What do you think of the divorce situation in britain today?

Answer 1

I think it's better to be happily divorced than living a lie married to someone who treats you badly, like i did stupidly for 17 yrs, til one day i woke up and realised that actually i did deserve happiness and staying married to someone just because i had got married in church, was wrong, especially as really the way i had been treated, my ex had already broken his vows in the first year i married him!

Answer 2

I think that the divorce statistics illustrate the throw away culture that has become Britain today. Once something is broken, rather than try to fix it or come up with a solution to the problem, people are more than happy to "throw away" the relationship with a divorce.

Its part of the want everything for nothing culture that is unfortunately taking over. Very sad

Answer 3

Honestly...I think divorce is too easy to come by and its sickening!

If you think back to your grandparents and great grandparents, they would stick through and work through anything together, divorce wasn't mentioned as much back then, it was frowned upon.

I honestly think that divorce is an easy option these days, no-one wants to work out their problems, they could fall out over the stupidist of things like not putting their dirty clothes in the laundry basket and the next day file for a divorce, it's ridiculous.

Of course divorce if one or the other was unfaithful more that once or if there was physical abuse of any kind and they never changed or looked for help, there is no excuse for that but to spend all that money to get married, to just think "well if it doesn't work there is always divorce" just isn't right.

People should work on their relationships more these days, not just give up at the first hurdle, marriage should mean more.

Answer 4

i think its terrible, and being divorced myself, i think i can honestly say that it is very upsetting the amount of divorces there are toda. When u look at the amount of silver, Ruby and even Diamond wedding anniversaries are being celebrated, and look to the future, there will hardly be any. The best most people can do is between 5 and 10 years (if they lucky). I managed 6 years, before my ex went off with another woman leaving me with a 3, 1 and 6 week old. It is far too easy to walk away from responsibilties now, and such a shame. I look at my parents, happily married for 44 years, and feel upset that I will never do that.

Answer 5

This may sound odd but I think of the divorce rate as a good thing. Really. It means that individuals who are unhappy are trying to better their lives, and they're not letting their spouse stand in their way and continue to do rotten things to them without repercussions.

It's not divorce that's bad, it's bad behaviour that's bad. If one spouse is acting unreasonably, then divorce lets the other half get out and get on with their lives. Or if one or both spouses are simply no longer in love with their partner -- why is it somehow a good thing if they remain shackled to a dead corpse of a relationship? What purpose does it serve? It's not their fault they fell out of love. It would be cruel to deny them the chance to call it quits and try to find happiness on their own or with a new partner.

Why are 55 year marriages 'good' and 5 year marriages 'bad'? I've seen people married for a short time who did have a few quality years, and I've also seen people married for decades and perfectly miserable with each other. There's way too much focus on quantity of years rather than quality of years.
People seem to pretend like there's a great big prize waiting for those who have been married a long time. Sad truth is that there isn't.

I think marriage should be a 5-year-renewable contract. If you both continue to be happy, you renew that contract again and again. But if one or both of you are unhappy, you let the contract run out and you're free. It would not only help those spouses who don't know where to turn to get out of a bad relationship, it would keep both spouses on their toes -- no slobbing out and being a pain in the neck -- if they want to keep their partner happy and willing to get the next renewal.

Answer 6

british people don,t know how to handle preasure. they think that love is a game. women mostly do not respect the space of a man, all they want is to be given attention 24 hours a day and thus are like small children, of course this will lead to divorce because most women are too bossy with their husbands, where have you seen a married woman who does not usually cater for the husband,s needs like cooking and ironing, be the there when he needs her, all women wants is to make a husband behave like a woman, and they will be happy. they refuse to understand that men like to have space, be treated like the head of the house. that is why there is too much divorce in britain because women are too careless once they get married, they lose their independent, and start arguing with the husband, they think that once they are married they are in paradise. i am a woman my self and have been married for 15 years, i always attend married people,s clubs and hear what other women are saying about marriage. some times it hurts me more to think about how men are treated by their wives in britain, they are treated like they are part of children belonging to a woman, you find a woman with a small child and at the same time the husband is forced to baby sit the child who at the same time smells of breast milk, nappies not changed, and all, now this will intimidate the man because he is not supposed to smell breast milk from the baby, neither change nappies unless the woman have been in town or away on vacations. a man should never be allowed to smell like a baby, that is why they look for some one else who is better managed and organised, you find nappies and bottle lying every where, and the wife does not even smell clean. do you expect the husband to want you in bed? muslims respect their husbands, that is why you won,t find high divorce rates in a moslem society, africans respect their husbands too, and both society do not make a man do jobs of a woman in the house. only this western culture wants to bring in new rules for man which they call equality. i don,t expect my man to do all the house work,cleaning, child minding and all, a husband should only do small Repair works around the house, do gardening,and helps me do the shopping if he wants. but not look after the children. even in the bible God said a Man will work hard for his land, and a woman must suffer in labour. meaning a man,s place is to do hard work either in the garden or building houses etc, and a woman give birth and looks after the house. long time ago in the fifties, there were no high divorce rate in britain, because the role of the women in society in regards to house work is now different from today. and it was a good arrangement. let,s go back to the fifties, or other wise keep complaining about divorce and all.

Answer 7

used to be 1 in 4 = divorce, now i think its 1 in 3.
nuclear families dont exist any more, no one has and value or regard for relationships. Men and women are full of ego and crazy attitudes, no tolerance by anyone for anything. Co habitation is apparently the way forward.
To sum it up, the situation around divorce is dire. Marriage shd be made harder to obtain perhaps??
The legal profession is unjust in every respect.....folk say a divorce is merely a bargain match in the shadow of justice now a days.
What is the solution?.....who can say....who dares to say.

Answer 8

Its terrible, no doubt about it. There are probably many social and environmental factors to blame for the rise in the divorce rate, but at the end of the day, its a very individual thing. People should try to work on their problems before calling it a day, unless of course they've been abused or cheated on....

Answer 9

Take two lives
One is a mum who leaves her partner, takes her children and goes to the government for help. She gets help with just about everything imaginable.

The other is a mum who stays married, there is just about enough wages coming in but no help from government with anything else. Money has to last from one payday to the next, money only just covers extortionate bills and any shortfall comes out of the food bill - so mum will go hungry if necessary.

In reality these are the choices on offer.

Answer 10

Crikey- Aune m! Not sure about your answer - rambling on about breast milk etc!!!

I don't like the situation as much as anyone but having been divorced twice and married again now maybe i better stay quiet!