Ok so I am still freinds with my "so called best friend" (friends for 5 years) she has grown apart from me.. We use to hang out ALL THE TIME.. she dont care for my "soon to be my husband" (in sept 07') which has done nothing but made me very happy.. i had a baby 10mo ago.. and she never called me..she is always trying to find a way of getting out of things when I try to plan thigs to do with her. I dont get why your friends dont care about you once you are happy. Why are people like that?
2006-11-26 03:15:52 · 9 answers · asked by TIKI 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
is she single? she might just be jealous that you having a soon-to-be-husband, a baby, you're starting a family - maybe she wishes SHE could be happy, too.
2006-11-26 03:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by Cayleen O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got a fiance and a baby, is she still single and childless? If so, your lifestyle changes have taken you do different places. This isn't a bad thing, it's normal and everyone grows through relationships as thier lives evolve. By all means continue to offer to be part of her life and include her in yours, but don't get hung up if she doesn't want to participate as much as you'd like.
As a new mom, the support and interaction with other new mom's would probably be really rewarding. Try finding a group or activity where you can meet other women in the same place in thier lives as you are.
2006-11-26 11:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you both once meant to each other must have changed when you hooked up with your boyfriend/soon to be husband.
She is maybe jealous that you have a guy but she probably is more jealous that he has you, her once before best buddy. I would not be reactive or fuel it and allow time to help things. If you do still want this person's friendship then it may have a chance. Be the friend you can be to her and try not to allow her behavior influence you in not being a friend. This is common especially at your age. Congratulations on your up and coming Marriage!
2006-11-26 11:23:49 · answer #3 · answered by moire1111 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there may be something about him she doesn't like. but it's probably good old jealousy. you two have been best friends for five years and you didn't have to share. now she has to share. that may sound selfish but it's a natural response.
if you're that close, sit down and have an honest conversation about it. people don't realize how much angst can be avoided when they just ask the question point blank.
2006-11-26 11:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by Stella Bing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would honestly say that your "friend" is jealous of you. Your friends cant help but to be jealous of you when you are happy. Since they cant be happy, they dont want to see you happy because they feel like if you are their friend then you have to be in the same situation...i hate to say it but your friend sounds like the kind of person who would try to ruin your marrage so i would say get out of that friendship before it is too late.
2006-11-26 11:25:49 · answer #5 · answered by goodgirl_101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know your friends situation or history. It sounds as if she is a little envious of you. I am sure she is very happy for you. She prob would love to have your similar situation. Especially if she is in her mid twenties or older. She is prob dying to settle down but just hasnt yet. i wouldnt give up on her yet. i am sure once she marrried or has children you ll grow close again.
GOOD LUCK
2006-11-26 11:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Topstar01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you can't even get her to do something with you it doesn't sound like she would want to discuss the friendship. just take it as a loss that she is no longer your best friend but don't burn your bridges still keep her as a friend as one day she will realize that you are true friend to stick around even when she pushed you away.
if you can get her to talk ask her why she is so distant, could it be that she feels replaced? have a heart to heart talk when she is willing to listen
2006-11-26 11:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she tell you why she doesn't like your soon to be hubby? Maybe she knows of something and that is why. Keep trying - with her. Try to talk with her and see what the problem is.
2006-11-26 11:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not your friend anymore, you should stop considering her one, sometimes is fun to be friends with similar interests, but once they have kids and other kinds of responsibilities is easy to move on and find other people, those are not real friends. and I think she's one of them.
2006-11-26 11:20:43 · answer #9 · answered by Alma V 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋