Boy or Girl, why does it matter??

Question

I am pregnant with my third child, I am having a boy this time, we already have two girls. I don't understand how someone can get upset that they are having a baby of one sex, just because they wanted the other. With all of mine I was excited to find out what I was having, but even more overjoyed that the baby was healthy!!
We have decided that this is our last baby, and having two girls, I was shocked that we were having a boy. But we were all excited to have a boy, even though we all wanted another girl. Even my 4 year old wanted another baby sister, but can't stop telling people she is going to have a little brother. So my question is how can people even use the word 'depressed' because they are having a different sex then they wanted? With everything that could go wrong during pregnancy, shouldn't we all be happy that our babies are healthy?

I never said that anyonewas wrong to have the feelings that they have, I just don't understand it. That was my question, why do people feel like this, and since janyedoe knows so much she should have answered my questions instead of asking so many more!

Answer 1

I dont get it either. I have 3 boys and am pregnant with our 4th and just found out it is a girl. Were were absolutley shocked, because honestly I was expecing another boy after having 3 already. I actually had people come up to me and ask me if I was going to be upset if I found out its another boy. I just would tell them, no a baby is a baby as long as its healthy. I really want a girl,and this was going to be our last baby regardless of the sex, but a boy will be just as loved. I would nver have been upset or depressed if I had found out it was a boy. I dont understand how people can feel that way either.

Answer 2

I find out in a couple of weeks what we're having, and I really think it's a boy. I certainly won't be depressed, but I'm afraid that I'll be a little disappointed if it's a girl, just because I've gotten myself so worked up and convinced that it's a boy. (I've thought it was a boy since I found out, and several other people have told me that they think it's a boy too.) That being said, I might be sad for about 15 seconds, before I get to go to the store and start shopping for cute little dresses and such. At this point I just want to know what we're having so badly, and I am really hoping that he/she cooperates at the ultrasound. I can definitely see how people get disappointed if they don't get the gender they wanted, but it doesn't mean you love the child any less. And like someone else said, no one ever complains about it after the baby is born! Regardless of the gender any parent wants, what we all really care about is having a healthy, happy baby. Having a boy would just be icing on the cake for me.

Congrats on your third little one!

Answer 3

Speaking from my experience I now have 4 children but before that I had 2 boys and I was pregnant with my 3 child and I lost it and it was a girl. I was extremely depressed because I wanted to have a little girl. This is a natural feeling, especially when you lost your baby. I finally got pregnant again and I had a little girl, I was happy because it is normal to want something else if you already have it.

I recently had another baby on Nov. 2nd and it happens too be a boy and I am happy about that. I did prefer to have another girl because I already have 2 boys and 1 girl it would have been great if my daughter could have had a little sister. You should not judge people who react differently then you about pregnancy.

Everyone is different and you should not worry about it...

Answer 4

I agree with your idea, a healthy baby is a great baby, disregarding their gender. When my baby girl was born, I was glad she was the gender I was wanting and my husband didn't mind, but he did want to try again for a boy. Even though my girl was the gender I wanted, she wasn't healthy. She had a learning disorder and had many problems. She had so many surgeries during her first year. She's now 8 and learning slowly. She's suppose to be in 3rd grade, but she's in 2nd. Her first 5 years were her rough years, and when she's 10, she might need more surgery. I was so depressed of her bad health, we had another one. The baby is a boy, and once again, I did want another girl. But this boy wasn't like my little girl, this boy was healthy and no problems being born. I understand why people are so depressed because it isn't thier gender they want, but I've learned from my children that it isn't the gender, it's their health. My girl cost us so much money for her surgery, it was a hard time gaining more money to pay for her needs.

-Advice Chick

Answer 5

I agree, as long as the baby's healthy, what difference does it make. But you do hear a lot of people say "We wanted a boy, and were having a girl" or vice versa. I have never heard anyone say that after the baby is born. Once the newborn is here, they are so overwhelmed, they forget about what they wanted, and are tickled with what they got. I think when they use the word "depressed", there is a lot more to the picture, than blaming the sex of the baby, they are having................ps, congratulation on your soon to be newborn!

Answer 6

Myself and husband have had 4 girls in a row. I am now expecting baby number 5 with him and as you can imagine we would love a son. But reality is that I will get another little girl who I will love just as much as a boy because I am just grateful for this gift that god has given me. I can understand people get there hopes up for one sex but then when they meet there baby all they care about is if the child is healthy. If I have another daughter she will be treasured and if I have a son he will be treasured too.

Answer 7

That's how I feel about it now who cares. I felt like that when I got pregnant with my second he was a boy but I really wanted another girl. The day he was born I was so happy to have a little man. Also with my next one I could care less all I want is to have another beautiful healthy baby.

Answer 8

when i gave birth to my second daughter ppl asked me if i was disappointed that i didnt have a boy, omg i was so happy that i had a healthy baby i didnt care what it was,
ill never understand how you can be depressed when there are so many ppl who cant have a baby.
im with you 100% ppl should be happy to get the chance to have healthy pregnancies that end with a healthy baby, the sex really shouldnt matter x x x x

Answer 9

babies are just pooping and puking little squishy blobs of unconditional love. I had a girl, 29 months later I had a boy, and I was excited when I did the appendage count (5,5,5,5 and 1) and saw he was a boy after being told I was having another girl for 4 months. I was just so excited to meet him, so was his big sister!
Babies are precious gifts no matter what sex they are!

Answer 10

I have no idea. I have one boy and one girl. I wanted all boys. When I was pregnant with my second we found out at 18 weeks that we were having a girl and I cried with joy. I was so happy, I had no idea I would want a girl that much, but I loved her and still do 3 years later :)