If you have a 3 year long love / hate relationship with someone before you marry and you get engaged and you have second thoughts for 6 months before the wedding and still have them when you will marry a day and half from the wedding day is it cold feet?
2006-11-26 04:09:38 · 12 answers · asked by Jennifer M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do love/hate marriages work out with polar opposites?Can you fall into love after you marry some one?
2006-11-26 04:11:19 · update #1
That's not having cold feet. Your instincts, intuition is trying to tell you something; trust in them, mine has never steered me wrong.
If you don't have any common ground with each other, you are going to have a very hard time in a marriage. You need to have some major and minor things in common for the marriage to work. As far as having a love/hate relationship, those aren't easy to have. Marriage isn't about hate, it's about loving someone with every fiber of your being and not wanting to live without them. A spouse should make you a better person and make you want to be a better person. Being married to the person of your dreams should complete you and make you feel as if you are complete by being with that person.
I do believe one can fall into love after one marries. There are many arranged marriages to this day and those couples don't know anything about each other until they are married and those couples grow to love one another.
2006-11-26 04:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think having a second thought about marriage is cold feet. Cold feet is when you're afraid of being commited, second thought is you're not sure whether to marry the person or not. If you're not sure about the marriage you shouldn't get married. Love/hate relationship doesn't work. Marriage is all about love, there's hate but that's during an arguement.
2006-11-26 04:14:20 · answer #2 · answered by superboredom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your having major problems now, there are not going to get better just because you get married. If I were you I would seriously think about why you are getting married and what you think is going to change after you do. I your saying you don't love this person now it's unlikely your going to grow to love them if the problems continue. You should both go to a marriage councilor and work this out before its to late. It's going to be much harder later and especially you have children with this person. Good luck I hope all works out well for you both.
2006-11-26 04:17:16 · answer #3 · answered by paulamcneil1223 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been riding the emotional roller coaster for three years. and it seems to balance out. but as you get older and into marriage those little things that get to you now will magnify and become huge things, things to hate despise and finally break up over. my advise is wait or even live with the guy first to see if things are gonna work if not run like the wind. Divorce is expensive, time consuming, heartbreaking, and very messy to name just a few of the cons. If your having doubts now they will be there forever my advise dont do it until your sure
2006-11-26 04:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by Cff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you had the love/hate relationship things couldn't have been that great between you two. You are probably scared of getting married because you still have the fear of your marriage turning into another live/hate relationship.
2006-11-26 04:13:30 · answer #5 · answered by faybe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of it rather is issues like mistrust Disrespect i think it rather is uncomplicated to bypass over to one in all those hateful strains of thinking. If it have been complicated there may be a sturdy wall and the line to that would not be uncomplicated. it would be a thick line between love and hate yet becuase it rather is uncomplicated to bypass over, then this is a skinny line between love and hate
2016-10-17 13:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN. it's not cold feet. on again off again relationships are not a healthy relationship!
2006-11-26 04:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not cold feet, just stupidity. Why stay around when you are unhappy. Do you think that it will change...
2006-11-26 04:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens to every one...if you really truely think this is your soul mate then go for it...but if you think y=theres more fish in the sea then yeah...follow your heart most of the time..its right!!!and sorry but i have no idea what cold feet is!!!?!?!?!!?!?!?!so yeah
2006-11-26 04:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by Muh-Kay-Luh cArTeR :]] 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are seriously fu*ck up in the head. Don't get marriec and mess the groom up to. It is not right.
2006-11-26 04:12:30 · answer #10 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋