Your married and you won't have a baby because you can't afford one?

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Your married and you won't have a baby because you can't afford one? My wife and I made 5 children because we love kids and wanted a big family. The American economic engine conspires to restrict our natural right to reproduce by creating economic obstacles. Many good people detour and heed the warning, thats a shame. This is not reckless - this is life. That same hand that conspires, will also give you what you need ( A.F.D.C, medicaid, etc ) Make a life, Make a family.. So much joy to be had! This GOV. can kiss my Azz! Comments?

Also, just wanted to thank all you working woman for putting the family on hold and opting for the career.. Thanks for paying the taxes that help my wife and I with the kids medicaid and health care costs..

Ruthie, while your worrying about prom dresses and computers - I'll playing catch with my sons and practicing family skits in the living room.. Growing up without the silver spoon builds character!

The money we would buy food with we save in her mothers name and son's name - that is for our vacations and a little bit saved for college.. We get food stamps to pay for all the food in the house. The church brings ice cream and milk to the house twice a week - some clothes too.. I use to work Real Estate and saved alot before I got married. I paid cash for the house were in.. A big old Victorian that has since dbled in value.. God, I love america!

Answer 1

Thought you might like to know..there's a word for people like you....L O S E R !!

Answer 2

I'm married and have no children because I can't afford to give them the kind of life they deserve. I don't want to rely on AFDC and medicaid to care for the children I will bring into this world. There are plenty of kids living below the poverty level, dealing with homelessness and going without the things they need because their parents wanted to reproduce. I think it's selfish of the parents. Kids don't ask to be born, and if we give them life, we should be prepared to provide for them, not count on our government to do it for us. That is one of the duties of a parent, that is your obligation as a father. And we all know that AFDC and medicaid arent going to buy your daughter a prom dress, or get your son the computer he needs to be successful in school. You seem reckless and more than a little selfish.Having children isn't all teddy bears and milk moustaches. There is joy, but also personal responsibility, which you seem to have overlooked. I wish you and your children all the best, and I hope you can give them the life they deserve, not just the life that you can get from our goverment. That is just surviving, not thriving.

I think you are ridiculous. You told me you are a clerk at Wal-mart and have 5 kids, it doesn't take a financial genius to figure out that your living paycheck to paycheck, which means college funds for your children are probably not in the budget. Try taking a skit and a game of catch down to the college campus to pay tuition. Get a clue. I'm guessing your kids will also end up in some dead end job, living paycheck to paycheck and they will have your lack of planning and foresight to thank for that. Yeah, your the best Dad in the World.

Answer 3

My husband and I will not have children until we feel financially secure enough to support them without feeling anxious about it. I think that's the kicker for most people. It's not that we don't want to have children until we can provide them the "life they deserve" (what infant or young child knows anything about wealth or class or "what they deserve"?). The issue is being comfortable enough with our financial situation to enter into parenthood without the added _stress_ of financial worries.

Parenting is stressful enough, and children deserve to be parented by people who can give them the emotional attention and resources they need. If I were constantly worried about my child's quality of health care if they got sick, whether I could afford their meds, how good their subsidized day care center was and whether the staff there was trained properly, where we were going to get the money for school clothes or groceries or the field trip or birthday presents or the thousand other things children need--If I was constantly worried about those things, well, I would not be parenting my child as well as I could. The stress, anxiety, and distraction would mean that my emotional resources were being directed AWAY from my child. I'm not comfortable with that.

Every potential parent has to make the decision that's right for them. If you're comfortable having children that strain your ability to support them financially, that's your perogative. I've never felt angry that my career helped to support the children of the less fortunate. That's partly what taxes are for, and if you can't support your children, that's very sad, but I'm happy to contribute, knowing that the same support is there for me if I need it some day. You just never know.

Answer 4

I don't think anyone should have more children than they can afford to support themselves. It isn't the responsibility of the government to support anyone. We should be able to support ourselves and our families. I would like to see these government programs eliminated. It has undermined this country and the American family. Our ancestors didn't ask for public assistance to get along. Some how, they made it. People used to help one another. Now, some look to the government for a handout. If you want to have a dozen children and you can afford to support them without a government handout, that is your business. Good for you. If you want to continue to have children and can't afford to support them without government assistance, then you need to find out what causes pregnancy and stop doing it. It is irresponsible behavior and is detrimental to the children and the country, as a whole.

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that is so true I got pregnant with my daughter a month after getting engaged and then i fell pregnant with my son just after we married and we want more! truth is we could only just support ourselves the first time let alone the second,but you get pregnant have the baby and somehow manage-you just do and i wouldn't change the circumstance one bit we love each other, we are happy and although Ive gone back to studying at the mo and am a stay at home mum (we live of my husbands measly wages)if i got pregnant tomorrow we would be ecstatic.people who wait to have enough money are just using delaying tactics.i can't give my kids all the material things in the world but they can have the love they want.

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I have two boys and would love to go for more BUT the aforementioned economic obstacle is but one reason that my husband and I will probably not have anymore kids. There are many some valid some could probably be worked out.

It is not our intention to to let the Gov't "take care" of us. It feels good and right to be able to provide for our family without utilizing gov't programs that are in place for people who truly need them.

God bless you and your family.

Answer 7

No, a lot of people want to be financially stable when they begin to have children, to insure that all there needs can be fulfilled without question, so they will never have to rely on State agencies and such to provide for their families.(Not that I'm knocking state agencies, even I have taken advantage of Medicaid for my son). But some people like the feeling that they can provide for their families by being both emotionally and financially stable, you shouldn't look down on people who like to plan.

Answer 8

You are a mooch and a terrible person, and your just trying to make people mad, I hope your kids get made fun of for being poor and you feel terrible

Answer 9

I want to grow my children with what i earn and not just wait till the government provides us with what we need. They are mine and so my responsibility...

Answer 10

it is a mess