How did you all overcome? How long have you been married?
2006-11-26 04:15:13 · 16 answers · asked by Jaedyn=God has heard 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow! I have been married to my husband for 9 years this January. We have overcome some horrible conditions. I do not want to go into detail here online. However, I love my husband despite the things we have been thru. Infidelity was not one of the issues, but we were involuntarily separated for 3yrs 8 mos. We have been thru things with our ex's...just about anything that could go wrong has...Now, we are best friends and know each other inside and out. Trauma brought us closer...it is often not that way in marriages. We're blessed that way..I had to spend Thanksgiving alone again this year...but we will get thru this. So, the answer is yes. Despite everything and everyone, if you want to overcome, you will.
2006-11-26 06:54:05 · answer #1 · answered by nmgirl3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice is to find a couple who have been married over 10 years. In fact the longer the better. Like 15 or 25 or even 50 years married. And have a conversation with them. You'll be surprised at what problems they have had the they have overcome.
2006-11-26 12:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by PAT K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We've been together for 5 years and married for a year and a half.
Every marriage will have its problems...no matter how much you love each other. Overcoming the problems is a matter of being mature, talking about it, and forgiveness. If you can't do that, then you're not ready to be married.
2006-11-26 12:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by lkjgfyfukh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of marriage problem? If you are speaking of disagreements over child rearing, money, time, hobbies, of course. If you are talking the ultimate betrayal of cheating, why would you wish even to try???? Yours is a questions that will require about 20 minutes for me to answer this, but it begs to be answered, so....
Marriage is Admiration, Respect Passion and Trust. If the trust is gone, thru betrayal, and your spouse has shared his/her passion, body and soul with another, for sure the other two will erode, probably even with therapy. Any therapist will tell you that it will take more than two years to rebuild the trust, and that is if both wish to save the marriage, and even then no guarantee. You cannot unscramble an egg..... you can make something else of it, but not unscramble it. And, starring at more than 2 years to many of us just wasn't worth it. I walked away from an 18 year marriage when I found out it was crowded, and I never looked back. The moment I found out, about vomited in his face.... and the thought of him again touching me was revolting..... We became friends again, (over the phone -- I left the state) but I never wanted to be married to him....hon, life just too short, and there always would have been in the back of my mind, "okay, where is he now?"
Helpful? If you need to know more, drop me a line....
2006-11-26 12:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Me and hubby had some problems with anger. He would say something I didn't like, so I would hit him, and we went back and forth. We argued all the time, mainly because I was hormonal(pregnant). It also didn't help that we were not financially secure and we were stressed out because of that, plus a new baby. Finally, we just stopped arguing, and figured it was getting us nowhere. We haven't had an argument in about 6 months(even before that wasn't a bad one). We bicker, but that is normal. We have been married for 3 1/2 years. Most of our arguments took place before we were married. But, we are past it. :)
2006-11-26 12:21:49 · answer #5 · answered by metallicachic82 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Currently having marriage problems... just past our 1st year anniversary. We were living together for 4 years before we got married and everything was fine (with inevitable bumps here and there), but for some reason its been really difficult. They say the 1st year is the hardest so let's hope that's true!
2006-11-26 12:30:51 · answer #6 · answered by Cantrelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah we had problems but we over came them by talking and talking during make-up sex.I'm 32 and he is 29,and we have been married for 11 years.
p.s i got pregnant at 19.We have 4 girls,and we are working through a problem now[he cheated but I don't want to leave because of the kids and he is/was a good man,I THINK.]
2006-11-26 12:25:20 · answer #7 · answered by ReDeana Donnae 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
11 years- Yes! You can too if that's what you both want. We went through the ultimate marriage breaker. Infidelity! I was stupid enough to think that I was ready to leave my wife so I just said forget the arguing and disagreements I'm outta here, but then I read in the Bible where it says "WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE" I then believed if we added God to our marriage it could work. That was almost 3 years ago. Today we share our martial experiences with others to let them know your marriage is stronger than whatever is trying to destroy it. You've got to work for it.
2006-11-26 14:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by Cory 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion communication is the main key to keep your marriage going. I have been married for 2 years but we have been together for longer. We work together, and spend 24/7 together. I wouldnt have in any other way because he is my best friend.
2006-11-26 12:19:14 · answer #9 · answered by kra_z_fly_chic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have. We both realized where the problems were in out marriage. We then both agreed to work on them. Needless to say. We have been separated for a year. But it took time for us both to realize that we both needed to work on things. The time apart also gave us the chance to work on our individual problems. It also showed us that we couldnt live without each other. I hope i have helped you some.
2006-11-26 12:20:30 · answer #10 · answered by stevenmt27 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋