I broke up with a friend 2 weeks because she has so much drama going on in her life and all she does is talk down on people, but never to me. She was nice. I've asked her not to say things like that to me, but she continuously did it anyway. So I told her that I could not be friends with someone who is so judgemental. Now, she called, living a message , today inviting my 1 year old son and I to her kids birthday party next weekend. She said its because her daughter misses my son. I used to babysit for those kids every other day and they loved playing with my son. What should I do? Should I just go for the kids? The party is taken place at chucky cheese and there will be people there that she hangs around with that are just like her. Drama, Gossipers.
2006-11-26 04:07:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
maybe you should go for the sake of your son, sumtimes mothers have to sacrifice alot for the happiness of their children, i think u shud do the same :)
2006-11-26 04:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by wacko 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i would give it a miss. You'll just feel terrible after going and being around her and her friends. I'm sure your son has many more friends that he can visit, so i wouldn't go just for that sake. If your friend thought about what you said then she wouldn't have asked. She obviously didn't take into consideration anything you said. If she thought about her kid at all she would try to tone down her actions so your son and her kid could have a relationship but she didn't. She still wants you to come to the party because she expects you to give in. Don't give into her and give her a clear message that you meant what you said.
2006-11-26 12:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell, her that you're sorry but you've already got other plans. Invite her daughter over to YOUR house on a different day when you call. Tell the mother that you can have her birthday present when she gets to your house. Remember to tell her once again that you're really sorry, but you DO have other plans! (this is not a lie your other plans are to not go to the party, lol!) If it really is because of the kids the woman will bring her child to your house another day, and the kids can have a play day together! If the mother wynes at you over the phone, tell her you're very sorry, and that you have to go or you'll be late for something (make it up)
2006-11-26 12:14:39 · answer #3 · answered by spaz buddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole situation doesn't sound like it is the best for you or your son. Your son is only one, and her daughter must be quite young too. They are not even old enough to talk or remember much. I say decline the invitation and keep the ties cut. I think she is using her daughter as an excuse to drag you back into her drama.
2006-11-26 12:12:39 · answer #4 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jb...Take it from an old man/father of two girls/grandpa too... :)...She misses you too!!..You got to her, when you were honest with her and regardless with what she may have said when you told her, she got the message...I might add, she has thought about it a lot...Hence the invite...I'll bet she used the kid's as the point of the call...It's been driving her crazy.....
The girl's that she hangs with now and at the party are as you say.."just like her"...That bores her and she needs some common sense in her life..."you"....Yes the kid's miss each other, but , not as much as her...
Go to the party..act cool/friendly...I guarentee, she will be vying for your attention.. :)...Make no "get together promises"..Just say, you have a busy week ahead etc...Leave with your son as soon as you can...Be cool....Let her think some more...If she says" How come you are being so quiet or whatever, when trying to get a commitment from you...let her know that you still feel the same and we can be friends, just not as before....
Do it for your son...Don't get used anymore, sounds like you were to me...All the best and good luck...Use your intuition...It'll be better when you get together again...on a better understanding of terms...Yuke...
2006-11-26 12:21:57 · answer #5 · answered by yukoneze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess that relationship between one year old is not that big of a deal but Children don't have anything to do about what grown up do, so just go to the party but stay firm in what you believe. Let her know you can be her friend as long as she do not involve you in her sport (gossip) People can be friends and not agree on some things, so, don't worry about it is just part of life
2006-11-26 12:16:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go for the kids. But it may also be a chance for her to, say, redeem herself. Maybe she wants to talk about something. As far as the drama goes, I don't like it either. Although I have friends with lots of it, I stay out of it. And you should, too. It would spare you the insanity, but you will still be able to be friends with her. Just blow it off when she starts talking about drama, or forget it immediately when she's done. No harm done. Good luck.
2006-11-26 12:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sonia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should bring your daughter..for your daughters sake..there will prob be so much excitement that people wont have time to gossip..if so hold your breath or just keep an eye on your daughter.. its only an hour and your daughter would have lots of fun..Let your ex friend know if it comes up, that you did it for your daughter and your relationship w her has not changed..
2006-11-26 12:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by mojogirl127 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go... show her that your the bigger person and won't let her affect your life... its at chucky cheese so there will be alot of people there not just her and her friends...
2006-11-26 12:20:36 · answer #9 · answered by Mexican Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"For the sake of your son" is exactly why you should not go! You don't like their behavior so why would you subject your son to people you do not want him to learn from?
2006-11-26 12:14:18 · answer #10 · answered by Mad_Anthony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋