I have started working for a while and it seems people are so fake. Drama queens. seem like good friend with you but did all the things to hurt you behind your back. I am losing my faith in people and getting more and more withdrawn from social life....it isn't right, is it? what shall I do?
2006-11-26 02:25:19 · 17 answers · asked by xxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
find better friends.
2006-11-26 02:27:30 · answer #1 · answered by question man 911 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't that sad!? But this has gone on for a long time. People just catch on quicker. The really sour people in the world can zero in on a genuine kind person in 0 seconds and "suck the life right out of you"! They feed on this, and their only destination is to be sure everyone is as unhappy as they are. Don't give up, though. Keep your defense up and take time to chose those that you want in your life. Even our best friends, we make in life, come with flaws like you and me. But the connection with these people is you and how you feel when you are around them. If you totally with drawl from the social life, you will hang out on the computer more, and these people in this world are 'good'! at making you believe what they want you to believe. It isn't right that 'faith' is a dying phase and virtue. If you want a friend, then check out my 360 or someones here at Yahoo and read about what others think of them and what goes on in their life. You can kinda of shop for friends on the computer with "360", "Hi-5" and "My Space". LOL But still don't buy 100 percent into the hype that is written. Keep 'faith' alive! :)
2006-11-26 11:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by smplyme132 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take this to heart. The only people you should have faith in is your mom and dad if they raised you to the point you are in right now. Other than that you should only trust people as far as you can see them. Because you have to think if they talk to you about someone you don't know then why wouldn't they do the same about you. Tell know one your business or your plans because in time you will see that most people are like crabs in a bucket. When one try to get out the others always try to keep him down or pull him back in the bucket. I hope this was a good example. Peace
2006-11-26 10:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by norval04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, you poor thing. I have the same problem.
A word of advice I can give you; it is your life. There maybe some people who are nice to you and try help you, but ultimatelly, it is yourself who will live until die.
I think the problem like you and I have become very common among people in these days... I am not saying this to make you feel better, but this is a fact.
If the world is going well, then why some people are worried if there will be a world war III erupting soon?
If your situation is too seriuos that you are in pain, then try have counseling therapy. It really helped to me.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-27 09:57:39 · answer #4 · answered by davegesprek 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is how life is and one thing I have found that when you are in a okay relationship and it goes bad people start to change from this I guess To word is called HARDEN and I think that is what happens to people and they start to get ugly and If I was you stay yourself and do not worry about those that get you upset just move on and you will find your group or the next things happens you are doing the same thing that you didn't like before playing game's or trying to control everything. It is good you see it stay out of it. It give you some thing to look forward to .
2006-11-26 10:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by isitreal1963 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true that people will always let you down. I think the key here is to not let yourself down...believe in yourself. The idea is to look within for satisfaction and not without.
Someone told me...be a thermostat...not a thermometer. Regulate the environment, don't just be a measure of it and go up and down when you see inconsistancies and injustice.
Realizing what you just noticed is a big step toward self development...its sort of a part of growing up...no matter how old you are. Some people are 80 years old before they really grow up and some people grow up at 14. Everyone is on their own time table...sounds like this is your moment!
2006-11-26 10:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you grow up in life you experience newer things, though others have known them for long. Back-stabbing, drama, etc. are basic features in any working environment - for the sole aim of any person is career growth - by hook or by crook. It's good that you have explored these realities quite early. Don't pay any heed to them and keep working sincerely because manipulation may take you up till a certain level, beyond which it's your sincerity and hard work alone that shines.
2006-11-26 10:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by keyman_o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a lot of faith in people either, until they grow to earn it. And even then, when people are not welcome into my "very enlightened circle" they become hateful and resentful, but all along I knew that's what kind of person (or people) that they were so I avoided them.
I think it best to navigate slowly and carefully. As was suggested, you are learning and this won't and should not stop your growth. It should increase your wisdom and it will take God, time, and faith to heal. All of that is possible if that is what you want for you.
2006-11-26 10:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by Aurora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are so fake, it took me till i was about 35 to realize just how uncaring, unfeeling people really are,they only care about themselves...If you don't think its that bad ,try this walk out of your house one day and ask people how their doing, you'll hear everything going on in their lives,and wont even think about you...Sorry you had to find out that people are really like that, but their are also true people with feelings for others,and those like you are the ones that lose faith...All I can say is be true to yourself and don't let them get to you... Good Luck....
2006-11-26 11:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand. Most people now are not worthy of respect and will stab you in the back. You are learning about life in today;s times. I would say to always guard against people, even if you think that they are friends. Most relationships are temporary. You can still enjoy, just keep them in their proper perspective. Good luck!
2006-11-26 10:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by James 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can spend your time with the people who love u ,like friends and family then ,u will have to study the people around ,u can know what makes them so mean after that ,u can choose the who will be your friend.
TAKE CARE
2006-11-26 10:47:10 · answer #11 · answered by the222boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋