I''m 21 and pregnant with my 2nd child. it wasn't planned at all and my mom told me and my fiancee that we should be married before we have our next one... I feel like a huge disapointment. how should i tell her? do you think shes going to flip out? What should i do?
2006-11-26 02:54:52 · 13 answers · asked by babeydede 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Sinple. Tell her. WE are NOT mind readers, altho some of us think we are. We have NO idea how your mom will react. You won't know until you tell her. Either way, everything will be fine. Regardless if she flips out, she will calm down and eventually enjoy her new grand baby!
Relax, everything will be fine.
:)
2006-11-26 02:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by Boodie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going to be 21 about 1 month after our second child will be born. We were supposed to get married Feb 07 but I didn't want to be a pregnant bride I wanted to enjoy my wedding fully. Don't worry she will be excited for a new grandchild regaurdless. I understand how you feel, people in this world can be cruel and judgemental but all that matters is you are happy with your children and fiance.
2006-11-26 11:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by flaminfortune 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust me, she'll get over it. I get a lot of grief and guilt from my mom, too. When I was about your age I had to tell her that this is my life and I am going to live it the way I see fit. I told her that I was NOT her and that she lived her life the way she had to. I would tell you that you need to stop worrying about how to talk to your mom and start standing up for yourself! Unless your mom is financially supporting you and your existing baby you need to realize that this is your time . This guilt will kill you! You're an adult and no matter what she thinks you can tell her you appreciate her input but in the end you will make your own choices and she needs to either accept them and be supportive or you will not spend time with her.
Good luck!
2006-11-26 11:04:21 · answer #3 · answered by fastlanejiggy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just let her know it wasn't planned, things do happen. I am also 21 and pregnant with my 2nd baby from the same guy, my parents keep talking about marriage but we try to throw them off when they bring it up. It's not that we don't want to it's just we aren't ready for that yet, yeah although we are expecting our 2nd child but it wasn't planned things happen and we don't believe in abortion.
2006-11-26 11:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by 2Hott2Touch 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've had 5 children out of wedlock! She just wants you to be happy, so if you assure her that you are, and you are already engaged, I don't think she'll have a problem after the dust settles.
My family loves all my kids....getting married just because of a pregnancy or child is NOT the reason to get married. Try to explain to her the difference of loving the baby and loving the man who helped you make it.
2006-11-26 12:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Obviously ur mom's opinion means a lot to you - however, u are a grown woman and it's not like u were trying to get pregnant - accidents happen and this should be a happy accident especially if it's with someone u love.
Don't let this spoil ur joy of this moment - take her out for breakfast and tell her straight out - without being shameful, there's no need to be.
2006-11-26 11:02:04 · answer #6 · answered by alea_hc 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you could always go elope. Me and my husband did, and i wasnt even pregnant. We just didnt want the hassle of a wedding with our crazy families. THey were upset, but they got over it. That was three years ago, i miss not having a wedding.. BUT 20 bucks for the whole ordeal sure isnt bad at all.
just elope and tell her a few weeks after.
Either way it doesnt matter. You're an adult and make your own choices.
2006-11-26 11:04:21 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been here and although of course I was hoping my daughter would be married before having her 2nd, that all fails to mean anything as soon as you see that new baby. I am sure that she will forgive you and love your new baby as much as she does you and the first. Good luck and congratulations!
2006-11-26 11:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by slknspphr3645 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you do plan on marrying then do so NOW. Just tell your mom another bundle of joy is on the way. If she doesn't support you financially then let her vent. She'll get over it, eventually.
2006-11-26 10:59:00 · answer #9 · answered by pirulee 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hm. I think you should tell her.
Atleast try birth control first.
She shouldn't get too mad if you tell her straight on.
Make sure its in person, not in e-mail or telephone,
And tell your fiancee to wear a condom next time! LOL
2006-11-26 10:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by emily 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋