I have 2 daughters and grandchildren and their partners who want to have Xmas dinner with me. It would be nice for someone else to cook dinner for me for a change but don't want to let the kids down. And I don't actually mind as long as they do the washing up! But when I suggested my man came here too, I was met with a wall of silence by the girls. One likes him, the other one won't have anything to do with him. They say its up to me who I invite but I don't want an atmosphere on Xmas Day round the dinner table. I know its a while off yet but I'm a busy woman and have to get things organised in time so I'm not doing the headless chicken thing. Do I have dinner with my man and let the kids cook their own dinner, do i invite him and have an hour of awkwardness till the drink mellows them? or do something else, like ignore Xmas and go onto Boxing Day?
2006-11-26 02:46:39 · 13 answers · asked by PATRICIA L 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi. Look this is a no win situation for you. I know as I've been there.The best thing to do is ask your man to join you no matter what the situation is. Your kids have to get use to the idea that your have a life and you are entitled to be able to get on with it just as they do. They don't ask your permission as to who they date and don't expect you to be in a mood because of it. My partner and i nearly ended up apart when we tried to please everyone. You have to think of you and your boyfriend as he will be there for you when you need him and they wont as they have there own life to get on with AS you have. Good Luck and Merry Christmas and a happy new year
2006-11-26 06:13:33 · answer #1 · answered by steve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the one who doesn't really like him, tell her that this man makes you happy and that it should make her happy that you are "finally" enjoying someone elses company.
Just ask her to give him a chance because you would like them all to get to know each other and Xmas dinner seems to be the best time to do it. Ask her not to spoil the whole day for everyone by not joining in the conversation because your new man is there.
You just need to find a way to break the ice, you could always try to get them together for a few hours and build it up to Xmas day, like invite her over for a cuppa when he is there, don't make her feel that there is any pressure on her, just make sure she knows that you want her to give him a chance for you.
2006-11-26 04:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all. Living is beautiful. You need to thank God that you are still living with a right mind and a healthy body that abled you to get up and attend this function. To me you must have a self-esteem issue and think that there is compitetion for you on the age issue. No matter if you didnt tell or not you are still the age you are. So, it shoulldn't have bothered you at all. If you trying to hide it because of the males that attended trust me if you develop a relationship with any one you would have had to tell your age anyways. I mean people are you guys crazy. They have people get murdered everyday wishing that they would be living to even get asked that question. Now thats rude. (Being murdered). Come on lady get over that. Age doesnt define anything in life if you don't let it.
2016-05-23 04:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is such a shame that one of your children disaproves ofyour man comming to you for xmas. Yes i agree xmas is for your family, but isn't it time you were allowed a life too. Children are so selfish, they would rather come to you, let you do ll the work, because they're used to being spoilt. Cant you explain to the child that doesn't mind your boyfriend, that it would make you very happy on xmas day if he could join all of you for xmas, after all you accepted their partners, and are obviously cooking for them too, ask them if they could talk to the child who dissaproves of your boyfriend, after all why should you not enjoy your xmas day with a partner they are with theirs. I hope things work out allright, i dont see why your boyfriend cant be accepted by one of your offspring, children are just so selfish. Good luck!
2006-11-26 03:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by mazza999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should invite who you want to christmas. If they love you, they will come. It might be a little uncomfy but you got to start somewhere. I bet you have done things for your children that you didnt 100% like, its time they gave some of that back to you. You deserve it and you deserve to be with those you love and care for at Christmas time. If you want to be with this man, Christmas is the time to bring people together, who knows it may just work out nicely. Good Luck and Happy Holidays.
2006-11-26 03:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by jesswonderin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard when the people you love dont get along and you are put in the middle.Does your family have good reason not to like this person?I have put other people before my children and in the end the other person left and my family was still there, Family will always be there,but on the other hand if they dont like him just because he is in your life then that is wrong and I would think that they would love you enough to accept him and respect him out of the love they have for you! GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-26 03:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by Janie Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is really tricky because you dont want to upset anyone. why dont u ask your new man to cook dinner and invite all of your family as a peace offering to them and a get to know eachother session. nobody wants an argument on christmas day...i am sure they will keep the peace for your sake.
2006-11-26 02:50:25 · answer #7 · answered by Sazi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have Xmas day with your man and have the family to yours on Boxing day..
They have their own lives and you need one too.
Children can be very selfish but i am sure they will come to terms with things.
Dont lose out on your chance of happiness,
All the best.
2006-11-26 02:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by dancingcar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what you want you've raised your kids and no doubt deserve to have timeout let them celebrate by themselves youur a grown woman and have spent the last 20years making xmas special for the girls how about its time for someone to make it special 4 u
2006-11-27 07:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by jaydyne f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend Christmas day with your family only. You can have a small, nice dinner with him on Christmas eve.
2006-11-26 02:48:41 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋