Let's say that you was living with someone for about 5 years. And you messed up and cheated on that person, no excuse for doing it, but you did it and your bf/bf moved out because of it. Now you feel really bad about it, you realize that you wished that you had never ever done it and wanted that person that you lived with back into your life. You would do anything to try to get them back and never cheat on them again. You realize that you really do love this person a lot even though you were stupid enough to cheat on them. How long would you keeping trying to get them back before you just give up trying? What all would you do to try to get them to come back to you? And no I am not the one that cheated. Just wondering how the cheater would handle this, knowing that they hurt someone that loved them and you want to make things right again between you and them again IF they will even take you back. As you have no clue if they will or not.
2006-11-26 03:31:29 · 18 answers · asked by SapphireB 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am not the one that cheated. Read what I wrote I AM NOT THE ONE THAT CHEATED!! I DO NOT BELIEVE IN CHEATING PERIOD!!
2006-11-26 03:37:30 · update #1
For all you folks out there that thinks it was me your WRONG it was him. I MOVED OUT All I wanted to know is How long would a you keep trying to get them back? And what would you do to try to get them back. Geeze people STAB ME IN THE BACK I'M THE VICTIM NOT HIM!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-26 03:44:49 · update #2
They need to give that person some space first of all - especially if they aren't ready to talk about it. The person is probably still hurt over the ordeal. I would try to be that persons friend first, and allow them time to heal. I would not smoother them with harrassing them to get back together as they probably aren't ready and will resent you more for forcing the issue. Give them time and space and let them come to you when they are ready to talk. Tell them when they are ready to talk that you will be there to listen.
2006-11-26 03:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Happened to me ten years ago. We are still together. I think you have to have your wifes complete support and promise that she would not do it again, And you have to believe that. If you haven`t got that then I would say it would be difficult to move on. I always say that love and trust go hand in hand and maybe if you can get the trust back then hopefully the deep love will come back. It is very hard work and sometimes any arguments can take you back to your bad times. The one positive thing to come out of it is the fact that I am a lot stronger, but it takes a long time, possibly years Good luck x
2016-04-13 00:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 27⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much time and efford you want to put on it. In most case, once you cheat, you lose trust, and trust is something that needs to be gained back by action, not words. Trust must be built over time, not over night. Say, if the guy moved out and basically he was disappointed, felt betrayed and pissed off, this may take a while. This may take weeks, months or never. See if this happened to me who was betrayed, I probably wouldn't wanna get back together. Even if I did and wanted to give him a chance, I may get back together, but he has lost the trust and the relationship will never be the same.
2006-11-26 03:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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If you do get back together, don't let the same issues that destroyed your relationship crop up again. Have a good, long talk about how you're both going to make it right this time.
2015-02-06 00:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
going back after that isn't something that you can sit down and work out.... if the people in question hang out at the same places then i recommend that the cheater be a good friend and flirty and kinda go back to the roots of how any person would attract any person.
but i know that five years together is a long time to turn around and get betrayed like that, so i know that i wouldn't go back to my cheating other no matter how great they looked and acted at a party or what-not.
but my only advice on trying to ploy them back in is to be subtle and emphasize the good qualities.
2006-11-26 03:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the person who cheated there problem was a reason for it. falling out of love, wanted to try, or to way their option. well that person got theres and this is what happen. and to say that there was no reason for it and did it anyway what does it say about the person, and if they might do it again. there is no trick or way to get the person that was hurt in the process to get back together. tak to him and see where his head at and if there is a chance for the two of them. but don't let the guy put you through s***(even though u may deserve it) because in the long run he won't trust and will make the relationship worse. he won't get over it and will test you, question you, and check up on you. think do you want to go through that!
2006-11-26 03:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by AC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A separation of about a year would be good. Let each person work on theme selves and see if the other has changed by their actions. Don't rush it. To live with someone who has cheated is extremely hard to do, that is why I recommend separation.
2006-11-26 03:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2015-02-09 08:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the person is not looking back at u and u r trying ur best 2 get someone back. I suggest u move on cuz u r doing everything 2 get the person back but if he doesn't care anymore then leave the situation and move on...
2006-11-26 03:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by Dark Side 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would apologize but I wouldn't try to get that person back because I know that if the situation were reversed there is nothing he could do to win me back
2006-11-26 03:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋