my parents are REALLY protective of me bc my older sis made MANY mistakes i dont think t'his is fair me and my sis r nothing alike. i make straight A's i have manny friends and i barly do anything wrong. things that arnt fair.... they wont let me go to the mall with friends, they wont let me date, AND im nott aloud to have a myspace bc of HER mistakes.... what should i do!?!?!?!?!
2006-11-26 03:07:03 · 17 answers · asked by mrs. Tink 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Be glad your parents are learning from their mistakes, and be glad they care enough to demand something better frmo you than they did your sister.
You're life isnt unfair. You're fine, stop complaining.
2006-11-26 03:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try and tell your parents that you think this is unfair, if you feel so strongly about it. Chances are you won't reason so well in person, so plan an argument out and say it peacefully, or write a letter. And try to make them make some allowances- maybe you can have a myspace but they can monitor it, and they can take you and your friends to the mall, or your other friends parents can. Or maybe bargain some things- like you get a higher allowance for satying in, or get a lower one for going out. As for dating, maybe on group or supervised dates, or have the boy meet your parents. But if they still say no, wait a while and try again. Meanwhile, be the best daughter you can, or try and share more of your life with your parents- to show how good of a girl you are. It might also help if your sister straightened out (to show that her life is not wrecked).
good luck
2006-11-26 03:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a great idea not to let you have a myspace account, myspace is full of weirdo's and pedophiles just waiting for the chance, most of the people on there are very normal, but, there are some that aren't . Your parents are trying to protect you.Have a talk with your parents and remind them that you are not your sister, that you are more responsible and more mature and ask them if you could have more privileges and then prove to them that you can handle it, and they may loosen up. Later on in life you will appreciate your parents for caring so much for you.
2006-11-26 05:04:02 · answer #3 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard for parents to come to terms with the fact that children have to have a chance to make their own mistakes. They probably feel guilty and think they failed your sister in some way and don't want to risk it with you. I doubt they are acting like that just to make punish you for your sister's mistakes. They are doing what they think is best for you however misguided that may be.
Show them you are not like your sister. In a calm moment. When none of you are stressed or angry and when you have time to discuss it, ask them what their concerns are. Don't argue with them or try and persuade them they are wrong, just listen to them. Once you have got to the bottom of their real concerns try and put their minds at rest. Explain your point of view and your feelings. If things start to get heated just stop the conversation. That won't help any of you. If you can show them that, regardless of what they may think they have done wrong with you sister, with you they have been sucessful in bringing up a mature and sensible young woman, they may begin to revise their view.
2006-11-26 05:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My older sister did a few bad things, and my parents made sure I didn't do the same things as her. I never felt like they were being unfair though. They watched me and eventually trusted me enough to have a myspace account. I never wanted to date though. Boys asked and I sayed no, so they trusted me even more.
2006-11-26 04:18:07 · answer #5 · answered by Manx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I do agree with myspace because that is very dangerous. I don't know how old you are, but I've seen fifth and sixth graders alone at the mall. Congratulations on your straight As! As for your parents, you'll thank them someday.
2006-11-26 03:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by sweetsouthernsally 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to continue to make good decisions and then hope that they will allow you some freedoms. Be glad that your parents care enough to look out for you. I know it doesn't seem like it now but you will survive without those things and might be better off in the long run.
2006-11-26 03:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents were the same way. And when I was younger I thought they were being totally unfair too. But the fact is that they were just trying to protect me. I know that right now it seems unfair but when you are older and you far exceed your expectations for yourself you will be glad they did. Good luck and remember it is only for a while. Then you can do as you please.
2006-11-26 03:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They feel they failed your sister as parents. I raised my children as a single mom and when my daughter was about 9yrs old our neighbours 6yr old went missing only to be found brutally murdered by a local 17 yr old. I became over protective as well. My daughter is now 23 married and thanks me for being a good mom. We only want what is best for our children and this world isn't safe anymore.
2006-11-26 03:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by courtqua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but you sound like i did when i was younger trust me they are only looking out for your best interest they only want to protect you that's what parents do i know it's not good right now but you will thank them later on in your life.
they love you and want what's best for you
2006-11-26 03:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋