should i get an abortion my partner wants me to get rid or he will go we have a 2 year old aswell i love him to bits but want this baby as well as him what shall i do i will be on my own i wont find no 1 else i have no friends due to wen i got preg at 15 i lost that one im 19 now hes 23 neally my daughter is 2 he thinks he wont cope
with another one help me plz im so upset
email me if u like on british_warrior_1987@yahoo.co.uk
2006-11-26 03:40:35 · 31 answers · asked by Rachel1987 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
plz stop telling me to go back to school because at the end of the day i can spell and write but its nothing to do with u.
2006-11-26 03:51:08 · update #1
The question is can you live with yourself if you do? Can you feel okay with what you have done? If you feel this is a life and that you would be killing a baby then i doubt you could deal with the consequences of having one. As for him if he cannot pay for the consequences of having sex without having protection maybe he needs fixed
2006-11-26 03:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by mommyblues78 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No dont get an abortion if you want the baby that much, tell him you want to keep the baby and its up to him what he whats to do. Dont get an abortion just because of him, also make sure u can afford one and will you be able to cope with 2 children under 5. And also you will find someone else who will love and look after u, I have 3 children from a previous relationship, he walked away because he couldn't cope. I now have a lovely man who took my children on as his own, i have been with him now for 8 years. We are even thinking of having a baby of our own. So dont give up hope, if he doesn't stick around then he isn't the guy for you, I'm sorry if that upsets you, but its the truth. If he didn't want another child then maybe he should of used protection. Take care xx
2006-11-26 03:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by susie ooozzz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day whatever your partner says it's your decision. I am older than you but I have a 2year old and am currently 27weeks pregnant.I'm starting to worry about how I am going to cope but we are women and that's what we do. My children both have the same dad and although we are no longer in a sexual relationship and we do not and have never lived together he still comes round and does stuff for me. Don't think you will always be on your own if he does decide to leave, you wont. I don't have friends but I talk and am meeting lots more people now I am going to mother and toddler groups. That's why I started using this site, I find it's my time and it make me feel human. You will be fine. You have done it once already. No one can tell you what to do as its your body, just think hard before you decide what to do. I don't think men realise what having an abortion is actually like and how it effects us.
Your old enough to have children and your old enough to make a decision on what is best for you.
Good luck.xx
2006-11-26 05:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by SARAH S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your partner should not leave you considering you both have a child together but you are young and I don't imagine that you both have good incomes. I don't know what your financial situation is but state help is not the answer and being a single mother is hard and stressful on you and the kids. He doesn't sound like someone who loves you and you need to do whats best for you and your children. Contact your state Health and humane services and continue school so you can get a job that will make you enough money to support your self and your child. You are only 19 and you have plenty of time to have children in the future. Education, money and you and your child now need to come first before you decide to continue making children.
2006-11-26 04:00:18 · answer #4 · answered by sara b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi your partner is bullying you and this is not how a healthy relationship should be ... personally either way i think you should go it alone as he sounds a bully and i expect you are scared what you need to do is think can you cope with another baby being on your own or can you cope on your own with one only you know the situation you are in a difficult situation try calling mariestopes for some advise it is confidental good luck xx
2006-11-26 05:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by sammie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get an abortion you would never live with yourself! that would be like killing someone like your daughter i think your children are far far more important than a man i know he might be the dad but he is not a very good one if he gives you this kind of ultimatum! when i got pregnant the first time my partner said he didnt want him and all that and i had my mind made up already so i said i would do it on my own and he came back running after a couple of weeks i am now pregnant with my second and he has no probs with it now as i think he still feels guilty from wanting to abort our 2 year old! i say choose the baby over him, if he really is a good father he will come back and support you! hope i helped! if you want to mail me you can at femsly@hotmail.com! good luck and be happy you are pregnant xxx
2006-11-26 04:21:07 · answer #6 · answered by mummy of 2 boys and a princess x 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you should do what is right for YOU ! Not him .. YOU! I would NEVER have an abortion. If he wants you to do that you should ask him if he also wants you to get rid of the 2 year old. Maybe that will put things into perspective for him. Good luck. I hope you dont do anything you will regret.
2006-11-26 03:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie. the best thing you can do is keep this baby. and i'm all for abortion. but you want this baby and if you abort you WILL regret it as its not what you really want to do. and i'll let you into a little secret. if you abort, you'll kill your relationship anyway cos you'll blame your boyfriend. i've got three kids and honestly you will cope, you find a way.its what everyone does. your boyfriend is panicking but once that beautiful baby is born he'll melt, and if he dont. you can do it on you own. if you want friends in the same situation spk to your midwife and she can put you in touch with groups who can help you. you wont be on your own. feel free to email me sweetie.
2006-11-26 04:36:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and have the baby, be a strong woman, and never look back. You will never regret it, but if you do anything else you will, he obviously doesn't really care about you. He is immature and so are you, which is why it is bad to have kids so young, however that is spilled milk and you have responsibilies now.
If he doesn't get it, then move on, YOU WILL find someone else who will love you for REAL... and your children too. But you can do it fine on your own, make your children the love of your life and dedicate it to them, you will have time for all that later when they are grown, they are only little a short time, look how short your childhood was. I pray you set a good example for your children so they grow up happy health individuals who are not co dependent on someone else for their happiness! God Bless.
2006-11-26 03:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by TaylorProud 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is a decision only you can make.My ex gave me achoice,have an abortion or he would leave when i was expecting my daughter,I chose to keep her and he didnt leave me then.At the end of the day you are the one who has to live with the decision,not himWhatever you decide I'm sure you will cope,good luck,I will be thinking of you.
2006-11-26 04:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by shell.7. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋