I a disable Army VET. nothing physical,mostly mental it sounds worst then it really is,but i'm doing great now ...My question is if we meet and we hit it off would you still date me..or would the fact that I was Medically retired bother you...Moneys no problem I make over $50.000 a yr TAX FREE.....If you wouldn't date me WHY ....I was in Iraq ..i did and seen a little to much..
2006-11-26 04:51:16 · 14 answers · asked by cra r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you really want to know if a woman likes you for you, don't tell them about the 50 grand. You don't want a gold digger.
2006-11-26 05:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no --- if we hit it off it wouldn't bother me one bit! EVERYONE comes with some baggage -- so your bags are a little more weighty than some other guys. I would imagine if we started a relationship there would be a period of learning so that I could better understand your needs and to be able to help you if you wanted or needed help. But ALL relationships take work. In some ways knowing this about you could prove to be beneficial since this issue would be up front and in the open and thus more readily dealt with!
I am not a fan of ANY war but I repsect and admire those people who serve their country. You did a job that few are willing to do and I'm very that you have to WORRY about stuff like this after what you must have been through. THANK YOU for being their for the USA.
Good luck hun, I am sure there is a great gal out there who is perfect for you!
Alley
P.S. You sound very nice. :)
2006-11-26 05:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by alleymarziacat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 brothers in the military, all have been there and it is not easily "fixed" when you have seen things that you can't get out of your head and the people around you just don't understand. When you get into a relationship with someone, you should be upfront from the begining. But if we had hit it off than of course I would date you as long as you continue to get help in what ever form you do. Good luck and thank you.
2006-11-26 05:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by buxomkity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how your mental well being manifests in the real world. If you are having mental problems, it may be difficult for you to connect romatically. I would not get involved with anyone if I did not feel deep love and committment, and if I was not well treated. Woment want to be romanced and treated like a princess and if you can do that, then your disablility will not matter. So if your disability gets in the way of pure decency and the ability to truly love, then get help.
2006-11-26 05:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by meldorhan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My lover is in the same situation, Vietnam and PTSD. I love him more than I have ever loved any man. He has integrity and has been down. Therefore, he has developed empathy and maturity. If something happened to our relationship, I would look again for a retired military man.
So, the answer to your question, from my point of view, is yes. You will find some intelligent lady who is calm and mature. She will be understanding and capable of long-term true love without needing to be the "STAR" of the relationship.
2006-11-26 05:43:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would date you i would never judge a man by somthing that he couldnt handle and that fact that you were in iraq was incredible a good thing of you to do i think that if more men were like you we would be alright rather than the type that would sit by and watch the world rather than act out and you shouldnt judge a man by how big his pocket book is but by who he is...
2006-11-26 04:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by Beth m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone truly loves and cares about you, your disability won't matter to them. It sound's like you've gotten the help you needed to get over the horrible thing you had to go through and see while fighting in Iraq. My husband is disabled it doesn't stop me from loving him. I don't think you need to tell everyone you date about your disability but if your feeling like its going to become serious then be honest if she cares about you it won't matter. Good luck
2006-11-26 05:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by paulamcneil1223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am a disabled female vet with similar problems...i would never judge you for something like that. Unfortunately it does scare some women/men. Just as long as you stay on your meds! Us Army here...
2006-11-26 06:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by nmgirl3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am confident that time heals all things. if we met and hit it off, then i would try to be there for you during the hard times..... you will find someone.
maybe you are not everyones type, but don't be discouraged if you date a few before you find the one.
and no, a post traumatic stress or whatever mental issues you are going through is not a reason to not look your way
2006-11-26 04:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has sufficient earnings to assist herself she'll be effective, yet she'll have not any recourse to public money i.e. advantages in this u . s . a . and could be unlikely to get loose medical care. although those policies are being challenged in the ecu courtroom sometime this Spring, so save a watch on the information - she could be entitled to each thing in spite of each and every thing
2016-10-04 09:31:50 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a woman turns away from you simply because of your disability, she isn't worth worrying about.
If a woman stays with you because of money, she isn't worth worrying about.
Someone will love and accept you the way you are, stop looking for them and suddenly they will appear! And, no, your disability will not matter to that person.
2006-11-26 04:57:06 · answer #11 · answered by Kazweg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋