I,ve been married 14 years.about 5months ago I found out my wife met someone on the internet ,a younger guy who was divorced after just 2 months of marriage(the reason why keeps changing as per my wife)I know she is also at fault but I explained that a man that hits on a married woman knowing shes married is not worth it.she was up north with her parents and so is he but about an hour away.she has snuck out to go see and spend the weekend with him 2 times while she was up there.she recently came home and we put my son in school and after 5 days I came home from work to find her things gone she abbandond the house.while she was here we were intemet with each other and she told me she was going to let him go.but as it turns out she had other plans.I'm not perfect only jesus was but I tried doing all the things that a husband should do because I'm in love with her and faithful to her.I cant believe shes willing to leave a solid foundation for something thats to good to be true.
2006-11-26 02:32:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She sounds like bad news. They both do. I'm so sorry for you and your child. You both deserve better. Sorry about the hurt that will go with it all!
2006-11-26 02:37:03 · answer #1 · answered by DivaDynamite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention how old your wife is, but is it possible that she's having a mid-life crisis of some sort? It seems very reckless of her to simply abandon you and the family for some guy she met on the internet. Is it possible that you could ask her to go to counseling with you? It sounds like you are ready to forgive her and try again. Another reason, she may have pursued this guy is that she is at a crossroads in her life. In other words, she may simply be bored or doesn't see much of a future for herself. Therefore, she's looking for a quick fix to make her feel young and wanted again. Keep the lines of communication open and hopefully after spending more time with that "internet lothario" she'll "wake" up and realize that the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence. Bravo to you for wanting to repair this sad breach in your marriage!
2006-11-26 02:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, he's not worth it. But neither is she, anymore. You need to leave her and find the women you deserve. A faithful husband deserves a faithful wife. i think if she is still cheating, even after you have tried to work things out, then she will ALWAYS be a cheater. And she will get whats coming to her. If he is hitting on a married woman now, then when they are 'together' he will do the same to her. It is just a big circle, and you should get out of it. Find a good women.
2006-11-26 02:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes......gotta love technology dont we. It can be our friend but it can also be our enemy. I think boredom draws women to the internet and unfortunately it can be very addicting. It is probably very fun and exciting for her and the attention these people give can be oh so flattering. In our marraiges sometimes we get way too comfy and we forget to date and to flatter our spouses. I have been there. Mine ended in divorce and being a stay at home mom I turned to internet dating to meet men. Boy were there a lot of creepy and manipulating men out there. I hope your wife doesnt run into one of these. I truly hope you two can work it out and I hope that she can see that she has a man that truly loves her. If not, dont be afraid to go out there and find someone that will appreciate you and love you unconditionally, everyone deserves that.
2006-11-26 03:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by jesswonderin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a huge difference between flirting and hitting on someone. Flirting can be the basically innocent banter that happens with waitresses in restaurants. Flirting with anyone, while fully understanding nothing will come of it can be fun. More than that, flirting is extremely flattering. Rather than being upset that it happens, perhaps you should invest some of your energy in flattering your wife as well. If your fear becomes that your partner is going to buy into some starnger flirting you need to get into some therapy quickly.
2016-03-29 09:27:07 · answer #5 · answered by Pamela 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that. No, I do not think a man who would hit on a married woman (or even a woman who is clearly in a relationship) trust worthy. Further more, I would find the married woman equally questionable, more so in fact. I understand you value your marriage and the vows you set before God but please for your sake and the sake of your child when your wife becomes bored with her boyfriend DO NOT TAKE HER BACK. If you truly feel compelled to do so, seek counseling before taking her back.
2006-11-26 02:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, he has no morals. Unfortunately, it doesn't sound like your wife does either.
You sound like a decent person, and you don't deserve what she has done to you. Its amazing that you're willing to forgive her and take her back. I applaud your faith in your love, and your commitment to your vows. If there is a chance you can get her to come back and go to counseling with you, go ahead an try. Its always worth it to try to save a marriage when there are children involved.
If she doesn't stop the cheating, you really don't have any chance. I wish you well, and I am sorry about how much she hurt you. Good luck.
2006-11-26 02:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but she is no better than he is, they are both trash. Even if he hit on her, it was up to her to tell him where to go, that she was not interested in him. She fell for his crap and that makes her as much of scum as him. She did not take her marriage vows serious and now she is cheating on you with him. You know what you do with the trash that is in your home, you put it in the garbage for the trash man to pick up. Well the trash man is picking her up. Find you a real woman, one that will not cheat on you at all. There is still a few...very few of us left out there that do not believe in cheating at all. There is no excuse in the world for cheating PERIOD.
2006-11-26 02:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No....Such man cannot be trusted and sorry to say but such woman who can cheat on her husband and son cannot be trusted too. I know it must be painful 4 u but just think.....if she comes to her senses and comes back, can u trust her???? Everytime she does something u'll always be suspicious and that will make u and ur wife's life hell. Rem that trust is like chinaware....once broken can be glued back but the crack will always be there.
2006-11-26 02:45:19 · answer #9 · answered by garfield 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man who hits on a married woman have one common characteristic. They are afraid of rejection. Married women offer a denial that the wussy man takes as "she's married" instead of " she is rejecting me" That way they never have to face themselves being rejected. They are cowards, but too stupid to even know it.
2006-11-26 07:24:55 · answer #10 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy is the scum of the earth. He is one of the lowest forms of life. Your wife will get tired of him and return to you if you let her. The key here is don't let her. Try to move on. She will have gone from 2 guys to 0 in notime.
2006-11-26 03:31:35 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋