My husband and I are trying to work on our marriage but his mistress is still living with him. Why won't she leave? He won't kick her out because she doesn't have a job and he's a good man.
He spends all of his free time with me so it's like she doesn't exist in his life. He even spends the night with me sometimes and leaves her all alone. She was even alone for the holidays.
How can my husband and I work it out if she's still there? Why won't she leave? How can she be satisfied living in an apartment with a married man who is hardly ever there?
2006-11-26 04:27:18 · 20 answers · asked by blue eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would she leave if she is not being told that she has to and when everything is taken care of by your husband. I am here to tell you that the fact that she is not leaving is not her fault, it is your husbands. Not kicking her out does not make him a good man, that makes him lazy because he doesn't want to be the bad guy. You have no idea what he is telling her when he is there, maybe he if feeding her a line of sh** like he is you otherwise she would not be there. Don't be blind because you love your husband. If he really wants to work this out with you he will kick her out. How could you want a man like that in your life that won't do everything possible to try and work it out with you, even if it makes him the bad guy.
2006-11-26 04:34:47 · answer #1 · answered by buxomkity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did you say nice. I am afraid it is so. How come a nice person would ever have a mistress once his wife is still alive. Lady being nice is something else and being senseable is totally a different dimension. He got to be sensible to take the decisions boldly. He must develop the courage to ask her to move out because it is a matter of his and your life. Involving a third party and spoiling ones married life is no nice thing to do its total stupidity or cowardice approach or unfair approach towards ones married life. Ask him to stand on his feet get her some job and ask her to leave. Solutions are generally simple if you have the strength to implement them.
2006-11-26 13:01:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your husbands a good man why did he have a mistress in the first place and secondly if you to are back together maybe you should help her wait MAKE her get a job then after she has one he can kick her out
2006-11-26 12:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those situations that youa re going to have to stand up and put your foot down. In no way shape or form should you find it acceptable for some woman to be living with your husband. No matter how much time he spends with you she should not be having another woman anywhere. Let him know that the other woman must go. You are his wife period. That other woman is not his concern if he is truly trying to work things out with you. You set the rules, you set the standard.
2006-11-26 12:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by Laila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if this woman is the type who will just use not only your husband but anybody for as much as she can. She will stay as long as the option is open for her and even then she may have to be forced to leave. Some people like to only be involved with others who have some sort of commitment to others as this absolves them from a total commitment themselves. When they have gotten all they think available from that person they wont feel guilty from dissolving the tie between them. Your husband will need to make it clear in absolutely no uncertain terms that she needs to leave and not return. You may also need to consider the chance that your husband may be playing the situation to what he thinks is his best advantage. He may not leave the other woman unless he has a certainty that he will gain in his relationship with you whatever he is seeking by having gone to another woman to begin with. When a person leaves a relationship by joining with another person I believe that it was because there was something they perceived as lacking in the first relationship which caused the action in the first place, he will need to be sure he will gain that in order to totally convince him to return to you in full.
2006-11-26 12:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by tkrwlly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart. please tell me that your not buying his lame *** line about him being a nice guy so he cant kick his whore out because she doesn't have a job. Your husband is having his cake and eating it too. Why would she leave? he hasn't made her and he isn't going to. What you need to do is go over to his place, walk right in and beat that chicks you know what and throw her and all of her things out the damn door. Then you need to go through with divorcing your husband and find someone who wont have his "sidelines". Your a doormat honey and its about time you turned the tables. Good Luck =)
2006-11-26 12:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by Danelle 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Some men can't get enough from 1 woman.. Since this other lady is always there for him, then why leave her !
She may be benefiting from his money.. In addition, its a good place 2 live at.. So why leave ? lol .. if ur husband is serious with u, then he gota do something about that other lady !!
2006-11-26 12:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by Sandy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what if your husband was really a nice guy and he cared about you he would have kicked her out in an instant if he was really trying to make it work with you
2006-11-26 12:32:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be joking. First, the word "good man" and "his mistress" should not be used in a sentence ever. Move on and work on your self esteem issues.
2006-11-26 12:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by hazelblue 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If my "sweety" doesn't put her foot down and tell my "honey" to get out and leave now and raise holy living H--- about it, I would (being a man) allow both honey and sweety to stay. He thinks your okay with it cause you're not raising a stink about it. C'mon he's got it made living with two women. You need to set them both straight.
2006-11-26 12:35:15 · answer #10 · answered by G-pops 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋