We were planning to get engaged soon. He has a bad relationship with his parents. They think ill cheat on him because "im too good for him" and they even told him that! Well we just ignore them and there negative comments. i can only talk to his real mom, the others dont care and want us out.
Then just before he was about to move in with me, his adpoted 5 month son was taken away! we loved him very much and now we dont see him because his family said he was a single father. i was living in a different state then, i couldnt do anything.
The problem is.. he acts very cheerful, but even tho he is very depressed and angered by lots of these things, such as our son being taken away, his job (military) he likes his job jsut the things he seen there, and his family. i dont know how to help him! can anyone suggest anything?
2006-11-26 04:15:08 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he already takes anger manegment, but we both dont have enough money for him to take therapy
2006-11-26 04:33:11 · update #1
the child was taken cause he works in the military and he was a single father, he couldnt take care of the child cause he would bee gone for days. they gave the child back to his birth mother who has a husband
2006-11-26 04:34:20 · update #2
First off, he needs to work with a lawyer about his son. That is up to him, I don't think you would have any legal standing.
Secondly, it does sound like he could use some counseling to help deal with all the nasty issues. You can urge him to go to counseling, and offer to participate also, since some of the issues are about his relationship with you, and how his family is reacting.
Good luck!
2006-11-26 04:27:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has enough stress and pressure he's dealing with right now. You need to remain strong for him and most of all, yourself! You must be supportive but at the same time not overly dependent. If the anger and depression are to much you may recommend he get into therapy. As for the famliy, remind them, your fiance, and others that you are marrying him, not the family. Good luck.
2006-11-26 04:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by cold runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sense being around his family is not good for him, break off ALL contact with them.
Why was the child taken??? Find out the facts for sure.
Tell him you are there and ask him what you can do???
You might need a lawyer to get back the baby is it worth a look see???
2006-11-26 04:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋