Why is it that some people are always hated by everyone?

Question

Like me. My parents and my family all hate me. I don't even have any real friends. I want to know if I was just made that way or is it the way I present myself?

Answer 1

It's more often what a person is doing, rather than the person themself, that a person is liked or disliked for. Unless the people in question are biased, racist, or otherwise 'affected'. Concern yourself with the one who can help you be the best that you can be. I suggest reading ...

What Kind of Education Can Make Your Life a Success?
- Benefit From the Best Education Available
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2005/10/15/article_01.htm *

What Is Your Life Worth?
- Is it Precious or Cheap?
- How Precious Your Life Is!
http://watchtower.org/e/20050201/article_01.htm

Alone but Not Lonely :
- Why So Many Lonely People?
- When No One Will Ever Feel Lonely Again
- What You Can Do About Loneliness
http://watchtower.org/e/20040608/article_01.htm

How to Make Real Friends :
- We All Need Friends
- Satisfying Our Hunger for Friendship
- Good Friends--Bad Friends
- (A Note to Parents)
http://watchtower.org/e/20041208/article_01.htm

EMPATHY--Key to Kindness and Compassion
- What IS Empathy
- Scriptural Examples of Empathy
- How to Cultivate Empathy
- Empathy Helps in Christian Activities
- Cultivate Fellow Feeling
http://www.watchtower.org/library/w/2002/4/15/article_01.htm *

*(These URLs may soon change, but after that, Advanced Search at http://watchtower.org/search/search_e.htm will find the new URLs. It can also find info on other things, or Use the Index there.)

Answer 2

Well girlfriend, I was hated all my life and now I'm 48 years old and I'm still hated in my home town. But I have learned out why with some of them. They hate me because I have a decent looking body and face and their mates are always looking my way because they are fat and ugly. But like I told them: its not my fault that I'm made this way and I can't help what your mates do. If they look and don't touch whats the problem?
I also have learned that if you don't like me for what I am and the way I look, then don't hang around me and don't look at me. But I like the way I am if you don't and thats all that matters. I have never cared what other people thought of me. I never wore trendy clothes, I wore what I wanted. I danced the way I wanted, and I acted myself. Around my folks and friends and all the time. As long as your happen with yourself, screw everyone else. Your the one who has to be happy with yourself. So just remember that kiddo!!!!

Answer 3

I DON'T know. as 4 yr family I don't think they hate u but having said that maybe it's bcoz u don't want to compromise on some issues so pliz check on that. Now I'll be honest wit u although i get along wit my family I've got a lot of probs at school. most of the pple seem to hate me n I just don't understand why. I think It's partly bcoz I'm different n no one can accept that (not gay). so gud luck in getting to the root of this prob just remember u r not the only 1

Answer 4

Hey, you're not hated by everyone. God luvs 2. He luvs everyone equally. He loves people with lots of "flaws" and he loves people who have "everything." There are no boundaries. His love is better than any other love you could experience too. Better than a parent's love or a friend's love.

this is from 1 corinthians 13. the whole chapter is about love.

Love
1If I speak in the tongues[a] of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3If I give all I possess to the poor and surrender my body to the flames,[b] but have not love, I gain nothing.
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.





It's basically saying that we need to love and to be loved. and you are loved. verse 4-7 there is all about what true christian love is all about. anyone who's been patient with you has loved you. anyone who's been the least bit kind to you is showing love. sometimes God works in your life and you don't even know it. there are so many passages in the bible about God and his extreme love. http://www.biblegateway.com that's an online bible if you don't have one. but u gotta trust that he loves you. you're loved. peace out.

Answer 5

You dont describe your demeanor at all so this is hard to answer. Maybe you come off cocky or arrogant and this can be a real turn off for people.
I doubt your parents hate you. Maybe you can sit them down and ask them because thats the way they are making you feel.

Answer 6

i dont believe that family or parents could hate you but i think the reasons people are hated by others it because of the way they act and treat others.

Answer 7

Go stand in front of the mirror and repeat after me...

I LOVE YOU! I LIKE YOU! I LOVE YOU! I LIKE YOU!

I don't believe your parents hate you, but I bet there are some behaviors that they dislike.

Generally, people hate behaviors, not people.

Answer 8

It's always easy for people to say it's you.....you should your attitude....but i believe that sometimes the problem does rest with other people....your family should love you regardless.....it's called unconditional love....maybe people are just jealous of you for some reason.....but remember you cannot change other people, but you can change yourself....so learn to love yourself....you are important as much as any one else.....so good luck.

Answer 9

Really, it could be the way you present yourself. I wouldn't say change yourself completely, but conform to how they'd like to see you a little bit. You're an individual. Stay true to yourself!

Answer 10

not to be mean, but its propbaly the way you present yourself. If u dont have any real freinds. your parents dont hate you. Maybe you just do somethings sometimes to piss them off.