please help i want to run away?

Question

I feelempty useless. It's better for me to run away of my current life than to die?? I have 1 wife and 2 child but I feel empty

Answer 1

Well, you can't run away from your wife and children. You have a responsibility to your family. You need to find out why you want to run away and then take steps to solve those problems. If your wife and you are not getting along, try marital counseling, either through your church or a mental health agency. If financial problems are getting you down, look for a good credit counseling service that will help you manage your bills and budget. If you feel unfilfilled in your job, consider taking classes to improve your job skills or engaging in a hobby you like which better utilizes your ability. Visit some churches and see if there are any that appeal to you, if you are of a religious nature. Join a volunteer group. Get involved in your children's school, sports, or hobbies. Take each child and spend time with them individually, then get a babysitter and spend time out of the home with your wife, even if it's just a walk in the park.

Do not run away, or that is all your children will remember, that you left them and their mother when they were small.

Answer 2

Mate, you are depressed. There is no shame in this, it is just an illness that can be cured. I felt the same a few years ago and wanted to run away from my life to get away from the dreadful feelings I had within me.

But the thing is, these feelings are not from an outside source. You have them within you and sad to say where ever you went the feelings would come with you. But don't despair, if you confront the feelings and their source, you can feel so much better.

Something has made you feel low, maybe it's a crappy job or a bad streak of luck or maybe it's just general blue funk. Whatever it is, go to a doctor, ask to see a counselor. Or talk to a good friend who will listen, or even a priest if you are religious. If you talk to your wife she may feel responsible and that's not good, in time you can talk to her but straight away is not good. So talk to someone else outside of your life about this first.

Besides which if you have a wife and children, they need you and you need to be well for them.

Hope you feel better soon.

Best of luck.

Answer 3

PLEASE don't do this...and I'll tell you so easily why.
I was where you are and the decision ate at me...I just kept thinking of all the hum drum things in everyday life...is this it? Thats all? But BEFORE I took the plunge I sought out a psychologist--met with him once and he gave me an assignment : Treat your actions like an algorythm
1Leave your family---and you still aren't happy?
2Leave your job and thats not it either
3Move away and no truth found there
4look into a mirror----the only left to consider is: Y O U

SO before you lose everything you have, consider the risk of trading away and NOT being happy---hindsight will not get your home back, nor your job, nor your wife and family---IF you are wrong about what is making youo unhappy.
I think everyone comes to this point in their lives---"Is this it"...what you do at that point is up to you...ME? I went back to school to find some greatness inme...because my unhappiness was more about me---as is most peoples. NOW if you and your wife have an ugly marriage, loveless, and fighting-if the idea of losing her FOREVER to someone else makes you feel nothing...then try a marriage counselor first so that years from now you can stand proud that you honored your marriage---stand as a mentor to your kids about what vows and promises are and look into that mirror without guilt.

Answer 4

Sorry, but what you seek is an impossibility.

WHEREVER YOU GO, THERE YOU ARE.


It is, though, better to make a tactical exit from your current situation than to opt for "the big one". Situations change, people change, what is unbearable today may be tolerable tomorrow, emptiness is a part of the human condition because no matter what, one person cannot share another's deepest being.


Not that religion is the answer, but consolation can be found in the Scriptures: "....for God is just, and will not tempt you beyond which you are able, and will make, with the temptation, a way for you to withstand it....." (I know that's not exactly how it goes, but the point is, there's always a solution to every worry, no mater how great.

Answer 5

It sounds like you are depressed- it may be a physical situation, so talk to your doctor first. Thoughts of escape and suicide sometimes go along with that feeling of emptyness. Also the feelings of not enjoying anything is a sign of depression. Get treatment so that you can immerge from this dark place so many of us go to from time to time.

You have to stop thinking of only yourself, and try to get better for your children and wife. If the marriage isn't working- try to make it work or end it. If your parental relationship isn't working, get some help so that you can better parent children.

Add meaning to your life! And if it's career related- go back to school and find a different profession. It may seem impossible, but it's not. People do it every day.

Answer 6

To abandon your current life would be selfish and irresponsible. Your obligation as a MAN is to sacrifice your selfish desires and impulses, so that your wife and children are provided for financially, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. When your first child was born everything suddenly ceased being about you and your happiness. Now it's about your family. Do you have the strength and resolution to do what is right?

Get counseling, change jobs, whatever. But if you leave your family, you are nothing more than SCUM. Don't place your feelings of inadequacy and emptiness over the welfare of your children. We all feel these things sometimes. When you have character, you tough it out.

Answer 7

you need to find out why you feel empty and useless...maybe you have clinical depression. get an evaluation...if you do, there are awesome medications to balance the chemicals that make you feel this way. it would be an act of cowardice to run away from your family. the grass is not always greener on the other side...you'll be taking your misery with you. it's not the least bit fair to your wife and children. they would think they did something wrong to make you go away, and they don't deserve that...they didn't ask to be brought into the world. you helped bring them here, and you owe them the respect of being the best father you can be. now take some kind of action to make yourself well.

Answer 8

Try talking to your wife and telling her exactly how you feel. Maybe even see if she is willing to go to counseling with you for support. Running away won't solve anything eventually your conscious and guilt will show its ugly face and you will have the burden of dealing with that in addition to the emptiness. Your wife is a part of you so she should know that something is troubling you. Confide in her and trust her. Remember why you got married in the first place. Your children need you also. Communication is the key.

Answer 9

Running away is not the anwser. My friend ran away and it never solved anything her parents have made her life hell bt she has sorted out everything now and they r much understanding.
If you want time away then go and clear your head bt you only get 1 life and chance @ life so don't go wasting it.

Have some time 2 urself and then face the music it can't be that bad.

Answer 10

how do you think your children would feel if their father ran out on them. I'd think that guy is like a coward. so dont be like him. its not fair to your family. running away wont solve anything. chances are you'll face your problems again, you'll just be running for the rest of your life. fix it now. why do you feel empty? answer that first. work it out, dont run away. good luck.