorces..

Answer 9

Yea why not it between u and her and if u'll is ready to head in that direction

Answer 10

if you love her,then yes.three times a charm..GOOD LUCK TO YOU BOTH!!