This time around he wants to keep everything separate. We have purchased a house together, but that is the only thing that we have together. Bank accounts, tax returns everything is separate. When we go out to eat he will pay for the meal. If we go shopping he will pay for what he gets for himself and his daughter and I will pay for what I get for me and my daughters. If we go on trips he pays his way and I pay for mine. Is there anyone else out that that lives this way? I really don't mined that much. I mean since this is second marriage for both of us, we both want what we have to go to our children. Just wondering.
2006-11-26 04:36:36 · 17 answers · asked by grace 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sweetie, married filing separate is costing you a pretty penny to "date" your husband.
His invisible pre-nup leaves you legally separated from whatever his real finances are- good and bad. There is NO protection from the bad.
He gets a tax lien next week? You get to see his income disappear while you pick up the tab for the joint bills.
Per my bestfriend ..."A boyfriend will shoot the wolf at your door- a husband helps build a fence to keep the wolves away." Girl, you've got a boyfriend.
You deserve to be trusted in full, as a wife, no less than the trust he gave the 1st wife. Sorry he "lost it all" and she was a scoundrel...you shouldn't pay for HER crime.
And what happens if you should lose your job? Will he hand you a bill for your "half" of this marriage????
You deserve better.
2006-11-26 05:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by upside down 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you sure it really doesn't bother you??? I think the fact that you both purchased a home together shows that he doesn't want to completely keep you both financially seperated, but paying for his own portion of a trips is a bit much. Since I've gone through a divorce, and have also dated men who been divorced and lost everything, I can understand, to a degree, why a man would want to keep something for himself, but its also VERY good that you also have something for yourself as well!! Try to be understanding of what he went through in the past with his previous marriage/divorce. If he lost everything I'm sure you can understand why he wants to be cautious. It doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't trust you, but filing tax returns separately doesn't make sense to me.
2006-11-26 05:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by tranquil1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but this does not set well with me. Seems to me you are paying for "her" misdeeds.
What kind of marriage vows did the two of you take on your second marriage? I was married twice myself and my vows the second time around were basically the same as the first time...in sickness and health, richer or poorer till death us do part. If your marriage to this man is to be any kind of long and lasting union then you need to seriously talk to a marriage councilor to help him see that just because he "lost" in his first relationship does not mean that this one is doomed...for that is how he is treating this marriage to you
2006-11-26 04:54:44 · answer #3 · answered by sassywv 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, thats very interesting. My husband and I have separate bank accounts. I have my name on the house and he doesn't, but it sounds like your husband is taking it to the extreme. If you were to divorce again and you live in a no fault state everything gets split 50/50. I think you should talk to him about sharing shopping expenses and dinner expenses. He sounds a little cheap and/or selfish. No offense, really.
2006-11-26 04:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by hazelblue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that my dear is not a marriage . a marriage is not any way near what you two are doing . who pays for groceries do you each buy their own food ? that is called being a room mate that is not a marriage. and has he ever bought you any clothes? If not then he is a tard and you need to get a divorce . You and your daughters would be better off by yourselves. believe me i know. good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-11-26 05:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sure she may be caught as there's a seal in d women reprductive area which whilst a grl has s*x breaks n this is d way a guy can come to knw if the girl is virgin or no longer bt the seal from time to time gets additionally broken if the girl has accomplished swimming or is an athlete wish this helps u :)
2016-10-17 13:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give it time. He is scared that its not going to work out with you and him and he does not want to make the same mistakes twice.
Hopefully he can regain that trust where you both can make big purchases and he wont be scared.
2006-11-26 04:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by Gucci S 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't see any problem here. I could see a joint account to deposit money for bills and other household expenses, but otherwise, I would probably do the same.
2006-11-26 04:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i can understand that. but i don't see why you have to go to such measures when you could have jsut gotten a pre-nup, that would make the most sence to me. and you shouldn't really havre to worry if you are that much in love with eachother.
2006-11-26 04:39:32 · answer #9 · answered by xSarahx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOVE IS LOVE,i am single now but hope to get married next year,i have it all money 2 homes cars, boats a $800,000 a year income all i want is her,what mine now will become hers, its love
2006-11-26 04:43:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋