I am divoriced we have a five year old. My ex wife has a boyfriend and a new baby from him. I once kept my son for nearly a month as she was in hiding from him. Then I pick up my son from the police station after he hit her in front of my son. She keeps getting back with him and Im worried about my son.
2006-11-26 04:46:58 · 19 answers · asked by eubanks_terry 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Apply for custody via your lawyer.
2006-11-26 04:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
These are possible grounds for custody as the Courts are supposed to protect minors and place them with a custodial parent who will best serve their interests. You are, in my opinion, under a duty to bring this to the Court's attention. Maybe that will shake you ex up enough to leave the bad guy and make better choices, or maybe you will get your child. Either way it will be better for the kid. Do not wait until the child is another statistic. If you cannot afford a lawyer go down to the county court and find out about their self help center, family law failitator or whatever other resources they have. Here is a good website for state specific information:
www.divorcesource.com
www.divorcenet.com
goodluck
2006-11-26 04:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by meldorhan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who has custody? If it's joint, go back to court for sole custody, if you can get that in your state. Call your local Dept. of Child and Family Services for advice; they deal with this stuff all the time. Ask for a restraining order against the other man from your District Atty's office, as there's obviously a report on file of the abuse, if you're picking him up at the police station. Good Luck.
2006-11-26 04:55:46 · answer #3 · answered by ranebo1000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have or can get copiesof any police reports or medical reports of what youre stating, then petition the court for remodificatio of child custody hearing based on that he is in a hostile and dangerous environment that is detrimental to his well being. If this fails and zI seriousily doubt it if you can prove this, then ask for a child services survey of the house explaining what you know. Now if all you have is hearsay try and get some real evidence of such before petitioning the court. This is a very dangerous situation for your son but the courts can only act upon real and hard evidence. Good luck
2006-11-26 05:38:11 · answer #4 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Notify your state social services department that your son is in danger when he is with his mother. Since the police have already had to intervene there is already a record that the situation at the mother's house causes child endangerment. Also check any local agencies that counsel women in domestic violence. They should be able to help you, even though you are the father. You need to take action immediately, your son's health and well-being depend on it. Don't delay one moment.
2006-11-26 04:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately domestic violence victims (with low self esteem drilled into them) continually go back to their abusers. To prevent your son from witnessing ,or God forbid, becoming a victim, go to your Child Protective Svcs. and report the problem, keep everything documented, and try and get her visitation rights modified, ie, she can only visit him at her parents home, or with your family. That gets your son away from the abuser and his Mom can still see him. If, however, you think she isn't capable of being a "healthy" influence around your son under any circumstances, maybe you should ask the courts to reconsider her visitation rights until she is.
2006-11-26 04:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by Tweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I know where you are coming from because I am currently helping a friend that is in a similar situation like you so, here's my advice, If I was you I would go and get myself an attorney and try to get full custody of your son. That is really the only way that you can be sure that your son will be safe. Second, I would try to talk her out of going back with her boyfriend because he is abusive. Try to get her into counseling and even try to offer taking her to her destination. I hope this helps and please try to get back with me to let me know how things are going.
2006-11-26 06:27:52 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a copy of the the domestic violence report there are, or hired a lawyer, get full custody of your son sense being over at your ex wife's is and unhealthy and unsafe environment for him.
2006-11-26 05:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to go thru the court system and get custody of your son. The b/f is hitting your ex now, and it's only a matter of time before he starts hitting your son too.
2006-11-26 04:51:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and see a lawyer about getting permanent and full custody of your son. Then you don't have to let your son go there. If you will have to give up work you can get help from the welfare.
Good luck.
2006-11-26 04:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by lou b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ovisly she is not mentely stabel, and the good thing is that your son knows whats going on,i cant tell you anything more then be care full, i dono if you can prove anything to the court that your son is getting abused by his mom i f he can vidio her or record what she dose with out her knowing and get a lower and let him tack an action, if the kid tells the cort that he cant go there because of what she is doing and prove it with the recording i thing it migth help...i can't say anything more i really want to help cause the siwation you and your son r in is not a very good one
2016-03-29 09:47:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋