Who was the hardest person to tell the truth to and why? Was it a tough decision to come out or did you just decide to be comfortable in your own skin and say to hell with everyone's opinion as life is too short to worry about what others think?
I have friends who are homosexual and they all had different answers so I am curious as to how you handled it personally.
2006-11-26 01:18:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
When I came out it was very difficult but only because I was afraid that I wouldn't be accepted anymore.
But that all changed. I first sat my mother down and explained it to her and waited for her reaction. She hugged me and kissed my cheek and said "Whatever makes you happy, makes me happy."
Although I don't really care what other people have to say to me - my family is a major part in my life and I just wanted to know that they were behind me with my choices. They love my current girlfriend and are happy that I have never been happier in life!
After having my mothers approval, I went on and told the rest of the family and got the same reaction from all of them.
2006-11-26 03:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by llsoinlovell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would like to tell you that I come from a conservative family and background. My parents are active leaders of a Catholic Charismatic Group and I was once a leader of a Youth Charismatic Group. Now imagine the difficulty of coming out and telling people who you are. In fact, before I fully accepted who I was, I tried to change - which is a stupid thing. I even announced it during one of my lectures that I am a reformed man already.
But then how can you deny yourself. So, I came clean - I told my parents that I am gay when they asked me. I don't deny it also to my friends in the Youth Group when they asked me. But I don't shout it loud for everyone. I answer them only when they asked me.
And why did I do that? I love myself and I only get to be myself once. I mean if I am not doing anything immoral, what is there to be ashamed of.
Peace!
2006-11-26 01:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by David 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My family was accepting from the beginning, so that part was easy. The hardest part was telling my best friend. A part of that was that it felt like I had been telling a lie all that time, so I had some guilt about that.
With my family I had been discussing my feelings for a year of two before I came out, so it wasn't as if I just blurted out one day that I was gay, and it wasn't a shock.
2006-11-26 01:23:11 · answer #3 · answered by Ax Me Anything 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the hardest was to tell my wife. I was scared that if I tell her she would leave me but now she understand that there is some things that she cannot provide for me on bed so she let me be who I am every once in a while. It's kinda weird because we both met the boyfriend I'm going to have and she let me know when it is appropriate to have sex with him.For the way that I carry myself you would never think about it, but if anyone ask me I just tell them the truth
2006-11-26 02:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father, because he's always been slightly homophobic. I even arranged somewhere else to stay the weekend I planned to tell him only to find out my mother had already told him.
It wasn't a hard decision for me; I felt like if I didn't come out I'd be stuck living a lie. They're still really, really hard words to say.
2006-11-26 03:01:15 · answer #5 · answered by Zeke 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have this one cousin who I still haven't "come out" to per se. I've never said anything right to his face about it, but I had come out to the rest of the family, so I just assume he heard from at least one of them already. Heck, it's been fifteen years now.
But anyway, I could never (at the time I was coming out) find it within myself to confront him about it. He and I had had many arguments over the years about various aspects of homosexuals being human beings and deserving of equal access to rights and what not. He had a friend in middle school who was murdered by John Wayne Gacy, so his idea of gays was completely twisted. (Not to mention the fact that Gacy wasn't even gay...not adult gay oriented ... if you understand that)
So my cousin had it in his head that all guys who molest boys were gay and that all gays molested little boys. Regardless of truth or fact.
He would agrue that gays shouldn't be allowed to raise kids, work near kids, have employment protections, certainly not marry or even allowed to exist in neighborhoods where there were kids without their identity being made public knowledge.
My cousin has never once apologized for his cruel words or the arguments we had over the years. He's now married and has asked me to babysit his son, which I declined stating I was busy that evening.
He has complimented me on how I've raised my son, asked me for parenting advise and whatnot and I always have a hard time talking to him now because of our history. Until he owns the cruel words he said about people like me, I have a really hard time forgiving him.
2006-11-26 02:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by DEATH 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I came out I really didn't care what anyone was thinking- I told my family(I didn't really care if they disowned me or not) and they were crying and such- the next months were annoying because they tried to give me books about guys who thought they were gay but found it was just a phase(bull right? My family still tries to keep me being gay under wraps but I tell everyone the truth when they ask me)- My friends didn't really care they just made jokes that I'm just saying i'm gay to get closer to girls and such- very fun!
2006-11-26 02:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it was my mom even though i know she would be supportive of me i just loved her so much i was scared but i did it and she is like my best friend and after she left my dad because he did not want me in his home anymore..bc of my sex orientation..she actually dated one of my lesbian friends for a while....its always hard honey but if it is what you are you have to be honest it will all work out for the best no matter how harsh it is in the begginning
2006-11-26 02:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋